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Patlal
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: Lynnch]
#19221353 - 12/03/13 10:00 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: Man, I get down on myself like that sometimes like "Damn, I'm practically still a kid." Then I realize "Hot damn, I'm practically still a kid! I'm gonna go drink a beer and spend some money recklessly without worrying about a wife and kids!"
All of the people around my age married with kids seem beat as fuck.
Family isn't the end all be all. Plenty of cool stuff to do out there. Just make sure you're working to live, not living to work.
You can choose to get divorced as easily as breaking up with a gf, but there is quite a bit of monetary entanglement etc to deal with (Which is why you don't need a lawyer when you break up with your gf...)
I agree. I feel as if I haven't grown up.
As for monatary entanglement of marriage. If I ever get married, I'll have a prenup for sure. If she doesn't want one, I ain't getting married and I'll be willing to break up over it.
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: Patlal] 1
#19221356 - 12/03/13 10:00 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Haha, suckers getting married young and having kids. I never understand people who do that, I understand even less people who sit there wishing they had that. Why tie yourself down at a young age? You are in your fuckin' prime man, live it. Keep your money, spend it on yourself. Yeah let me have this shitty little kid I can't support and then get this bitch to hate me within a few years cause I can't support my family and she ends up divorcing me, so now I have to pay fuckin' alimony and she's fucking my best friend in my house on my bed.
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: Patlal]
#19221361 - 12/03/13 10:02 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I can tell you that pre-nups can get WAY more complex than that. Usually they just protect assets your bringing into a marriage.
It's definitely monetary entanglement, even with a prenup.
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: badchad]
#19221653 - 12/03/13 11:26 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: Patlal]
#19221717 - 12/03/13 11:41 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Don't let it get to you, OP. There are many paths to maturity and yours is just different. Nothing more, nothing less. You'll find that special girl and settle down to strong relationship. You have a lot of positive attributes and those just need to shine through and you'll be good to go.
No worries!
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: Patlal]
#19221762 - 12/03/13 11:53 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Patlal said:
Which is better? Money, or a family?
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: Patlal] 1
#19221827 - 12/03/13 12:06 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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psi said: Why would you see yourself as "behind" for not doing things you had no intention of doing anyway?
I dunno man. Like I said earlier, I have a feeling that I'm not growing.
Most people get have kids and get married or stay together in long relationships.
I'm officially not in the "normal" spectrum of things. Not that being normal is of any importance in life (personally I feel that being outside the mold is better), but still. It kinda affects me.
"Most people get have kids and get married or stay together in long relationships."
That is not true, your perception of the world is flawed, just because a lot of people YOU know are doing the marriage thing, it doesn't mean "most people" are getting married and having children.
There is not a week that goes by when I don't hear from a parent or married person "don't ever have kids" or "don't ever get married".
Being a family man is a very huge responsibility, I know people that earn $150-200k per year and they are broke, the woman spends every penny, they get divorced, it's not a easy life, many times it ends up in tears.
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: Patlal]
#19221845 - 12/03/13 12:10 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Patlal said:
I fell behind...
I'd say that by having no kids of wife that you are ahead. But that's just me I guess.
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: Patlal]
#19221926 - 12/03/13 12:29 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hey OP, have you been getting invited to weddings?
I'm 28 and feel a lot of the same things right now in life. Sucks watching all of my friends get married.
I think in 5 years or so I'll be ready to make a commitment like that that. Right in time for my friends to be getting divorced. 
I'm a groomsman in a couple wedding coming up in 2014. Will be fun to hit on bridesmaids at least.
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: Patlal] 1
#19222027 - 12/03/13 12:46 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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You're ahead. Do the environment a favor and don't spread this disease....I mean humanity by having a kid.
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: i like cow poo] 3
#19222078 - 12/03/13 12:54 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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There's no such thing as being behind in life. Social-engineering is a mother fucker.
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: Patlal]
#19222175 - 12/03/13 01:09 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Patlal said:
As for monatary entanglement of marriage. If I ever get married, I'll have a prenup for sure. If she doesn't want one, I ain't getting married and I'll be willing to break up over it.
You are so fucked in marriage if you want a prenup. I have to think you have trust issues or are planning on a divorce. Only one way to have a good marriage and that is to be transparent.
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: blackdust]
#19222187 - 12/03/13 01:13 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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meh 50% of people get divorced
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: i like cow poo] 1
#19222224 - 12/03/13 01:20 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Maybe, you are ahead because you are living life at your own pace, doing the things that you want...
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: i like cow poo]
#19222237 - 12/03/13 01:24 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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i like cow poo said: meh 50% of people get divorced
must of had prenup's or separate bank accounts/lives lol
0000 in all seriousness I have been around plenty of women. After a while a person can get a sense of what a women is made of. All the women i've been around would be what I call a whore but I met one that I knew was different and I married her. I have been married about 3 years and every year we get closer together. Not saying we have not had fights b/c there will be fights in any relationship. I knew if I did not marry her that someone else would figure out what she had to offer and that was unconditional love that could not be broken.
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: blackdust]
#19222260 - 12/03/13 01:29 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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marriage is a silly religious concept created to stop women being sluts. Now days its pretty much just a legal thing and to make sure you cant just rage quit.
But I suppose its better to be behind than feeling like your last :/
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: kakashi68] 1
#19222282 - 12/03/13 01:34 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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actually if you feel like you are in absolute last place that's almost like a weird sort of accomplishment
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Re: Well, I'm officially behind in life... [Re: Patlal] 1
#19222819 - 12/03/13 03:33 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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i was 41 when i met the love of my life. i never stressed for one minute in the years leading up to that, i trusted my heart and knew marriage and kids were not for me but as i got older my perspectives and priorities naturally evolved and meeting a woman with kids that i have come to love as my own was the right thing to happen at that stage of my life.
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