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Asante
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What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were?
#19246473 - 12/08/13 06:24 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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What does "Being a Man" mean to you? Whats the image you have set in your mind to live up to? What's a real man? In becoming maturer, what parts of boyhood have you parted with and which virtues of manhood have you embraced?
Would the boy you were be proud of who you have become? Are you more or less of a man than you perceive your father to have been at your current age?
Name traits you see as manly, good and bad, and discuss what role you see for men, in society.
Sorry girls, we need a guys moment here
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 1
#19246486 - 12/08/13 06:26 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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I don't think I've ever really cared a great deal about trying to "be a man" or put much conscious thought into it
Umm but yeah I like to think I'm generally pretty good at dealing with life and keeping my head (mostly) straight through the good nd bad times so that's something to be proud about
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 4
#19246494 - 12/08/13 06:28 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Providing for yourself and your family and protecting them.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 6
#19246514 - 12/08/13 06:33 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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How can somebody in western culture ever be a man ahahahaahaha. 
We wake up, jump in our electronic boxes on wheels, drive to work, sit on a chair for about 6 hours, pick up a phone to order a pizza, come home, turn on our air conditioners, turn on our TVs, and all that crap. We don't hunt, we don't fight, we're completely separated from nature, we don't give two shits about the horrendous shit that's going on in other parts of the world, and we're as tamed as a golden retriever.
I hate people who consider themselves to be men. It's so laughable. "Look at me! I'm a man! Look at my beard and bushy eyebrows, I AM SERIOUS. I take things seriously. Yes, gah, I'm manly. I am a manly man man." Just stfu, we don't even know what existence is or why there are a billion galaxies just floating in empty space. Stop taking shit so seriously, you knob.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: zappaisgod]
#19246520 - 12/08/13 06:34 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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zappaisgod said: Providing for yourself and your family and protecting them.
Thats a solid answer and I see that as a significant part of manhood too.
I like to add to that a difference between the boy I was and the man I am is in attempting to take of responsibility for and if possible, master every factor in my life. This lays the foundations for the strength with which you provide and protect. There is a degree of benevolent dominance in that, in also taking responsibility over others.
Women have thos too, but in a different way I assume, I can't know the nuance of that as I am a man.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Alexestalex] 4
#19246526 - 12/08/13 06:35 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Alexestalex said: Stop taking shit so seriously, you knob.
It sounds like you should take your own advice man
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante]
#19246530 - 12/08/13 06:36 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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zappaisgod said: Providing for yourself and your family and protecting them.
Thats a solid answer and I see that as a significant part of manhood too.
I like to add to that a difference between the boy I was and the man I am is in attempting to take of responsibility for and if possible, master every factor in my life. This lays the foundations for the strength with which you provide and protect. There is a degree of benevolent dominance in that, in also taking responsibility over others.
Women have thos too, but in a different way I assume, I can't know the nuance of that as I am a man.
yeah being there for others and sacrificing yourself is a definite big one too
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: zappaisgod]
#19246531 - 12/08/13 06:36 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Shit. I was just a kid I'd say 3 years ago. Lost friends, multiple cases of suicide attempts in my group, drugs, drug problems, relationship problems, and bad judgement brought me to where I am today. The only difference between then and now is how I feel. Don't know what that is but I know it's different. Being a man doesn't mean much to me, but making it to where I am today means a lot to me.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 3
#19246549 - 12/08/13 06:41 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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What does "Being a Man" mean to you? having a job and a wife and a house with a 2 car garage and 2 children a white picket fence and a gold watch after 50 years at a corporation where your soul is sucked out bit by bit as you decay under fluorescent lights 
Whats the image you have set in your mind to live up to? I don't allow anyone to fuck with me or what I want. If people piss me off, I go back to being alone. I don't really want much, just a decent place to live, a dog, and lots of time alone in nature.
