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Turned down at the kiss
    #19217619 - 12/02/13 02:49 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Here's the story in a nutshell:
Boy meets girl, boy and girl go out. Boy asks for a kiss at the end of the night and the girl says she thinks she just likes him as a friend.

The boy is me and I'm still interested in the girl but know when to move on. I'd still like to be friends with her so is there any reason for me to explain myself, to try and dispel any awkwardness? "I know what I want and would kick myself for not trying to get it, but I know when to back off." Or should I just pretend it never happened and talk to her as I have been--as a friend?


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: fiddle]
    #19217787 - 12/02/13 03:28 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

ooh... feel the situation out dude... IMO I'd probably explain then bail on the whole thing. Explaining gives you back your dignity and leaving shows that you're man enough to let go. Might work in your favour but if not at least you can hold your head high.


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: andrewmurray86] * 1
    #19217809 - 12/02/13 03:31 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

It's good that you made a move, because you've basically got your answer. Depending on how your feelings are, move on. It's not smart to 'go for her' KNOWING she doesn't like you that way and HOPING to change her mind one day. Life goes on, and thats what she wants. Do yourself a favor, my friend :smile:


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: DirtyTomFlint]
    #19217823 - 12/02/13 03:34 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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It's good that you made a move, because you've basically got your answer. Depending on how your feelings are, move on. It's not smart to 'go for her' KNOWING she doesn't like you that way and HOPING to change her mind one day. Life goes on, and thats what she wants. Do yourself a favor, my friend :smile:



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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: DirtyTomFlint]
    #19217831 - 12/02/13 03:36 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Yeah, pursuing her romantically won't get my anywhere at this point. I'm pursuing other girls, and don't intend to be hung up on this one. I'd just hate to lose the friendship to awkwardness.


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: fiddle] * 2
    #19218040 - 12/02/13 04:24 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

You asked for a kiss?  Well that's a non-starter right there.  Kinda ruins the moment.  You should have just gone for it.  She can always pull away if she's really not interested.


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: pwnasaurus]
    #19218183 - 12/02/13 04:53 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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You asked for a kiss?  Well that's a non-starter right there.  Kinda ruins the moment.  You should have just gone for it.  She can always pull away if she's really not interested.



This^^^


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: FruitOfLife]
    #19218226 - 12/02/13 05:01 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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pwnasaurus said:
You asked for a kiss?  Well that's a non-starter right there.  Kinda ruins the moment.  You should have just gone for it.  She can always pull away if she's really not interested.



This^^^



^^^^^this is where you went wrong.

if she agrees to go out on a date or whatever, it's expected that you'll try to make a move. if she didn't like you she wouldn't have gone. words just fuck things up, be a man and get what you want.
if she turns away when you go in for it, leave that bitch alone.


seems like you already got it straightened out my friend. take it in as experience and don't hesitate next time :thumbup:


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: pwnasaurus]
    #19219549 - 12/02/13 09:27 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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You asked for a kiss?  Well that's a non-starter right there.  Kinda ruins the moment.  You should have just gone for it.  She can always pull away if she's really not interested.




Fair enough. I don't consider it a complete loss.


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: fiddle]
    #19219759 - 12/02/13 10:08 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Fuck. The more I think about this the less I think I should give her up. I haven't liked a girl like this for a long time. I'm going out and partying with other girls this weekend but I don't think it will help. I really think she liked me too.


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: fiddle]
    #19219898 - 12/02/13 10:33 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Why is it so impossible to know when to move in for the kiss


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: A-Ribbon]
    #19220010 - 12/02/13 10:57 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

I don't know. Fear of being turned down, mostly. That worked out well.


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: Trippinhighman]
    #19220985 - 12/03/13 07:54 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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pwnasaurus said:
You asked for a kiss?  Well that's a non-starter right there.  Kinda ruins the moment.  You should have just gone for it.  She can always pull away if she's really not interested.



