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What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were?
#19246473 - 12/08/13 06:24 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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What does "Being a Man" mean to you? Whats the image you have set in your mind to live up to? What's a real man? In becoming maturer, what parts of boyhood have you parted with and which virtues of manhood have you embraced?
Would the boy you were be proud of who you have become? Are you more or less of a man than you perceive your father to have been at your current age?
Name traits you see as manly, good and bad, and discuss what role you see for men, in society.
Sorry girls, we need a guys moment here
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 1
#19246486 - 12/08/13 06:26 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I don't think I've ever really cared a great deal about trying to "be a man" or put much conscious thought into it
Umm but yeah I like to think I'm generally pretty good at dealing with life and keeping my head (mostly) straight through the good nd bad times so that's something to be proud about
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 4
#19246494 - 12/08/13 06:28 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Providing for yourself and your family and protecting them.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 6
#19246514 - 12/08/13 06:33 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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How can somebody in western culture ever be a man ahahahaahaha. 
We wake up, jump in our electronic boxes on wheels, drive to work, sit on a chair for about 6 hours, pick up a phone to order a pizza, come home, turn on our air conditioners, turn on our TVs, and all that crap. We don't hunt, we don't fight, we're completely separated from nature, we don't give two shits about the horrendous shit that's going on in other parts of the world, and we're as tamed as a golden retriever.
I hate people who consider themselves to be men. It's so laughable. "Look at me! I'm a man! Look at my beard and bushy eyebrows, I AM SERIOUS. I take things seriously. Yes, gah, I'm manly. I am a manly man man." Just stfu, we don't even know what existence is or why there are a billion galaxies just floating in empty space. Stop taking shit so seriously, you knob.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: zappaisgod]
#19246520 - 12/08/13 06:34 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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zappaisgod said: Providing for yourself and your family and protecting them.
Thats a solid answer and I see that as a significant part of manhood too.
I like to add to that a difference between the boy I was and the man I am is in attempting to take of responsibility for and if possible, master every factor in my life. This lays the foundations for the strength with which you provide and protect. There is a degree of benevolent dominance in that, in also taking responsibility over others.
Women have thos too, but in a different way I assume, I can't know the nuance of that as I am a man.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Alexestalex] 4
#19246526 - 12/08/13 06:35 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Alexestalex said: Stop taking shit so seriously, you knob.
It sounds like you should take your own advice man
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante]
#19246530 - 12/08/13 06:36 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Wiccan_Seeker said:
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zappaisgod said: Providing for yourself and your family and protecting them.
Thats a solid answer and I see that as a significant part of manhood too.
I like to add to that a difference between the boy I was and the man I am is in attempting to take of responsibility for and if possible, master every factor in my life. This lays the foundations for the strength with which you provide and protect. There is a degree of benevolent dominance in that, in also taking responsibility over others.
Women have thos too, but in a different way I assume, I can't know the nuance of that as I am a man.
yeah being there for others and sacrificing yourself is a definite big one too
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: zappaisgod]
#19246531 - 12/08/13 06:36 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Shit. I was just a kid I'd say 3 years ago. Lost friends, multiple cases of suicide attempts in my group, drugs, drug problems, relationship problems, and bad judgement brought me to where I am today. The only difference between then and now is how I feel. Don't know what that is but I know it's different. Being a man doesn't mean much to me, but making it to where I am today means a lot to me.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 3
#19246549 - 12/08/13 06:41 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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What does "Being a Man" mean to you? having a job and a wife and a house with a 2 car garage and 2 children a white picket fence and a gold watch after 50 years at a corporation where your soul is sucked out bit by bit as you decay under fluorescent lights 
Whats the image you have set in your mind to live up to? I don't allow anyone to fuck with me or what I want. If people piss me off, I go back to being alone. I don't really want much, just a decent place to live, a dog, and lots of time alone in nature.
