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Re: my nieghbor and i just got into a confrontation [Re: Konyap]
    #19252591 - 12/09/13 09:10 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

play super loud annoying techno, guitarists hate techno


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Re: my nieghbor and i just got into a confrontation [Re: Fuckspice]
    #19252700 - 12/09/13 09:29 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

yes I am I just realized that.im still angry.im a somewhat jesus loving person but yet it seems im a little high strung.im quitting weed today for good after 18 years of daily toking.its making me like this,and im not blameing the plant cannabis,but I think its compounding my problem even worse than beer(bad too)because I seem to get rebound anger or some shit.i plan on going to rehab and really working my program:sad:
id like to thank some of the people who pounded this realization in my head.i want to harmonize w/ humanity and ive been walking hard for too long,i am trying to humble myself


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Re: my nieghbor and i just got into a confrontation [Re: Doctor Sponge]
    #19252808 - 12/09/13 09:46 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

When I tried quitting weed, I found that I became a pretty bad alcoholic. I find weed to be way harmonious for my mental, physical, and spiritual well being. Everyone is different though. I just find alcohol definitely makes me more confrontational and edgy, even when I'm not immediately under the influence.


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Re: my nieghbor and i just got into a confrontation [Re: Fuckspice] * 1
    #19252956 - 12/09/13 10:14 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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Fuckspice said:
play super loud annoying techno, guitarists hate techno



:lolwut:

I play guitar and love techno too.  That's a ridiculous generalization.


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Re: my nieghbor and i just got into a confrontation [Re: Can-i-bus]
    #19253032 - 12/09/13 10:34 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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You should have just went to his door and talked to him instead of throwing a tantrum like a 4 year old.


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Re: my nieghbor and i just got into a confrontation [Re: pwnasaurus]
    #19253131 - 12/09/13 11:00 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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pwnasaurus said:
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Fuckspice said:
play super loud annoying techno, guitarists hate techno



:lolwut:

I play guitar and love techno too.  That's a ridiculous generalization.



so does he.i hear his gay ass techno music sometimes


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Re: my nieghbor and i just got into a confrontation [Re: Doctor Sponge] * 1
    #19254517 - 12/10/13 09:40 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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@sheekle yes and he said the same thing but why should i have to walk my ass down there in the cold and bang on his door when hes not getting the message w/ stomping.fuck i had to jump and stop for 15 minutes to get him 2 stop







That was very passive aggressive of you. But way, way on the aggressive side of "passive-aggressive."


Try to look at it this way for a minute:  This dude was playing his guitar. He may have been obnoxious, and inconsiderate, but unless you're leaving something out of your story (bad history between the two of you, etc) then chances are, he was just trying to do his thing, the way he wanted, to please himself. Inconsiderate? Yes. But not aggressive or too asshole-ish. In other words, it wasn't out of spite.


Yet you got angry. And started banging, and slamming things. And yours was out of spite. And it may have been obvious to him, as well. Or maybe it wasn't...


Why do you expect that he might not react to your banging and slamming, in the exact same way that you reacted to his guitar playing? In other words, with a bit of knee-jerk anger?



TBH if someone did that to me it would be on like donkey kong. I don't respond to aggressive passive aggression very well. In fact, pushed far enough I can rather flip out. I was in a situation similar (though definitely not the same) once upon a time. I live in an old house with thin ass walls. The way the house is situated, I have an apartment downstairs that almost perfectly mirrors mine. So his bedroom was right below mine. Now I lived in this house first, for a good year before he moved in. I tend to be mostly quiet, and keep to myself. Don't have tons of visitors. Mostly my brother, once in a while. Though i do live with my GF.


Now this situation is made even crazier by the fact that this dude and I were supposedly friends. We had hung out on numerous occasions. Usually smoking weed and talking, watching TV, playing video games. Occasionally blowing lines all night. When my GF moved in we hung out less often than we used to, but we still treated each other as pals.


Now, I mentioned that I mostly keep to myself. I'm also mostly quiet. I don't play loud music a lot. Barely ever, really. Once in a while when I'm cleaning, or working out, if I don't feel like using headphones. Which I normally do. By contrast, this guy was a very loud neighbor. He had friends over very regularly. Often to "party," (aka "get high.")  They played music a lot. They talked and laughed, and yelled very loud. I never, not once, not EVER complained to him about his noise. I could hear this asshole when he snored, and when he would wake up in the morning and yawn (which he does obnoxiously loud and exaggerated, BTW)... that's how goddamned thin these walls are. So if I can hear an exaggerated yawn from the bedroom downstairs, or occasional snoring, you can imagine how his yelling and laughing and playing loud music sounded....  Still, never a word from me..


Fast forward a bit, and I find myself going through a hard time. I turn into a complete insomniac. Eventually, he gets tired of hearing me walk around upstairs late at night or whatever, and starts pounding on the goddamned ceiling with something. I almost fucking snapped (keep in mind-- I'm awake at this point so much, so late, because I'm "having issues," in the first place. I've been nothing but good to him, and him getting passive aggressive was the last straw.) So I banged back. We're "friends"... I know some of your deep dark, stupid goddamned secrets, and you don't have the common courtesy to knock on my door, or send me a polite text if you want me to be quiet?  How 'bout... go fuck yourself?


This started a far-too-long passive aggressive noise war that I "won" when he started to pack his belongings into a moving truck not long after. I know I probably wasn't the total reason for him moving out. He'd talked about it a bit before our non-confrontational confrontation. But I imagine not wanting to deal with me was probably part of it.  Had he been any kind of a real man, or a decent person, or the friend he claimed to be, and simply talked to me, I would have tried to honor his request, despite the fact that he was a huge fucking hypocrite, and (prior to the "war") made about 1000 times the noise I did.

Instead he banged, and got "aggressive" with me during a time when that was a very, very stupid thing to do. He's lucky I didn't do worse... as I thought of doing a few times. (This kid was a bit of a bastard, for  someone who claimed to be a friend, and our history was a bit more complex than I've laid out here. But you get the gist of what I'm trying to say, I'm sure..)



Oh, and aside from a pretty kicking computer sound system with a decent sub-woofer (which i rarely use for music) I also have a pretty big amp, a guitar, and a bass. However, 90% of the time  (or more) I practice without the amp. Or I use my tiny practice amp, instead. I really do try to be a courteous neighbor. The new guy downstairs is okay. Almost as loud as the old guy. Not quite as bad. But he's not a massive hypocrite, either. Live and let live type stuff.



But IMO responding with aggression instead of civility could be a mistake. Especially if your neighbor is a generally friendly but overly-edgy fuck like me.


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Re: my nieghbor and i just got into a confrontation [Re: CidneyIndole]
    #19254522 - 12/10/13 09:41 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

lool shibe

so much tension

wow

much regret


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Re: my nieghbor and i just got into a confrontation [Re: Doctor Sponge]
    #19254565 - 12/10/13 09:52 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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learning sponge said:
so does he.i hear his gay ass techno music sometimes



:rolleyes:


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