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usulpsychonaut


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Doubts
#19276851 - 12/14/13 10:30 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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What goes around comes around. Or treat others how you want to be treated. It is not working out. They all just treat me like worthless shit. Makes no difference what I do.
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Icelander
The Minstrel in the Gallery



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That's just not true. I treat you quite well here and you do the same for me. I find you to be a pretty great personality. There's a lot to like about you.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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bloodbrother778
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I think you're missing the point.
Doing the right thing is its own reward. You shouldn't do it so that others will treat you better for it, you should do it regardless of how they treat you. This is the test - how important is it really to you? Anyone can do something when they get rewarded for it, but can you still stand up for your principles if you get punished for them?
Take friendship for example. My take on it is that friends are not for having, friends are for being. In other words I can be a friend to you if I so choose, and then even if you mistreat me I know I did the right thing, it will simply make me think twice next time when I want to choose whether to be a friend to you or not - so that sort of negative action primarily hurts the doer of such action. I suggest just turning your head away from it - don't focus on the negativity, just walk away - or are you trying to use it as an excuse to not do the right thing?
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HeartAndMind


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cez

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If you abide by "treat others how you wish to be treated" and believe in "what goes around comes around" I would suggest the practice of "patience" into the mix as well.
A flower blossoms when it's ready. You try to make it blossom prematurely and it's ruined 
Stay on course and everything will happen as it should... ..I think
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dionysiandame
Mischievous Maenad


Registered: 08/27/13
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usulpsychonaut said: What goes around comes around. Or treat others how you want to be treated. It is not working out. They all just treat me like worthless shit. Makes no difference what I do.
*hugs* First and foremost, you have my empathy.
Now, I would ask myself why I'm attracting these kinds of people to me. I've been where you are, a few years ago even, and I can understand how you feel. I don't know you so take my words with a few grains of salt (here, Pink Himalayan...it's organic. LOL!) but I'd also look at past relationships. I was raised by a mother with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and she used me as her constant Narc Supply.
When I got older I found myself forming friendships and romantic relationships with people who had no interest in tending to me as a human being. It was all about what I could do for them, how I could make them look, what kind of cred they could get from being seen with me or associating with me and the treatment was often terrible. There was this constant back and forth (because Narcs will reel you in once you start to realize what's up and back away) that was emotionally draining and crippling. But that's what I was "used to." I thought that was "normal" for people not to be around me except to use me.
Do you have any relationships that may have set you up to be Narc Supply? A door mat? Or led to believe that being treated like shit is a prereq for love/acceptance?
Just something to ponder on.
The road to hell is often paved with the best intentions and that can include personal hells as well.
Once again *hugs* and bon chance!
-------------------- He (Dionysos) keeps me with all of his other pretty things for I am just another pretty thing in a long list of acquisitions. Yes! And their brains are releasing adrenaline, dopamine, even dimethyltryptamine from the pineal gland! This has serious educational value! Thanatophobia and this N.D.E. is giving us euphoric altered awareness! Don't you see, Princess? We were all born to die! – Finn the Human Pay me what you owe me. Don't act like you forgot. BBHMM.
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all this beauty
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Re: Doubts [Re: cez]
#19278716 - 12/15/13 10:49 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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cez said: A flower blossoms when it's ready. You try to make it blossom prematurely and it's ruined 
Nice.
Very ancient wisdom, that. The early Daoists spoke that. And they no doubt got it from those who came before them.
Patience is key. If you master "patience," you master life.
"If you want to follow the path of the saints, learn to forgive."
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Sse
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I'm with that 
holding grudges bring ya down
-------------------- "Springs of water welling from the fire" "Life may seem to flee in a moment, but when the mind is freed of the veil of ignorance, and illusion that comes between the mind and the truth, life and death are only opposite sides of the same coin - "water welling from the fire."
"Within us, we carry the world of no-birth and no-death. But we never touch it, because we live only with our notions." -Thich Nhat Hanh instant "Experience always goes beyond ideas"
Edited by Sse (12/17/13 03:38 PM)
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lessismore
Registered: 02/10/13
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bloodbrother778 said: I think you're missing the point.
Doing the right thing is its own reward. You shouldn't do it so that others will treat you better for it, you should do it regardless of how they treat you. This is the test - how important is it really to you? Anyone can do something when they get rewarded for it, but can you still stand up for your principles if you get punished for them?
Take friendship for example. My take on it is that friends are not for having, friends are for being. In other words I can be a friend to you if I so choose, and then even if you mistreat me I know I did the right thing, it will simply make me think twice next time when I want to choose whether to be a friend to you or not - so that sort of negative action primarily hurts the doer of such action. I suggest just turning your head away from it - don't focus on the negativity, just walk away - or are you trying to use it as an excuse to not do the right thing?
Yup agree with the first section
Karma is personal, if they treat you badly they will be punished by their own karma later
Forgive
and even love your enemy, see the good in them :-) you can chose who you interact with and who you dont
the greatest happiness is making/seeing others happy, it is the reward in itself
Edited by lessismore (12/17/13 03:45 PM)
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Chronic7
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all this beauty said: Patience is key. If you master "patience," you master life.
i love that
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