In becoming maturer, what parts of boyhood have you parted with and which virtues of manhood have you embraced? I am, in many respects, similar to the boy I once was. I have the same sense of being alone in the world now as I did then. I still daydream a lot. I think and speak and live in my own way. Would the boy you were be proud of who you have become? Not sure. Are you more or less of a man than you perceive your father to have been at your current age? Equal 
Name traits you see as manly, good and bad, and discuss what role you see for men, in society. I'll forgo naming the traits but, men are just utilities for women in society.
But I see men as builders, destroyers, explorers, risk takers, adventurers, innovators, inventors, and jackasses.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 3
#19246588 - 12/08/13 06:49 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Being levelheaded/rational, confident and decisive, being able to say "no" and not get walked on by others and being able to care for and protect your loved ones are what being a man means to me.
I'm proud of who I've become. I don't know what my father was like when he was my age. Seeing how he left my brother and I to my mom to raise, I don't think he's much of a man.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: A Day InThe Life]
#19246601 - 12/08/13 06:51 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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A Day InThe Life said: Being levelheaded/rational, confident and decisive, being able to say "no" and not get walked on by others and being able to care for and protect your loved ones are what being a man means to me.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Sheekle] 2
#19246613 - 12/08/13 06:53 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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The word virtue is derived from the latin word vir, which means man. So I think a man of virtue is a true man. Selfless and altruistic.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19246616 - 12/08/13 06:54 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Bleeding. Shrugging it off and continuing to work.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 4
#19248349 - 12/09/13 01:13 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I hate the term because to me it's just a reference to all the masculine stereotypes which are far more confining and alienating than they are accurate. There are so many idiotic masculine stereotypes that men are pressured to conform to.
In terms of adulthood vs. childhood, the child version of me would be incredibly disappointed that I'm not rich, famous, and wildly successful. That's life though, isn't it? It's hard to compare myself with my father because we are so different. I'm a very different person from my father, but similar in odd ways.
Growing up is weird. How do you explain the changes to someone who is 18 or 20? There are so many changes. Knowing that you know nothing, instead of thinking you know everything. Becoming disillusioned with life and realizing the reality of the world we live in. Coming to understand the importance of family, especially your parents. Finally realizing all the shit your parents went through for years trying to make your life a paradise, and then realizing that you shit all over them for all those years they were trying so hard. Finally understanding how much you owe people for what you have. Fully understanding the importance of hard work. Realizing and accepting your own faults and failures instead of thinking you have none... Man, there's so much more than what I've listed here.
Being a child is like a state of total ignorance where you're so ignorant that you don't even realize how ignorant you are.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: nooneman]
#19248365 - 12/09/13 01:21 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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this threads got me thinkin and shiet.
For short society hugely factors in to what being a man is considered
to me being a man is minding your own not intentionally screwing anyone else over keeping your word gotta think about the other questions for a minute
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: thelanzii] 3
#19248371 - 12/09/13 01:24 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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For me it has meant owning my mistakes
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: ChinChiller]
#19248373 - 12/09/13 01:26 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Errolscool said: The word virtue is derived from the latin word vir, which means man. So I think a man of virtue is a true man. Selfless and altruistic.
ego prevents true altruism
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante]
#19248402 - 12/09/13 01:41 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think the biggest things that make up a man is his ability to respect other people and do your best to deal with people that don't reciprocate. Standing up for what you believe (to a point).
The biggest thing of all that I think makes a man is the ability to see things you can improve on in your life, and taking action. That is also the biggest thing that people do at an earlier age.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante]
#19248412 - 12/09/13 01:47 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Being a weird smelly ape with a chip on my shoulder and a smoldering pile of violent righteous acid covered by an exterior which must at all costs appear like I am unfazed and aloof from emotion.
