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unstable roommate
#19221744 - 12/03/13 11:48 AM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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I'm living with three other dudes in a house. All is well except the sanity of this one dude.
This dude left after first year because he was having some mental issues. He was in the airport on the way home and apparently began hearing voices and ended up taking a year off school after that. This dude may have been having issues before then, but that's beside the point. The point is that this dude has mental issues.
Anyways.
Fast forward to a few days ago when this dude took some mushrooms. He's taken hefty amounts of psychedelics before but this time something was different. He became very secluded and refused to interact with us. He was obviously having a bad time. Turns out that dude did not sleep for two days after this and last night he disappeared for a long period of time, which is very unusual for him.
So.
Should it be our responsibility to sit this guy down and offer help? He very clearly is not OK. He hasn't been going to class and I am sure he will fail all his classes. But dude is here on his parents dime, so it's likely that he will be staying next term. That's all fine and dandy, but I don't think it's in either his best interest or our own for things to continue as they are.
Advice? Concerns? Related tales? Dude?
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fiddle] 1
#19221773 - 12/03/13 11:54 AM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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You let a mentally unstable person take mushrooms? What the hell did you think would happen?
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Yep. He's done it before. Now back to the issue at hand, dude.
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maybe he turned gay and went off to find some man pussy?
My advice, offer him your man pussy
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MisterSandman said: You let a mentally unstable person take mushrooms? What the hell did you think would happen?
So you figure it was OP's responsibility to stop him? How was he supposed to go about that exactly?
Personally I would think about trying to get in touch with the dude's parents and let them figure out how to handle the situation.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: psi]
#19221810 - 12/03/13 12:02 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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The5thElement said: maybe he turned gay and went off to find some man pussy?
My advice, offer him your man pussy 
I'll consider it.
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psi said:
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MisterSandman said: You let a mentally unstable person take mushrooms? What the hell did you think would happen?
So you figure it was OP's responsibility to stop him? How was he supposed to go about that exactly?
Personally I would think about trying to get in touch with the dude's parents and let them figure out how to handle the situation.
That's pretty much what I'm thinking, but his parents live in South Korea and I've never spoken to them nor spoken to him about them so I have no idea how I would go about contacting them.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fiddle] 1
#19221811 - 12/03/13 12:02 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Ask him if he is alright, and be supportive. Not much else you can do for someone if they don't want help.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fapjack]
#19221824 - 12/03/13 12:05 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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We're going to sit down and talk with him tonight. I'm just not sure how this will all play out. We want to help him, and I'm sure he wants help, but I'm just not sure if we're actually capable of helping him in the way he needs.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fiddle]
#19221835 - 12/03/13 12:08 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Hide the knifes
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Hide the kids, hide the wife.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fiddle]
#19221865 - 12/03/13 12:15 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Of course you should talk to him! He is going through a difficult time and it will get progressively worse, especially if none of his friends are supportive and willing to help. Honestly, how is NOT trying to help him even an option here? The lack of compassion in this world is just sad... Do the right thing and find a way to talk to him. If he is despondent, even sitting with him and being in his company could help and eventually lead him to open up to you. If that doesnt work, maybe it would be a good idea to talk to a close family member who you know would be supportive in this situation
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Thank you. I guess I phrased that poorly. Not helping never was an option, I just wanted some advice from people who have dealt with this on how we should help him.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fiddle]
#19221880 - 12/03/13 12:18 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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fiddle said: Hide the kids, hide the wife.

Seriously though good luck man, hope it goes well.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: psi]
#19221885 - 12/03/13 12:20 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Thanks. 
I'll probably update this thread tonight after we talk to him.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fiddle] 1
#19221888 - 12/03/13 12:21 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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I don't think sitting him down with everyone is a good idea, that could be threatening. I would suggest talking to him individually as friends and not as a group.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fapjack]
#19221896 - 12/03/13 12:22 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Okay, true.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: psi]
#19221904 - 12/03/13 12:24 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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It was his housemate, and OP clearly feels some responsibility or we wouldn't be reading this thread.
