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numnum59
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koraks
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Maybe she's depressed because she's dependent and has no direction/purpose in her life? I'd be very unhappy if I were in her position. I need to do something that seems useful to me in order to be content. I think it's a pretty universal feeling, too.
Or perhaps she's just a bitch.
What was she like when you met her? Has she always been this way?
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numnum59
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Re: my wife [Re: koraks]
#19275536 - 12/14/13 04:46 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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koraks said: Maybe she's depressed because she's dependent and has no direction/purpose in her life? I'd be very unhappy if I were in her position. I need to do something that seems useful to me in order to be content. I think it's a pretty universal feeling, too.
Or perhaps she's just a bitch.
What was she like when you met her? Has she always been this way?
no its been just recently, since we've really gotten settled. she goes to school, online classes. but her life typically consist of.. vampire diaries, then cramming homework in 4-5 hours bfore its due(shes had a whole week to do it) then scoring c's or d's on her test and being pissed off about it. i cant communicate with her because anything i try to say to her is taken as im being a douche or im stupid and dont know what im talking about. i rarely ever get mad about anything, previous military training has taught me resiliency. but it is wearing on me having to come home from work every day, to someone i cant ever make happy.
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Shins
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[not appropriate]
Edited by tymoteusz3 (12/14/13 05:43 PM)
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pwnasaurus
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Re: my wife [Re: Shins]
#19275997 - 12/14/13 06:38 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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How old are you? How long have you guys been together (including before you were married)?
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memes
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she needs to get out the house.
cabin fever
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koraks
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Re: my wife [Re: memes]
#19277567 - 12/15/13 02:51 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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numnum59 said: previous military training has taught me resiliency.
It has also taught you discipline, and it seems that she's lacking just that, going by the homework thing.
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memes said: she needs to get out the house.
cabin fever
Also this!
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Re: my wife [Re: koraks]
#19277662 - 12/15/13 03:55 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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you cant make anyone happy op. either she is or shes in her own fucked up rut. maybe she could benefit from seeing a counselor/life coach. ive also found that alcohol makes anything negative like 10x more shitty. stop drinking for a while, hit up the gym, and just lead by example.
My gf is more prone to negative thinking patterns as well, but I have learned to be lighthearted about it all. over time i think she is beginning to pick up some of those habits and its been good for us. just live your life and be happy, and let her choose how she wants to live.
-------------------- notapillow said: "you are going about this endeavor all wrong. clear your mind of useless fear and concern. buy the ticket, take the ride, and all that.... " ChrisWho said: "It's all about the journey, not the destination."
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OP read this book and any man struggling with their partner or life in general. It has helped me a ton. Some of the question you have are answered and it will make perfect sense goodluck.
http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/way-of-the-superior-man-david-deida/1100623202
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Repertoire89
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Could be cheating, maybe its time to give up?
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numnum59
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Repertoire89 said: Could be cheating, maybe its time to give up?
i am 100% certain shes not lol
shes just a bitch :P
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Have you tried talking to her about this? It's not a conversation that I would look forward to having, but if she is aware of how you perceive her, than maybe she wouldn't bitch so much?
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Re: my wife [Re: 4HO-DMT]
#19280524 - 12/15/13 06:11 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I don;t ever respond to these thred but its so obvouse. Hey take your wife out on a date. Start doing stuff with her. Go to a movie. Take her out to dinner, I don't know go tag a water tower together.
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numnum59
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Re: my wife [Re: Eddeee]
#19280556 - 12/15/13 06:20 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Eddeee said: I don;t ever respond to these thred but its so obvouse. Hey take your wife out on a date. Start doing stuff with her. Go to a movie. Take her out to dinner, I don't know go tag a water tower together.
well thanks for responding to this thred eddeee
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zappaisgod
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And sometimes, simply as that, you do find yourself married to a whackadoo bitch. You wouldn't be the first, I can assure you.
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Maybe ask what's bothering her?
-------------------- "Inspiration ~ Move me brightly ~ light the song with sense and color ~ hold away despair ~ more than this I will not ask ~ faced with mysteries dark and vast ~ statements just seem vain at last" --Jerry Garcia, Terrapin Station "Officer, I'm going to remain silent, and I would like to speak with a lawyer. I'm not resisting, but I don't consent to any searches.
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Repertoire89
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Quote:
numnum59 said:
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Repertoire89 said: Could be cheating, maybe its time to give up?
i am 100% certain shes not lol
shes just a bitch :P

Well I'm glad you got that it was a joke
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