What sets me apart is that I don't take pride in being a man. I used to care when I was a boy, but now that I am a man I could give a shit.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: moonrockmushy]
#19248418 - 12/09/13 01:50 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think being a man is having mature set of testicles and a penis
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19248422 - 12/09/13 01:52 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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i expected better from you luna…
oh wait no i didn't
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: dontknow]
#19248426 - 12/09/13 01:54 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19248436 - 12/09/13 01:58 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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My balls are very manly.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: thoughts]
#19248459 - 12/09/13 02:10 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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u got jokes
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: thelanzii] 1
#19248465 - 12/09/13 02:12 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Being physically active (sports, outdoors, being fit).
Living life in your own unique way, according to your own beliefs and truths.
Being confident (mainly so you're not needy and you don't have to prove anything).
Eating lots of good foods.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19248480 - 12/09/13 02:16 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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lunarpiscean said: u got jokes
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: thoughts]
#19248501 - 12/09/13 02:24 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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a/s/l lets have cyber sex via
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19248522 - 12/09/13 02:30 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Again??
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: thoughts]
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19248736 - 12/09/13 04:06 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Being your own person, while always taking the time for your friends and family. Understanding that the only person responsible for you is yourself.
My father had a very different view on what it is to be a man; to him it was work his ass off until it was time to hit the booze, and occasionally instead of taking time or having any sort of meaningful interaction with us, he just gave some cash.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante]
#19248747 - 12/09/13 04:09 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Eating the pussy. Yup, that's what separate the men from the boys.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante]
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#19248797 - 12/09/13 05:04 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Stepping up boldly, one put out his hand and said: "I was just a child then; now I'm only a man."
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 1
#19248861 - 12/09/13 05:55 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Being an authority and being in a position of power. In addition, taking care of your responsibilities: a house, the bills, and loved ones.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: badchad] 1
#19248870 - 12/09/13 06:02 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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self mastery.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Piecefillpath247] 1
#19248895 - 12/09/13 06:21 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Doing the right thing even if it comes at a personal cost.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: luvdemshrooms]
#19248993 - 12/09/13 07:10 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Being a man means nothing more to me than being anything else. I am not a man, i am not a student, i am not an american... beyond all that, i am. Plain and simple awareness of the phenomena, but why should i box the infinite in finite form. Those kind of dichotomies don't serve the reality of being, only the reality of expectations
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: JacksonMetaller] 1
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Being a man is taking responsibility for not only yourself but the actions of others, not just the ones you love. A man is willing to sacrifice his own wellbeing, to an extent, and to ensure to continuation of not only himself, but to peace and social dignity. A man is the one who is willing to step up and say no when the time is right, and to take hands in lead when you know it's the thing to do. A man should not have to battle or force himself to do these things, because he is a man and that's who he is, not what he makes himself. A true man is purity of heart and the power of will. Not only that, but a leader of meek, and himself. Nelson Mandela was a man. Saint? No, definitely not. But anybody who knows much of this beautiful soul knows there's much to be learned of being men from stories told such as his.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: larry.fisherman]
#19249095 - 12/09/13 08:07 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Being a man: What men used to be up until 40 years ago...
Now most us us are wusses that are afraid of a simple confrontation. I wouldn't be surprised if 40 years from now our dicks start falling off.
Were either fat, effeminate or cowards. Only a select few are real men.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante]
#19249134 - 12/09/13 08:28 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Being able to manipulate prostitutes to letting me fuck them without a condom, and being able to finish my entire plate full of food. Not being a pussy is probably the biggest part of it, doing the right thing even when you are scared.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: fapjack]
#19249156 - 12/09/13 08:39 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Honestly, a lot of these traits people are describing for being a man I find attractive in women as well.
Edited by A Day InThe Life (12/09/13 08:41 AM)
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante]
#19249284 - 12/09/13 09:34 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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In all seriousness i believe being man means being the pack leader.
Being in tune with yourself and your surroundings, taking ownership in the world, taking care of and providing for yourself and being able to provide for others.
Having the master plan.
Learning from your mistakes and constantly improving.