This^^^



^^^^^this is where you went wrong.

if she agrees to go out on a date or whatever, it's expected that you'll try to make a move. if she didn't like you she wouldn't have gone. words just fuck things up, be a man and get what you want.
if she turns away when you go in for it, leave that bitch alone.


seems like you already got it straightened out my friend. take it in as experience and don't hesitate next time :thumbup:




Agreed.  I realize that guys don't want to be sleazy or a creep by just diving in for a kiss,  but if I am giving you all the proper signs and signals that I want you to, then it is a total turn off to be asked if you can kiss me.

Then I start wondering, is this how its gonna be in bed? Is he going to ask my permission before every little thing?  I want my guy to be all rawr caveman! I take what I want!  As far as a physical relationship is concerned. Obviously this is just my own opinion but I'm just trying to help give you some perspective. :sun:


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: Ballerium]
    #19220995 - 12/03/13 07:59 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Thanks, I appreciate the advice. This isn't the place for rationalizations so I'm not going to explain why I asked, but I will say that I do want this girl. Is this salvageable?


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: fiddle]
    #19221023 - 12/03/13 08:13 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

I can't answer that for you. That is between you and her. I would suggest just talking to her and telling her that you really like her, but that you understand if she isn't interested. If you truly want to remain friends with her platonically, maybe tell her that you value her friendship and ask her where things went wrong? Who knows if she'll tell you but it could be valuable to you in the future to understand where things went sour so that you won't make the same mistake next time. Kinda like how some applicants will call an employer after not getting a job to ask for feedback about what they could have done better in the interview. :shrug:

I may be giving you terrible advice though. I've never really been one to date and I've been in a relationship for the last five years. :lol:


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: Ballerium]
    #19221048 - 12/03/13 08:24 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Okay. I'm going to call and say I want to see her then go from there.


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: fiddle]
    #19221059 - 12/03/13 08:27 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Good luck! Let us know how it goes.  :thumbup:


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: Ballerium]
    #19221270 - 12/03/13 09:37 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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ask her where things went wrong? Who knows if she'll tell you but it could be valuable to you in the future to understand where things went sour so that you won't make the same mistake next time.


Do this only if you definitely give her up. Asking her and then trying to make up for it would make you look hopelessly desperate and would get you nowhere.


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: Ballerium]
    #19221494 - 12/03/13 10:46 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

I just called and we're going rock climbing tonight or tomorrow. :peace:


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: fiddle]
    #19221527 - 12/03/13 10:56 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

:highfive:


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: FruitOfLife]
    #19223073 - 12/03/13 04:36 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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You asked for a kiss?  Well that's a non-starter right there.  Kinda ruins the moment.  You should have just gone for it.  She can always pull away if she's really not interested.



This^^^




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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: Black_Sunset]
    #19257831 - 12/10/13 09:40 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

She said she was too busy to climb last week and bailed on another plan with the same reason that weekend. Me thinks its time to cut contact.

It is finals period, and I do like this girl, but I don't like attaching myself to somebody like this. Advice?


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: fiddle]
    #19258032 - 12/10/13 10:32 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

If you aren't getting what you're looking for, look elsewhere. She knows where to find you.


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: Lynnch]
    #19258043 - 12/10/13 10:35 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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If you aren't getting what you're looking for, look elsewhere. She knows where to find you.



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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: pwnasaurus]
    #19263661 - 12/11/13 11:56 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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If you aren't getting what you're looking for, look elsewhere. She knows where to find you.



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yep. Just back off


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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: Black_Sunset]
    #19263798 - 12/12/13 12:27 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

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If you aren't getting what you're looking for, look elsewhere. She knows where to find you.



:thumbup:




yep. Just back off




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Re: Turned down at the kiss [Re: theRAPeutic]
    #19264823 - 12/12/13 08:40 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

I did back off, now she wants to study :shrug:


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