In becoming maturer, what parts of boyhood have you parted with and which virtues of manhood have you embraced? I am, in many respects, similar to the boy I once was. I have the same sense of being alone in the world now as I did then. I still daydream a lot. I think and speak and live in my own way. Would the boy you were be proud of who you have become? Not sure. Are you more or less of a man than you perceive your father to have been at your current age? Equal 
Name traits you see as manly, good and bad, and discuss what role you see for men, in society. I'll forgo naming the traits but, men are just utilities for women in society.
But I see men as builders, destroyers, explorers, risk takers, adventurers, innovators, inventors, and jackasses.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 3
#19246588 - 12/08/13 06:49 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Being levelheaded/rational, confident and decisive, being able to say "no" and not get walked on by others and being able to care for and protect your loved ones are what being a man means to me.
I'm proud of who I've become. I don't know what my father was like when he was my age. Seeing how he left my brother and I to my mom to raise, I don't think he's much of a man.
Edited by A Day InThe Life (12/08/13 06:50 PM)
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: A Day InThe Life]
#19246601 - 12/08/13 06:51 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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A Day InThe Life said: Being levelheaded/rational, confident and decisive, being able to say "no" and not get walked on by others and being able to care for and protect your loved ones are what being a man means to me.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Sheekle] 2
#19246613 - 12/08/13 06:53 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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The word virtue is derived from the latin word vir, which means man. So I think a man of virtue is a true man. Selfless and altruistic.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19246616 - 12/08/13 06:54 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Bleeding. Shrugging it off and continuing to work.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante] 4
#19248349 - 12/09/13 01:13 AM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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I hate the term because to me it's just a reference to all the masculine stereotypes which are far more confining and alienating than they are accurate. There are so many idiotic masculine stereotypes that men are pressured to conform to.
In terms of adulthood vs. childhood, the child version of me would be incredibly disappointed that I'm not rich, famous, and wildly successful. That's life though, isn't it? It's hard to compare myself with my father because we are so different. I'm a very different person from my father, but similar in odd ways.
Growing up is weird. How do you explain the changes to someone who is 18 or 20? There are so many changes. Knowing that you know nothing, instead of thinking you know everything. Becoming disillusioned with life and realizing the reality of the world we live in. Coming to understand the importance of family, especially your parents. Finally realizing all the shit your parents went through for years trying to make your life a paradise, and then realizing that you shit all over them for all those years they were trying so hard. Finally understanding how much you owe people for what you have. Fully understanding the importance of hard work. Realizing and accepting your own faults and failures instead of thinking you have none... Man, there's so much more than what I've listed here.
Being a child is like a state of total ignorance where you're so ignorant that you don't even realize how ignorant you are.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: nooneman]
#19248365 - 12/09/13 01:21 AM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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this threads got me thinkin and shiet.
For short society hugely factors in to what being a man is considered
to me being a man is minding your own not intentionally screwing anyone else over keeping your word gotta think about the other questions for a minute
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: thelanzii] 3
#19248371 - 12/09/13 01:24 AM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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For me it has meant owning my mistakes
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: ChinChiller]
#19248373 - 12/09/13 01:26 AM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Errolscool said: The word virtue is derived from the latin word vir, which means man. So I think a man of virtue is a true man. Selfless and altruistic.
ego prevents true altruism
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante]
#19248402 - 12/09/13 01:41 AM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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I think the biggest things that make up a man is his ability to respect other people and do your best to deal with people that don't reciprocate. Standing up for what you believe (to a point).
The biggest thing of all that I think makes a man is the ability to see things you can improve on in your life, and taking action. That is also the biggest thing that people do at an earlier age.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: Asante]
#19248412 - 12/09/13 01:47 AM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Being a weird smelly ape with a chip on my shoulder and a smoldering pile of violent righteous acid covered by an exterior which must at all costs appear like I am unfazed and aloof from emotion.
What sets me apart is that I don't take pride in being a man. I used to care when I was a boy, but now that I am a man I could give a shit.
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Re: What does "being a man" mean to you? What sets you apart from & puts you ahead of, the boy you were? [Re: moonrockmushy]
#19248418 - 12/09/13 01:50 AM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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I think being a man is having mature set of testicles and a penis
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