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G/f texting another guy lately...
#19265583 - 12/12/13 12:33 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well, my GF of six months has been texting some guy pretty intimately for the past week, it doesn't sound good :/
It doesn't seem that she's mentioned to him that she has a BF, so I really don't feel any resent towards this dude... but they both keep talking about each others auras n shit... and how she 'felt something' the moment they met each other. Now they are going skating and shit in the next few days...
What pains me the most? The fact that I treat her so damn well and basically saved her ass because she didn't have a place to live, and have done so much for her. Also, we are moving into our own place in just 2 weeks which i've never done before with anyone, so it's a pretty big leap for the two of us. She always tells me how much she loves me, and how so many of her ex boyfriends have cheated on her etc. etc.
And now here I am... with this feeling of emptiness and betrayal, feeling that it's only a matter of short time before they sleep with eachother. I don't know what to do... obviously I don't want to just tell her that I read her txt message... but then again should I just wait for the imminent deed to be done before I say/do anything?
I've never had this feeling before, but man does it suck. I can't look at her the same anymore... feelsbadman.
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: foliocb] 1
#19265631 - 12/12/13 12:43 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Maybe you should rethink moving in with her if you think she may leave you?
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: Herbologist] 1
#19265672 - 12/12/13 12:52 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Six months is WAY too soon IMO to move in with someone. I have been in 4 long-term relationships and they all started to wane around the 1-2 year mark. I would personally wait at least 1.5 years - at that point you're generally out of the honeymoon phase of your relationship and really know if you guys click.
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: foliocb]
#19265884 - 12/12/13 01:41 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I think the fact that she's telling you is a good sign. I tend to be that other guy a lot and almost every single one of the girls I talk to and end up doing something with don't say anything about me to their boyfriends/fiances.
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: foliocb]
#19266379 - 12/12/13 03:26 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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foliocb said: obviously I don't want to just tell her that I read her txt message... but then again should I just wait for the imminent deed to be done before I say/do anything?
I've never had this feeling before, but man does it suck. I can't look at her the same anymore... feelsbadman.
just tell her you read her text messages, that you shouldn't have, but that what you found makes you uncertain and untrusting of her (even though, hypocritically, you read her texts - which makes you untrusting in the first place. i made this same self-fulfilling prophecy mistake 6months into my last long-term relationship. it ended in a similar fashion 3 years in).
don't move in with her.
just end it now 
if she and him get together, and they later break up and it seems as though you still want her and she wants you again/still, then go for it.... but it seems like at THIS juncture - she's got someone else on her mind and you've got mistrust and infidelity on yours: a dangerous pairing
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: memes] 3
#19266935 - 12/12/13 05:37 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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we broke up today :/
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: foliocb] 1
#19267025 - 12/12/13 06:00 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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but i'm glad you did it.
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: foliocb]
#19267148 - 12/12/13 06:29 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Shitty, but it had to happen. Now all ya have to do is dust yourself off & get back out there.
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: Dark_Star]
#19267497 - 12/12/13 07:29 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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she's cheating. that's what i do whenever i'm committing the act.
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19268586 - 12/12/13 11:15 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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You've cheated on guys you've been with? How do you usually go about it? I kinda wanna know so in case I'm ever being cheated on.
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19268594 - 12/12/13 11:17 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Feels bad man.
Right now I might be the douche.
There's a girl in town who always had a good "aura", just seemed genuine, nice, and pretty to boot, but I was always too scared to asked her out cause I wasn't in the best of time.
Recently I've been doing better, but she literally just started going out with this dude like within a month. I said fuckit, I'd still like to know her, and asked her to go see a concert with me.
I kept it friendly cause I don't want to deliberately split a relationship or anything, but she also made some comments like how she got paranoid the first time ever smoking with him last weekend and how its longish distance and they dont see eachother alot.
We had a great time and laughed alot and were friendly, but I went out of my way to not to cross any boundaries, or share anything about how I felt about her relationship which seemed iffy just to better my chances with her.
Basically I think the relationship might be doomed but do I be honest with her and possibly hurry it along, or just wait my turn?
I just don't know.
Sorry to hear your story man, and sorry to maybe be "that guy", feels bad, but such is life..
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: JPDancer]
#19268618 - 12/12/13 11:22 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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i said sorry bro man.
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: JPDancer] 1
#19268894 - 12/13/13 12:41 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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she insists that there isnt another dude she's pursuing currently. I decided to not bring up reading her txt messages, which basically shows her and some dude obviously flirt/sexting each other.
what's done is done I guess 
back to the drawing board it seems
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: foliocb] 3
#19268913 - 12/13/13 12:46 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Good for you OP. Be strong.
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: Anonymous #2] 3
#19268959 - 12/13/13 01:01 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Trust me its better it ended now.
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: Shins]
#19269525 - 12/13/13 06:36 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Good for you OP. Be strong.
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Shins said: Trust me its better it ended now.
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: Everything]
#19269580 - 12/13/13 07:06 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Just a lot of texting and facebook messaging, which I don't normally do when in a relationship...at least not when I'm with my S.O
i dunno, it'd be hard to catch me unless you went through my shit, and even then a lot of times some of it will be deleted

no sex, and other things could be a hint
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19269738 - 12/13/13 08:16 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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boom. how old are you op?
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Re: G/f texting another guy lately... [Re: unknown1123]
#19269829 - 12/13/13 08:52 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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u did the right thing tho. in that situation you HAVE to confront her
sucks man. bitches suck so fucking bad
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