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Patlal
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Just went on a date, everything went really well
#19271715 - 12/13/13 05:15 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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We even kissed at the end.
Now I'm stuck where I always get stuck: I have a girlfriend if I want one. The question is, am I willing to sacrifice my solitude?
See the thing is, I'm a loner. I very happy loner.
How do I tell her that I don't mind having a girlfriend as long as she gives me space? Can I just say it like that? Probably not.
Please formulate a sentence for me that will politely and respectfully pass that message.
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Re: Just went on a date, everything went really well [Re: Patlal]
#19272082 - 12/13/13 07:09 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Patlal said: Please formulate a sentence for me that will politely and respectfully pass that message.
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Patlal said: I don't mind would like having a girlfriend as long as she they give me space. See the thing is, I'm a loner. I very happy loner. But i like you.
There, i used all your own words, just rearranged - and interjected a few throughout to make it an actual sentence conveying true emotion, and not a rearrangement of a drug forum post.
edit: when you finish the last word in "... but i like you", kiss her.
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Re: Just went on a date, everything went really well [Re: memes]
#19273350 - 12/14/13 03:03 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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You went on a date and now you have a girlfriend (should you want her)? You might as well continue to enjoy your solitude with that attitude...
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koraks
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Re: Just went on a date, everything went really well [Re: fbi365]
#19273354 - 12/14/13 03:07 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think he just means it's one of those crossroads where he has to decide which way to go...what 'attitude' is that? I call it a normal part of life to be aware that you have to make decisions.
I know what you mean, OP. If you like her, I'd just go with the flow and be clear that you need your own space to be happy. Just see where it goes.
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fbi365
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Re: Just went on a date, everything went really well [Re: koraks]
#19273361 - 12/14/13 03:12 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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you really don't have to make any decisions after a first, second, or third date. Really you don't have to make any decisions the first, second, or third month. You make the decision when you and her want to make that decision. Seems like you are pressuring yourself into it.
I would suggest not doing that...
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Re: Just went on a date, everything went really well [Re: fbi365]
#19273437 - 12/14/13 04:23 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Maybe you're not making The Decision after one date, but you're making decisions all the time. "Am I going to see this girl again?" It's something you decide on, no matter how passingly.
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Patlal
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Re: Just went on a date, everything went really well [Re: koraks]
#19273925 - 12/14/13 09:46 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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koraks said: I think he just means it's one of those crossroads where he has to decide which way to go...what 'attitude' is that? I call it a normal part of life to be aware that you have to make decisions.
I know what you mean, OP. If you like her, I'd just go with the flow and be clear that you need your own space to be happy. Just see where it goes.
Thats a great word for it. I'm at the crossroad.
Path on the right is me staying single
Path on the left is having a girlfriend.
Then again I say that I have a choice. It's only been one date, so it's entirely possible that I'm jumping the gun here. She might not have liked me as much as I think she did. She did say that there was going to be a second date though (or very clearly hinted it I should say).
I feel like I'm the only guy in the world not appreciating that I had a successful date. I guess it takes different people to make the world what it is.
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Re: Just went on a date, everything went really well [Re: Patlal]
#19273952 - 12/14/13 09:56 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Patlal said: I feel like I'm the only guy in the world not appreciating that I had a successful date.
No, you're not. I know exactly what you're talking about and so do thousands of guys. Don't worry about it. But I stand by my earlier advice: see where it goes. "Could have beens" are bad stuff for memories.
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Re: Just went on a date, everything went really well [Re: koraks]
#19273995 - 12/14/13 10:09 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Better to love and loose than never love I think it sounded..
a friend..a girlfriend.. a wife.. a soulmate.. or someone to share everything with..
the last being the most crawed.. though it is hard to find someone openminded enough.. let alone deep enough to connect with on such levels..
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Re: Just went on a date, everything went really well [Re: koraks]
#19274190 - 12/14/13 10:58 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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koraks said:
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Patlal said: I feel like I'm the only guy in the world not appreciating that I had a successful date.
No, you're not. I know exactly what you're talking about and so do thousands of guys. Don't worry about it. But I stand by my earlier advice: see where it goes. "Could have beens" are bad stuff for memories.
You'll know if she's girlfriend material and can respect your space over time. Just roll with it...
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Re: Just went on a date, everything went really well [Re: fbi365]
#19276261 - 12/14/13 07:34 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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i feel you man
i do want a gf, but when push comes to shove its really hard for me to do
relationships are so much work, being single is a million times easier
just tell her the truth
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Re: Just went on a date, everything went really well [Re: Patlal]
#19276284 - 12/14/13 07:41 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Don't mention needing space until you feel the actual need for space.....
No way having that conversation ends well until she has spent enough time with you to understand why you might say that. Not only because you define yourself as a loner, but I'm going to assume she isn't exactly smothering you if you just had your first kiss
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