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lunarpiscean
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When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone
#19252686 - 12/09/13 09:27 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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but they don't get the hint....and you don't want to be mean. That's so frustrating because I normally end up having to be mean anyways or coming off as a complete bitch.
The struggle, right?
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Lynnch
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19252892 - 12/09/13 10:01 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sometimes you have to be mean.
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pwnasaurus
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: Lynnch]
#19252959 - 12/09/13 10:15 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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You don't have to be mean, you have to be honest. They are not the same thing.
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: Lynnch]
#19253084 - 12/09/13 10:47 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Umm...
you can always respectfully get your point across directly without being mean.
there are more options than just "giving hints" and "being mean"
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19253858 - 12/10/13 03:49 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I dont mean any disrespect, but I've often wondered why women see things the way they do and am suggesting that you already are being a complete bitch.
The fact is I have my players card. I've banged such a large number of women that you would probably be appalled by it. What is confusing to me here is how some women perceive my affection. I mean I've had girls I boned for a few weeks say shit like: i wish you wern't so over bearing, and then girls who ive done the exact same set of shit with say "you dont act like you care". Needless to say this criticism seems mindless as I am the least overbearing/careless person you will ever meet.
I had a chick friend once that fell under one of my strict 'do not fuck' categories; I saw her as a younger sister basically, and although crazy and naked in the same close proximity a few crazy nights i never felt the slightest urge to hook up with her. I was, however 'touchy/feely' with her, but like a close friend type way. One day she lost it on me and thought I wanted to bang her and it really stressed her out. I was promptly like WTF(?) no, and never put a finger on her again. It didn't harm our relationship at all really, but I was totally blindsided by that. She framed it all like I was weasling my way in and was going to try and scam her pussy at some weak moment. Sooo so so not the case. Im pretty sure I could have boned her multiple times, especially one of the drunk,skinny dipping on the beach nights. Now a few years later we laugh about what a bitch she was being, and how she has no legit doubt that I ever wanted to bang. I secretly wonder if it was the other way around and she wanted to try me out with no strings or somthing; I digress...
If she would have set shit straight with me early on, we would have avoided any blow up/head fuck, but instead she let something innocent irritate her causing us both grief. She admits she was being a self assured bitch by not opening up and questioning my touching. (ex: holding hips dancing, touching her arm in conversation- not frequently).
TLDR; if you want something from a guy the easy way to get it is ask, and not be a bitch about it (ie: public embarrassment.) If you ever seriously dated a guy, you should easily understand we dont take hints, and appreciate women who dont waste our time on foreplay. Fuck it, you probably wont get that.
You need to set things on the path you want them and quit being some defenseless whore in the midst of a ' i cant help myself because then guys wont like me ' crisis. Its obnoxious.
the end.

lol. Im just playin.
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19253994 - 12/10/13 05:35 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah be HONEST and not mean. I've thought girls have liked me before when really they didn't, but despite my advances none of them just honestly told me at one point that they don't fancy me. I could handle that, i'm sure this guy can. Just tell him "i honestly am not attracted to you, sorry, it's just how it is" and if he doesn't understand and give you a break, he's probably an irrational weirdo. So just be honest, don't insult him, and leave it at that.
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: psychodelia]
#19254023 - 12/10/13 05:54 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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the princess is back? 
And yeah, honesty.
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lunarpiscean
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: Murzelpfrumpft]
#19254215 - 12/10/13 07:38 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Men have "do not fuck" categories?
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19254271 - 12/10/13 08:05 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'm not saying: be mean, insult him. I'm saying that some people just don't get it no matter what you say, and sometimes you just can't be nice, so yea, sometimes you have to be mean- as opposed to nice.
Some people take "Hey, I really like you, but im just not interested in you that way" as "I really like you, try harder to change my mind." Sometimes you have to say "I do not like you, stop calling." Harsh, but the real truth.
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lunarpiscean said: Men have "do not fuck" categories? 
Oh yea we do. And we really really regret it when we end up fucking em.
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: Lynnch]
#19255286 - 12/10/13 12:50 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Saying anything other than "leave me alone" or something equivalent is just playing games with the other person. You can't expect someone to honor your request if you don't actually make a request. Being mean or avoiding someone is awful. From personal experience, nothing is worse than having someone treat you like a dick, hoping you'll go away. That's the way kids behave in middle school. Worse, are the people who don't say anything because they want to avoid confrontation at all cost - really, one of the worse personality defects you can have, IMO.
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: koods]
#19256469 - 12/10/13 05:22 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Politely put in a bullet in their heads.
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koods
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: Patlal]
#19256544 - 12/10/13 05:33 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Now you sound like an American. (Except for the "politely" part)
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NotSheekle said “if I believed she was 16 I would become unattracted to her”
Edited by koods (12/10/13 05:34 PM)
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19256571 - 12/10/13 05:39 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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lunarpiscean said: Men have "do not fuck" categories? 
Yeah, it includes our moms & sisters, that's about it...
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19258701 - 12/11/13 04:20 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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lunarpiscean said: Men have "do not fuck" categories? 
Yes, you know that cool guy that chicks are in to, but he doesn't give them any attention, thus driving them wild...
The first part of being that guy is not banging everything within view.
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19258720 - 12/11/13 04:32 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said:
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lunarpiscean said: Men have "do not fuck" categories? 
Yes, you know that cool guy that chicks are in to, but he doesn't give them any attention, thus driving them wild...
The first part of being that guy is not banging everything within view.
Or just be gay,
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Re: When you want somebody to leave you the fuck alone [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19258722 - 12/11/13 04:34 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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pwnasaurus said: You don't have to be mean, you have to be honest. They are not the same thing.
Exactly. "I appreciate it that you want to talk to/hang out with me, but I really have no interest in that. I'm sorry." Or just ignore them if they keep being pushy.
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