Sit him down OP if you're close, and tell the guy to go to fucking class before he fails the semester. Or maybe he already has and that's why he hasn't bothered going.
Hard to give much more advice than that if the guy is trying to fight voices in head.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fiddle]
#19221931 - 12/03/13 12:30 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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What Ive come to find is that you would be better asking this advice on another message-board that have people who are willing to give advice on helping others with mental disorders... Or at the very least, in the physical and mental health forum here. The majority of people dont give a fuck about your roomate and think it would be funny to make a joke about it 
And yes, you are much better off approaching him one on one. The group thing could be very difficult for him. He may even turn you down at first anyway, but dont give up on him that easily. It may show him that you truly care about his well-being. If you think its completely hopeless though, then definitely try a different strategy, like talking to someone in his family
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Let me tell you from experience, he has to go back on his meds. Anybody that fucked up has to be carrying around scripts for some pretty powerful anti-psychotics and they do help (thanks be to God) manage the voices and calm everything down a notch or two. Ask him if he is taking his meds and go from there.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: Juicin]
#19221953 - 12/03/13 12:34 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Juicin said: It was his housemate, and OP clearly feels some responsibility or we wouldn't be reading this thread.
I was just taking issue with the characterization that the OP "let him" do mushrooms.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fiddle]
#19222019 - 12/03/13 12:44 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Definitely needs a friend to talk to about what is bothering him. Professional care would be a blessing here.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fapjack]
#19222348 - 12/03/13 01:52 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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fapjack said: I don't think sitting him down with everyone is a good idea, that could be threatening. I would suggest talking to him individually as friends and not as a group.
Good advice.
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So what if the guy has some mental issues? not everyone is "normal" There is not much more to be done besides to just be there for him, and accept his problems.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: Legend]
#19223267 - 12/03/13 05:33 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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It'll be hard for you to do ANYTHING since this guy has mental issues. You won't solve anything by talking to him and shit. He needs professional help.
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talk to a counselor yourself(they should have one available, no) since its concerning you and see what he/she has to say. im sure they would give the best advice
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: DpRwav]
#19223807 - 12/03/13 07:30 PM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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Here's an update for this interested.
Dude left this morning around 9:00, after I left for class. He's been gone all day so far--it's 6:30 here--skipping out on paying rent. He did this last night, leaving at 7:00 and coming back at two in the morning with some soda and cigarettes. He just laughed when asked where he was. I'm really worried about this dude.
As for the people mentioning medication, I don't think he's taking any. Not that he's skipping it, I just don't think he's prescribed any.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fiddle]
#19225087 - 12/04/13 12:20 AM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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At what point do you file a missing persons report? Dude's been out of the house for over 14 hours now.
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Re: unstable roommate [Re: fiddle]
#19225180 - 12/04/13 02:35 AM (10 years, 6 months ago) |
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After 24 hours. In all honesty I think he can handle his shit. I bet hes always off on his own thing let him be. Dont wanna push him over the edge
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If hes gone for more 24 hours, definitely contact someone. Honestly though, if he already has some mental issues, and hes not doin anything all that crazy, I'd just let the dude. I mean if talking with him isn't getting you anywhere, and all hes doin is leaving the house and skipping class, I wouldn't worry.
I know some pretty weird guys with mental issues, like this one dude who got ridiculously hammered, got taken to the hospital for alcohol poisoning, then when he was back in his dorm room the next day, he literally didn't leave the room in the following 14 days. We found out he was pretty much stock piling tremendous amounts of food and just pissing in bottles.
My point is, you can really only do so much. If the dude isn't physically hurting himself or anyone else, and he refuses to get help, ya might just have to let him be.
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i personally wouldn't file a missing persons report unless it's been well over 48 hours. and i wouldn't sit him down and talk to him as a group, i would have the person closest to him buddy buddy him and see if they can find anything out.
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MisterSandman said: You let a mentally unstable person take mushrooms? What the hell did you think would happen?
Man, while I'm no expert and I hate to say this, this is pretty much what it comes down to. But, at the same time I think the emerging theme of "you can't take responsibility for this dude" is pretty swell, ya know?
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