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So I think for some time now I've been on a little bit of an inner quest towards peace and coming to terms with my whole sense of self. I think it's a natural part of growing older that people can either embrace or try to run away from. I've come a long, long, long ways from the wreck I was about two years ago back so whoo 
Think tranquility, peace, open awareness, lsd, love, harmony, unity, softly-spoken words, gentle smiles, life vs. cocaine, heroin, meth, alcohol, hookers, guns, money, violence, struggle, robbery, yelling, death
The former of those things being representative of embracement/growth with the latter being escapism/degeneration. (Not that I was ever into any of the second-half of those examples)
Anyways, I'm wondering what ya'll here on the Shroomery feel about the whole idea of "finding yourself"? What is it that you value in life and are you thoroughly content with that? What do you REALLY care about? Who ARE you?
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fuck bitches get paper
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Re: Self-Development [Re: indica] 6
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OH DEAR!
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Re: Self-Development [Re: indica] 4
#19256162 - 12/10/13 04:18 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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one of the delphic maxims: know thyself
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Bump
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle] 3
#19262259 - 12/11/13 07:41 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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this thread gave me a happy feeling inside
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As an update, I've been totally on top of this shit
I'm sober the majority of the time, which gives my mind plenty of breathing room for learning and growing. I've been coming to terms with my full spectrum of emotions and thoughts, and working with the external world to put myself in a flow of harmony with others and whatever life can throw at me
On an unstoppable flow towards eternal positivity, I'm moving on up and nothing's gonna stop me anytime soon 
"Took a whole lotta tryin', Just to get up that hill. Now we're up in the big leagues, Gettin' our turn at bat."
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle] 4
#19295769 - 12/18/13 11:32 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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you should move to tibet and become guru sheekle, and then come back to shroomery and tell us tall tales of of your learned wisdom
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#19295779 - 12/18/13 11:34 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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So do you hippies have a job paying above min wage or what
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Uzziel] 3
#19295792 - 12/18/13 11:37 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Uzziel said: So do you hippies have a job paying above min wage or what

i get paid in love
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Legend] 3
#19295812 - 12/18/13 11:42 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Awaken The Giant Within is a pretty good read it sheds some light on things. I'm working to develop my self a bit too.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: brokentv] 4
#19295863 - 12/18/13 11:54 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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The other night I wrote a letter to myself describing all of my personality traits that I find admirable and good as a practice of harboring positivity and self-love
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle] 2
#19295928 - 12/19/13 12:11 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I've been meditating and cutting a lot of negative people out of my life. and I'll find myself asking myself in certain situations whether my environment is benefiting me in anyway.
like if I'm on facebook for 30 minutes reading negative jive, I'll ask myself that and I'll immediately go on a walk or read. Or if I'm at a friend's house and everyone's just playing videogames. or if I'm listening to a friend complain about other people.
Our genes are already determined. so the only things I have power over are my environment and how I choose to interpret it. So I strive to have the most beneficial environment and mindset at all times. Which calls for a lot of awareness.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle]
#19295933 - 12/19/13 12:14 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sheekle said: I've come a long, long, long ways from the wreck I was about two years ago back so whoo 
Think tranquility, peace, open awareness, lsd, love, harmony, unity, softly-spoken words, gentle smiles, life vs. cocaine, heroin, meth, alcohol, hookers, guns, money, violence, struggle, robbery, yelling, death
goddamn sheekle, you were into some serious shit two years ago. I can't even imagine you on meth and heroin fucking hookers, playing with guns and robbing people
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle] 2
#19295937 - 12/19/13 12:15 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sheekle said: The other night I wrote a letter to myself describing all of my personality traits that I find admirable and good as a practice of harboring positivity and self-love
did you do the opposite as well, like reflect on your possible negative traits?
wait
would that be bad?
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle]
#19296136 - 12/19/13 01:07 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sheekle said: The other night I wrote a letter to myself describing all of my personality traits that I find admirable and good as a practice of harboring positivity and self-love

this is such a good idea im gona do that thanks for the inspiration
i hope you put inspiring as a trait
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#19296139 - 12/19/13 01:08 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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that scene just made me want to shoot up heroin. thanks sheekle
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Sheekle said: The other night I wrote a letter to myself describing all of my personality traits that I find admirable and good as a practice of harboring positivity and self-love

this is such a good idea im gona do that thanks for the inspiration
i hope you put inspiring as a trait
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Legend] 1
#19296354 - 12/19/13 02:45 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Hey Sheekle, i totally get into self development. I got into it after my girlfriend and i broke up about a year and a half ago. It's really cool seeing someone else who's also doing it but from a complete different prospective. Personally i've just been developing better people and busness skills. I begun learning lots of psychology methods, and it's amazing how i've changed since then, and i'm quite sure i've only just begun on this adventure.
