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thizzlemaniac
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Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol
#19234918 - 12/06/13 02:11 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I have a buddy who was up there with my dad and I for my wedding, he's a good friend. I know he's been down and out lately but he's been exaggerating his drinking hardcore everywhere he goes like it's the cool thing to do. Today he posted that it's his first day of no booze. I'm proud of him, but I know he doesn't drink as much as he claims.
I'm on day three of a no drinking challenge with st1llnox and my withdrawals are the normal shaky, vomiting, excessive, sweating. I've been loading up on xanax to make it through the day and work, but I'm not tooting my horn all over Facebook about it. It just shames me that my buddy is being a and going on about being clean one day on his Facebook wall. The reason I don't tell anyone about my problems or ask for help is because I figure people would laugh and think it's cool to drink a lot or they think I'm trying to be cool too and not help me out. st1llnox has been kind enough to join me on this adventure. I'm only 24 and people think it's funny when I tell them I need to quit drinking.
It seems like while I'm busy researching/worrying about seizures and having cold-sweats all day, my buddy is looking for the next group of people to impress. Am I right or am I just being a dick?
I'm not about to get on Facebook and do that dicks bigger or my problem is worse than yours. I'm sorry if this is a bit jumbled or long but it's not that bad.
Also, I've had a huge drinking problem since I knew this guy years ago when he was with a girl who wouldn't let him drink ever. Do I just need to go to bed or what?
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: thizzlemaniac]
#19234933 - 12/06/13 02:19 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Lol let him do whatever he wants man. That doesn't sound like something that would piss me off, I would actually think it was funny.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: thizzlemaniac]
#19234949 - 12/06/13 02:23 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Be careful quitting alcohol without medical supervision. That shit can fuck you up.
Also, yeah like mr sniffles said, its nothing that should bother you. He is more than likely going through a phase and will grow out of it.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: mr sniffles]
#19234968 - 12/06/13 02:29 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Most people in their mid-20s don't really understand what it's like, but they think they do. They think they drink a lot, and as a result they think they may have a problem. Not drinking is hard because they're used to it, and all their friends do it. It's not hard like "Wow, I didn't drink last night and now this morning I'm having actual physical withdrawals", it's just hard like "Man, normally right now I would be drinking, I would sure like a drink."
Around late last winter/early spring I came down off a nice long bender and for the first time ever had actual physical withdrawals (not bad, just a little shaky and felt just kinda off, as well as horrible anxiety). I realized then that while I had been drinking a lot for a few years, I was never seriously addicted. There had been times I thought I was, and I didn't think I could quit and shit like that. I still don't. But that was more of a lifestyle thing than physical addiction (which is what most of us mid-20 year old kids have). Luckily I also realized that I needed to cut way back or else shit would just get worse and it would go from a lifestyle thing to a serious addiction, so I dealt with the anxiety and feeling like shit for a few days to get everything back in check.
I realize it's probably frustrating to see someone making a big to-do about quitting when you're going through much worse. He just doesn't get it though.
But yeah, try to go to bed.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: LordSenate] 2
#19234974 - 12/06/13 02:32 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Or maybe he is putting it out there in hopes of getting some support from people in his endeavor. How do you know he does not drink that much? Are you with him 24 hours a day? You do not know what goes on behind closed doors.
Alcohol is a hell of a drug, one of the worst there is legal or illegal.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: jewunit] 1
#19235028 - 12/06/13 03:08 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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You and liquidglass are right. I drink when I get up almost every day and ALWAYS have at least one before work to ease anxiety....after work was another story. I quit drinking beer because it was useless. I guess there are cases a lot worse than mine, and I got a little bitter for no reason. No matter the situation I should always be there for my friend.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: thizzlemaniac]
#19235224 - 12/06/13 05:18 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Just be happy for him. I mean if he really is a friend. Maybe he feels like he's more likely to stay quit by documenting it on Facebook. Maybe he's looking for support. Quitting alcohol isn't easy for someone truly addicted to it. I know because I am one and had to quit because of what it turns me into. I think it's kind of sad that a true alcoholic would look down on anyone for quitting, saying they "don't really have a problem" just because the alcoholic drank more on a daily basis, rather than being supportive and understanding what that person is going through.
You wouldn't be the only one to have this attitude though.. I've seen it a few times. "You think you had a drinking problem? I drank xxx [greater] amount.. I had a problem" or "You think what you drank was a lot? Yeah well I was drinking xxx [greater] amount."
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: Shroomslip]
#19235269 - 12/06/13 05:50 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I don't know about your specific situation, but rehab statuses on facebook are generally annoying. All they ever do is blame drugs without taking any responsibility for their rampant abuse. Try to make themselves seem like perfect little angels who got taken down, when in reality half of them were kids with no aspirations before they even got into drugs. I'm not saying that's everyone who gets addicted, just the majority of the ones i've witnessed on facebook posting about it.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: thizzlemaniac]
#19235978 - 12/06/13 11:04 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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thizzlemaniac said: You and liquidglass are right. I drink when I get up almost every day and ALWAYS have at least one before work to ease anxiety....after work was another story. I quit drinking beer because it was useless. I guess there are cases a lot worse than mine, and I got a little bitter for no reason. No matter the situation I should always be there for my friend.
