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Where Do I Come From?
#19252282 - 12/09/13 08:09 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Okay so this might be a little longer for those who like it short and sweet.
My storySo it starts with this, my wife and I are visiting her mother. Wife's mother is very spiritual and is actually made a business of it(I'd rather not state my opinion concerning her spirituality/business). We got into the conversation of MAPS and then from there something bout blood type and diet. She said that some blood types have certain foods that dont really break down or gain anything, in fact, "hurt" you more than anything. I dont know if this is true or not. She(mother in law)asked what blood type I am. I answered I do not know. But I have given plasma plenty of times for some extra Herb money. She said they should have told me and this and that. She then asked me what my father and my mothers blood type is. By which I didnt know... She then said something that did sting a little bit which was "OH! Thats right you dont know your real father. You're either or. If your parents are both A+ then you're A+" I do not have anything against her when she said that. She means well. I must now state that I am adopted. I'm Adopted in the sense(short version) that my mother, got prego with me, Biological father did not want anything to do with the "situation", Mom fell in love with a fellow, who she married, had my sister, loved me so much that he adopted me in the 5th grade(I am in my late 20s now), mom is my real mom my dad is who I say is my dad, who is the man who fell in love with me and adopted me while married to my mom. Now this pulled on me all day today...Where do i come from? Do I have sisters? Brothers? Is he rich,a drug smuggler,a boring dude etc. I Have all these questions, big and small. Part of me thinks what I have thought all my life which is... "He didnt want anything to do with me, I dont want anything to do with him" or "Hes piece of shit" etc etc etc. What do my shroomery Brother and Sisters think of this crap that my mind is fucked with? Would you search for your biological father? forget it move on? what would you do? I love you. P.S. I Have been drinking monopolowa potato vodka. cheers.
-------------------- "Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth."-Henry David Thoreau MY ART Skip Divided What I See
Edited by BlindEye (12/09/13 08:12 PM)
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Re: Where Do I Come From? [Re: BlindEye]
#19252315 - 12/09/13 08:15 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Sucks that your biological father did that but at least you ended up with a father. Just treat the person who raised you and loves you as though he is responsible for your birth and forget about the other douchebag.
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Re: Where Do I Come From? [Re: BlindEye]
#19252327 - 12/09/13 08:17 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I've thought about looking for my bio father, but it never gets past a few internet searches.
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Re: Where Do I Come From? [Re: K1ngSp4de]
#19252333 - 12/09/13 08:19 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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K1ngSp4de said: I've thought about looking for my bio father, but it never gets past a few internet searches.
The only thing I know bout "him" is that his name is Michael and he's an asshole lol.
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You know deep down your thirst will not be quenched no matter how many times your drink from the well of satisfaction. Seek out what you know you want, brother. It's the only way to live.
Find happiness or sorrow it will be far more endearing to yourself not wallowing in regret. Regret, that's the true sober mindfuck, and dude I'm so not ready to get it on.
I found out a while ago my dad was dating a French girl in college near Ottawa. I guess when he got kicked out for retaliating too hard on some assholes on the rugby field, shit went south and he left. I guess she was knocked up at the time. He was 18, she was a little older. I've been working on finding something out the last couple weeks if I have an older sibling or not, but no luck so far.
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XLCaps said: You know deep down your thirst will not be quenched no matter how many times your drink from the well of satisfaction. Seek out what you know you want, brother. It's the only way to live.
Find happiness or sorrow it will be far more endearing to yourself not wallowing in regret. Regret, that's the true sober mindfuck, and dude I'm so not ready to get it on.
I found out a while ago my dad was dating a French girl in college near Ottawa. I guess when he got kicked out for retaliating too hard on some assholes on the rugby field, shit went south and he left. I guess she was knocked up at the time. He was 18, she was a little older. I've been working on finding something out the last couple weeks if I have an older sibling or not, but no luck so far.
The thing is this has been a thing that has gone through my mind one way or another. i dont have daddy issues or anything like that I think I'm just curious...I think that It might be time to just ask what his name is and go that far and then choose my path. left or right.
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Re: Where Do I Come From? [Re: BlindEye]
#19252414 - 12/09/13 08:36 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have his first and last name, could probably get a ssn from my mom. I have an older half brother I've never met too.
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Re: Where Do I Come From? [Re: BlindEye]
#19252613 - 12/09/13 09:14 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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OP, my man...
You should find out everything there is to find out about who you are, and where you come from.
You have this obligation for your future children, and their future children. You deserve to know the truth, and they deserve to know the truth.
My father did not find out he was adopted until he was in his late 60s. He never had the chance to find out who his real father was, what he was like, and why he did what he did.
I wish you luck, and I'm sure he had his reasons, whether they were justified, or not. There is always a reason why people do the things they do.
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Konichiwaffle said: OP, my man...
You should find out everything there is to find out about who you are, and where you come from.
You have this obligation for your future children, and their future children. You deserve to know the truth, and they deserve to know the truth.
My father did not find out he was adopted until he was in his late 60s. He never had the chance to find out who his real father was, what he was like, and why he did what he did.
I wish you luck, and I'm sure he had his reasons, whether they were justified, or not. There is always a reason why people do the things they do.
Is it natural that im afraid? im trying to be honest here. I advocate truth but this is hard.
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Re: Where Do I Come From? [Re: BlindEye]
#19252772 - 12/09/13 09:39 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Fear is always natural. Embrace it. No matter what happens, you tried and you know. No regrets. You need to know everything about yourself to know who you are. Do it for yourself and no one else, and don't forget that. If you do that you cannot be disappointed because it's a journey of knowledge not attainment, correct?
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Re: Where Do I Come From? [Re: BlindEye]
#19253127 - 12/09/13 10:59 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Afraid of where you might be from? I think that is normal. However, it still does not diminish what you have become.
You'll be alright. I'm sure you'll get plenty of help along the way.
*playful slug to OP's chin*
Go get 'em kiddo
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Re: Where Do I Come From? [Re: BlindEye] 1
#19253180 - 12/09/13 11:12 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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dude, im adopted at birth.. im thirty years old..
i cant remember my blood type.. dont really care..
havent ever set out to find my real parents.. dont care to..
i understand for whatever reason they put me up for adoption is one of their choice..
it isnt that big of a deal.
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Re: Where Do I Come From? [Re: rackem]
#19255642 - 12/10/13 02:20 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Thanks for all the responses last night. I dont know why the subject pulls on my heart strings so much.
I think the biggest reasons for me wanting to know is...
Health Issues that might later come up Brothers or Sisters Thats bout it.
As far as getting to know him, i dont think thats really where I'd like to go with it.
much love all
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Re: Where Do I Come From? [Re: BlindEye] 1
#19256382 - 12/10/13 05:05 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hug your stepfather and tell him he is your dad.
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Re: Where Do I Come From? [Re: zappaisgod]
#19259382 - 12/11/13 09:58 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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zappaisgod said: Hug your stepfather and tell him he is your dad.
He is my Dad. Since i was 3-4 He always been Dad
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