Good luck bro.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Magenta] 1
#19296364 - 12/19/13 02:49 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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know thyself , who am I inside? who am I outside? have I changed during my life? imagine peace , peace right now, peace to everyone around me
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I am here to make music because that's the only career I'd ever willingly do, and if other people like what I create, then great Nice thread sheekle it gets people thinking and stuff you're a good chap
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Who am I? I am my awareness.
Everything else: my personality, my appearance, and my mind; are all the result of circumstances applied to biological systems.
People never know who they are because they die having identified with these material and superficial things that they had little-to-no control over.
"You", as others perceive your likeness, are not the direct creation of yourself but rather a series of conditioned habits that resulted from the experiences and circumstances you were born into once applied to your bodies genetic expression.
You are only your awareness. Nothing more.
And this awareness is shared in all living things.
Man attempts to distance himself from the encompassing cosmos simply because he is "self aware". This is only a cognition that is the result of a developed cortex. It betrays man as much as it blesses him.
Damage the brain in a particular way; and the human is no longer self aware, but is simply aware. Some would call this a "vegetable".
So does a vegetable have a soul?
Well does it have an awareness?
In my eyes, they are the same thing.
The simplest thing that science currently cannot explain because it stems not from the material world.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Legend] 1
#19296904 - 12/19/13 07:34 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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i get paid in love
What's the exchange rate for bitcoins?
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle]
#19296958 - 12/19/13 07:53 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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self-improvement, Sheeks. one cannot develop themselves, one simply develops. the choices we make effect our lives, make good choices and the effects are more likely to be good.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: broken]
#19297221 - 12/19/13 09:28 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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choosing better decisions over bad ones you have making would be called self improvement, and you are thus developing yourself into a better person.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle]
#19297270 - 12/19/13 09:47 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Self-Development [Re: 404]
#19297496 - 12/19/13 10:47 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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StateOfMind404 said: choosing better decisions over bad ones you have making would be called self improvement, and you are thus developing yourself into a better person.
that's the best way of self-development IMO
stop doing what makes you unhappy start doing what makes you happy, keep doing it
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The tricky thing is that often the things that make us "happy" in the short term via sensory gratification eventually end up making us unhappy. I guess that's where wisdom comes into play. Wisdom mostly being gained by suffering.
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happiness is true happiness,joy
not sense pleasure which is only temporary and which you need something for
happiness you can repeat and be equally happy again if you once been happy in your life, you can often repeat that and be happy again
but yeah true, without knowing what is good or bad for you there is no way of navigating learning from mistakes/suffering seems to be needed
everything happens only when we are ready it seems
a wise man is a man who has made many mistakes :-) and now tries to avoid making the same mistakes
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i'm pretty sure the only way to self develope is u gotta watch evangelion.
i watched eva before i ever did drugs then fricken every acid trip i had was like the end of eva.
http://veehd.com/video/4689783_Neon-Genesis-Evangelion-E25-Do-you-love-me 10:00
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mio said: happiness is true happiness,joy
not sense pleasure which is only temporary and which you need something for
happiness you can repeat and be equally happy again if you once been happy in your life, you can often repeat that and be happy again
but yeah true, without knowing what is good or bad for you there is no way of navigating learning from mistakes/suffering seems to be needed
everything happens only when we are ready it seems
a wise man is a man who has made many mistakes :-) and now tries to avoid making the same mistakes
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle]
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here's a quote from Wyatt Woodsmall a famous speaker on neurolinguistics. he said: "In order to improve your self, you have to become not your self." I really like this quote. he's referring to how ego can get in the way of self development and how a person needs to be willing to do things differently instead of identifying them selves with their previous behaviour/thoughts
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Magenta]
#19298735 - 12/19/13 04:31 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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that's a good way of looking at things
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle]
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I don't think we need improvement because I heard that we're all just the chonky chonks that do the chonky chonk things.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle] 2
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when meditating/living in touch with nature, the self improves itself
the self knows exactly what it must do
meditate to become oneself walk in nature, psytrance/trance is great too
it is the love we have forgotten often love for oneself, love for all things
anything that brings back that love will help
as john lennon said: dance for peace, breathe for peace, eat for peace, make love for peace ;-)
if you dont want peace why should you get it, or even search for it but you can get peace at any moment, if you want peace, peace is now
you got everything you need
I want peace now :-P so I turn off my tv
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle]
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Self-improvement is a poor goal for most of us. We resolve every New Year's to lose that extra fifteen pounds by going to the gym every day, to quit drinking beer after we get home from work, etcetera etc... and a month later we're back to our same old habits and destructive routines. Sure, improvements are possible to one's lifestyle and they can make you a little happier.