You, my friend are a alcoholic....no doubt. This will only get worse and never better. If you try cutting back and it doesn't work...then, I believe you have only one option ....abstinence. I say this because I am one, although sober for almost 15 years now...but, I know what you are feeling. In the mean time, try not to drink and drive....moms are really madd now and you may do something that you'll really regret . It really doesn't matter what I say or think anyway...you will have to take your own road.  M
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: thizzlemaniac]
#19236023 - 12/06/13 11:14 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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The only thing dumber than dumb shit on facebook is people coming on here to complain about dumb shit on facebook.
Yeah people post stupid shit on facebook. So what? People are scumbags. Get your priorities straight if anything anyone posts on facebook ever actually makes you angry.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: propensity]
#19236082 - 12/06/13 11:28 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think it could be helpful to document your days sober publicly. more support
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: JacksonMetaller]
#19236083 - 12/06/13 11:28 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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It seems like you over-reacted. (No judgment... quitting shit can make you moody, so you've got a built-in excuse )
You don't necessarily know how much he's been drinking. Some people hide it pretty well. And even if his problem is not as bad as yours, that's no reason to make light of it. A habit can be hard to break no matter who you are... even if some are worse than others. I've been addicted to IV heroin, methadone clinic for years, etc. And yet I wouldn't judge someone who was having a hard time getting off a few months of percocet addiction. It is hard no matter what. And we always think what we're going through, personally, is the worst stuff in the world (even though there is almost always something worse to be found somewhere out there...)
Plus, you may be looking at his motives from absolutely the wrong perspective. It helps some people to talk about it. And sharing a goal with friends and acquaintances is one technique people use to keep themselves honest and on-track (it's more embarrassing to go back to drinking when everyone you know has been told you're trying to quit) as well as find support, etc. Rather than just "bragging" or "looking for attention" which are usually the last things I'd consider, unless the person in question is known for that kind of behavior.
Good luck with things.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: propensity]
#19236099 - 12/06/13 11:33 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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propensity said: The only thing dumber than dumb shit on facebook is people coming on here to complain about dumb shit on facebook.
Yeah people post stupid shit on facebook. So what? People are scumbags. Get your priorities straight if anything anyone posts on facebook ever actually makes you angry.
I don't think him posting about it on Facebook was necessarily the point, but okay.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: thizzlemaniac]
#19236124 - 12/06/13 11:38 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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thizzlemaniac said: I guess there are cases a lot worse than mine, and I got a little bitter for no reason. No matter the situation I should always be there for my friend.
Yeah it kind of sounds like you were making this into a competition in your own mind. Your problem may be worse but essentially you are both pursuing the same goal.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: psi]
#19236200 - 12/06/13 11:52 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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OP, I really hope you can overcome this. Alcoholism is a disease and most true alcoholics need medical treatment to help quit. I'm not saying your a true alcy..that's up to you to decide.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: Magicman69]
#19236248 - 12/06/13 12:03 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Glamourizing quitting alcohol is possibly the smatest thing he could do.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: Patlal]
#19236271 - 12/06/13 12:08 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I blacked out for the first time last night and puked all over my carpet 
friends had to put me in my bed.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: jewunit]
#19236526 - 12/06/13 01:14 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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jewunit said:
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propensity said: The only thing dumber than dumb shit on facebook is people coming on here to complain about dumb shit on facebook.
Yeah people post stupid shit on facebook. So what? People are scumbags. Get your priorities straight if anything anyone posts on facebook ever actually makes you angry.
I don't think him posting about it on Facebook was necessarily the point, but okay.
He's drunk we sent him home....^
I just don't understand why someone would post their drug/alcohol problems on a site like Facebook where everyone can see your name if you really had a true problem. The post was not worded as a cry for help it was of a more look at me guys kind of post. I was pretty wasted last night when I made this so I wasn't in the best state of mind. Again, no matter what I'll stick by my friend and apologize to him later for making assumptions. If I'm wrong he will feel like a dick and I'll feel better for realizing the error of my ways.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: thizzlemaniac]
#19236613 - 12/06/13 01:35 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I definitely get where you are coming from OP. I have some 'acquaintances' on facebook and they have complained about how heroin ruined their lives etc. when they did all the shooting and ruined their own lives simply with heroin in hand.
The mid 20s is still somewhat childish in my opinion and people want to strut their stuff whether they deserve it or not. Some people may think it's manly to have alcoholism in their past and even more manly to be above it afterwards.
I would just continue doing your own thing and let your friend do his, whether he's making an ass of himself or not.
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Re: Friend of mine is trying to glamorize quitting alcohol [Re: Snotfish]
#19236855 - 12/06/13 02:28 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Maybe they're just different people with different views and just just don't like drugs as much as you but still understand why people like them, and feel a sense of accomplishment from saying no to something that like that. Like people who quit cigs and feel good when saying no. Maybe its not even big deal and you should just not get losses about what people do/say or how they act when it doesn't really matter at all.
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