Being able to admit when you're wrong and owning up to your mistakes and fixing them.
But all in all being a dominant leader who knows what he's doing and where he's going.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: nooneman]
#19249549 - 12/09/13 10:58 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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nooneman said: I hate the term because to me it's just a reference to all the masculine stereotypes which are far more confining and alienating than they are accurate. There are so many idiotic masculine stereotypes that men are pressured to conform to.
In terms of adulthood vs. childhood, the child version of me would be incredibly disappointed that I'm not rich, famous, and wildly successful. That's life though, isn't it? It's hard to compare myself with my father because we are so different. I'm a very different person from my father, but similar in odd ways.
Growing up is weird. How do you explain the changes to someone who is 18 or 20? There are so many changes. Knowing that you know nothing, instead of thinking you know everything. Becoming disillusioned with life and realizing the reality of the world we live in. Coming to understand the importance of family, especially your parents. Finally realizing all the shit your parents went through for years trying to make your life a paradise, and then realizing that you shit all over them for all those years they were trying so hard. Finally understanding how much you owe people for what you have. Fully understanding the importance of hard work. Realizing and accepting your own faults and failures instead of thinking you have none... Man, there's so much more than what I've listed here.
Being a child is like a state of total ignorance where you're so ignorant that you don't even realize how ignorant you are.
"the shit your parents went through to make your life a paradise"
I wouldn't call my life an absolute "paradise" (I mean that's a REALLY powerful term) unless my parents were multimillionaires that just spoiled me with everything.
Adults decide to have children for a variety of reasons but these reasons tend to be fairly selfish. Some want to experience the joys of raising a child, some have children for the emotional and financial security that they'll (hopefully) provide the parents with when mommy and daddy become old farts, others get pregnant accidentally and decide to keep the baby. I don't fucking owe my parents anything, I didn't ask to be born.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Alexestalex]
#19249598 - 12/09/13 11:12 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Alexestalex said:
I wouldn't call my life an absolute "paradise" (I mean that's a REALLY powerful term) unless my parents were multimillionaires that just spoiled me with everything.
Why do people always think that this constitutes happiness? Take it from someone who lives on that side of the fence, I'm depressed as they come. But you all have fun discovering that for yourself. The only paradise you will ever find on this planet is from within
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: JacksonMetaller]
#19249652 - 12/09/13 11:24 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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For me it is doing the right thing whenever and wherever I can. You have to be a stand-up guy to be a man and that means you are responsible AND accountable for what goes on. Nobody to blame, you have to make it work yourself. It's about you.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: mpd]
#19250971 - 12/09/13 04:12 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 1
#19251076 - 12/09/13 04:30 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Large testicles...
That is all.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Larabar]
#19251095 - 12/09/13 04:35 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sole responsibility of myself.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Magicman69]
#19251510 - 12/09/13 05:54 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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My dad once told me that his father said to him that he would only recognize him as a man if he could beat him up in a fight. So, my dad started weight training, and running, and learning street fighting. My grandfather was a cop and a beastly motherfucker, too. And one day my dad was able to take him down and after having the shit beat out of him, my grandpa called him a man for the first time.
Sometime I'll beat the shit outta my dad, and I, too, will be a man.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: deCypher]
#19251581 - 12/09/13 06:04 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Being male and adult I suppose. I put little importance in 'being a man'. Plus I'm a pussy ha. Not that I see anything wrong with that.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante]
#19251850 - 12/09/13 06:48 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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zappaisgod said: Providing for yourself and your family and protecting them.
Thats a solid answer and I see that as a significant part of manhood too.
I like to add to that a difference between the boy I was and the man I am is in attempting to take of responsibility for and if possible, master every factor in my life. This lays the foundations for the strength with which you provide and protect. There is a degree of benevolent dominance in that, in also taking responsibility over others.
Women have thos too, but in a different way I assume, I can't know the nuance of that as I am a man.
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