But there's something far more worthwhile than self-improvement out there. It's called self-acceptance, and it's the key to lasting happiness. Being able to accept who you are, with all of your shortcomings and negative personality traits, is infinitely preferable to trying (and failing) to change yourself into an impossible ideal of the ego-created concept that is perfection.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: deCypher]
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You can accept what you have and still strive towards greaterness lol
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle]
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Duh. Acceptance is necessary before self-improvement is truly possible or most efficient, however, and most people have much more trouble with self-acceptance than with anything else, IMO.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: deCypher]
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ive been listening to ram dass audio lectures on my mp3 every day at work
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Envix]
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Alan Watts is also great if you haven't checked him out.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: deCypher]
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But there's something far more worthwhile than self-improvement out there. It's called self-acceptance, and it's the key to lasting happiness. Being able to accept who you are, with all of your shortcomings and negative personality traits, is infinitely preferable to trying (and failing) to change yourself into an impossible ideal of the ego-created concept that is perfection.
I disagree, self acceptance is part of self improvement, but it doesn't stop there, although it is the biggest step for some. Once you have accepted your self, you need yo identify not what you dislike about your self, but workout what you like about others and then logically considering why you couldn't have that too, and then if it seems you can logically have it, taking steps to achieve it. I put that in a metaphorically view with physical possession, but it applies to nonphysical things, including state of mind too.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Magenta]
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But there's something far more worthwhile than self-improvement out there. It's called self-acceptance, and it's the key to lasting happiness. Being able to accept who you are, with all of your shortcomings and negative personality traits, is infinitely preferable to trying (and failing) to change yourself into an impossible ideal of the ego-created concept that is perfection.
I disagree, self acceptance is part of self improvement, but it doesn't stop there, although it is the biggest step for some. Once you have accepted your self, you need yo identify not what you dislike about your self, but workout what you like about others and then logically considering why you couldn't have that too, and then if it seems you can logically have it, taking steps to achieve it. I put that in a metaphorically view with physical possession, but it applies to nonphysical things, including state of mind too.
this is how i understand the goal of life to be
recognition, acceptance, improve
you can't improve something until you accept the current conditions. you can't accept the current conditions until you recognize them
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I have to agree with accepting oneself before improving upon it, and before that, recognition. You need to realize that your current situation/ beliefs/ paradigms/ etc are an accumulation of all your past experiences. Who you are right now is a reflection of your past in a way. Once you recognize that you can accept who you are at the present moment and then decide to make improvements on yourself.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: x Ju x]
#19308021 - 12/21/13 01:16 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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the train tracks of karma are leading the train which is my body to my own salvation which is enjoying the train ride
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Re: Self-Development [Re: x Ju x]
#19308274 - 12/21/13 02:30 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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accept oneself accept others accept everything as is
everything starts with oneself, love and accept oneself and if that is not possible, realize why that is so
if we cannot accept ourself we must be doing something wrong
unconditional acceptance, unconditional love :-)
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Re: Self-Development [Re: deCypher]
#19310444 - 12/22/13 03:20 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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deCypher said: Self-improvement is a poor goal for most of us. We resolve every New Year's to lose that extra fifteen pounds by going to the gym every day, to quit drinking beer after we get home from work, etcetera etc... and a month later we're back to our same old habits and destructive routines. Sure, improvements are possible to one's lifestyle and they can make you a little happier.
But there's something far more worthwhile than self-improvement out there. It's called self-acceptance, and it's the key to lasting happiness. Being able to accept who you are, with all of your shortcomings and negative personality traits, is infinitely preferable to trying (and failing) to change yourself into an impossible ideal of the ego-created concept that is perfection.
that is the equivalent of quitting at life. or as Christopher Moore said in Island of the Sequined Love Nun: "Mud skipper thinking"
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Re: Self-Development [Re: broken] 1
#19310504 - 12/22/13 04:06 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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you mean winning at life
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Envix]
#19333376 - 12/27/13 03:23 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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So earlier today I was driving around by myself and looking off into the distance while some classic Grateful Dead tunes filled my ears and heart with warmth. I had the thought that self-development is mainly just like undoing the false development that we thought we were supposed to be doing all our lives. Untangling the web of deception and illusion which the world has suggested the way things should be, and coming back to terms with one's natural state of being.
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#19334422 - 12/27/13 08:36 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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but how do aspirations weave into self-development?
i think when one comes to accept the current circumstances, one becomes more inclined to act towards fulfilling such aspirations.
it would be more difficult to do so if you're caught up in the "what could be's" of life
cuz then ur spending all ur time thinking of what to do, instead of actually doin
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Envix]
#19334440 - 12/27/13 08:40 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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think positive, glass is half full not half empty
everything is what you think it is
that seems to go hand in hand with acceptance
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Sheekle]
#19334535 - 12/27/13 09:01 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Exercise , education, martial arts, lucid dreaming, meditation, psychedelic exploration, travel, romance and nature adventuration.
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Re: Self-Development [Re: Moonshoe]
#19334540 - 12/27/13 09:03 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Moonshoe said: Exercise , education, martial arts, lucid dreaming, meditation, psychedelic exploration, travel, romance and nature adventuration.
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