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Phred
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Re: Father Becoming a Grumpy Old Man... I Don't Know How to Relate To Him... [Re: tito123]
#19215959 - 12/02/13 05:39 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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tito123 said: My grandmother started being terribly mean and it was dementia-way meaner than your father though.
Sadly, it might indeed be this ^^^^
It was with my father - one of the classic symptoms of early onset Alzheimer's disease. I hope it isn't the case with your father, but I'm afraid such a complete reversal of his usual sunny nature indicates that it is a very strong possibility.
My advice would be to get him tested as soon as you can. Nothing can reverse the damage Alzheimer's does (at least, nothing we know of yet) but there are new medications that will slow its progress, and several that will ameliorate the symptoms, especially the moodiness. I can't remember the name of the one that worked wonders on my father's irritability, but your any specialist will certainly know of at least a couple with good success rates.
My sympathies if he tests positive. Alzheimer's is an ugly disease.
Phred
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Re: Father Becoming a Grumpy Old Man... I Don't Know How to Relate To Him... [Re: Crystal G]
#19216088 - 12/02/13 06:49 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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May I ask how old he is? Growing old can make some people sad, angry or disappointed about things they didn't do or they think they did wrong. Could be an illness, also.
I'm only 56 and some things really piss me off to no end these days. I keep my emotions in check as far as the family goes, but they some times bug the living shit out of me. I'm not sure how healthy it is for me, but I keep most of my rage sealed in a bottle, and not a bottle, that just made things worse.
I'd suggest avoiding things that set him off, maybe share a favorite food with him. I'm not sure how he'd feel about reminiscing about past 'good times'. Try and have him see a doctor. (Good luck with that if he is a real Curmudgeon.)
Do you have any other family members you can talk to about this? If his actions continue or get worse, you may just have to decrease your interactions with him. Us 'Old Farts' can get pretty set in our ways.
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Re: Father Becoming a Grumpy Old Man... I Don't Know How to Relate To Him... [Re: Phred]
#19258865 - 12/11/13 06:11 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Phred said: Sadly, it might indeed be this ^^^^
It was with my father - one of the classic symptoms of early onset Alzheimer's disease. I hope it isn't the case with your father, but I'm afraid such a complete reversal of his usual sunny nature indicates that it is a very strong possibility.
My advice would be to get him tested as soon as you can. Nothing can reverse the damage Alzheimer's does (at least, nothing we know of yet) but there are new medications that will slow its progress, and several that will ameliorate the symptoms, especially the moodiness. I can't remember the name of the one that worked wonders on my father's irritability, but your any specialist will certainly know of at least a couple with good success rates.
My sympathies if he tests positive. Alzheimer's is an ugly disease.
Phred
You can actually test for Alzheimer's? How do you do that?
To the last poster, my dad is 63.
Well, I'm going to keep trying to connect with my dad even though it seems like he doesn't want to establish a friendship with me anymore. Since his favorite hobbies are golfing and sailing, for Christmas I bought him three golf lessons with a PGA professional (one that actually won in professional tournaments), hopefully spending time together golfing will put him in a better mood for the holidays while I'm over at my parents' house.
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Re: Father Becoming a Grumpy Old Man... I Don't Know How to Relate To Him... [Re: Crystal G]
#19258933 - 12/11/13 06:56 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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My dad was ALWAYS weird
everything I'm ungrateful for has something to do with his long traumatic life
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Konyap

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Re: Father Becoming a Grumpy Old Man... I Don't Know How to Relate To Him... [Re: Konyap]
#19258936 - 12/11/13 06:58 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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He gets angry for no reason, and shouts that he doesn't want to have any participation with the same dumb crap that I watch and read
This is what marriage is though.
What is wrong with you?
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Re: Father Becoming a Grumpy Old Man... I Don't Know How to Relate To Him... [Re: Crystal G]
#19259000 - 12/11/13 07:32 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Crystal G said: I bring up other random topics (such as Mt. Everest or the cannibalism among warlords in Africa or facts about animals or psychic detectives, literally about anything in the world),
Yes, topics like that give a heterogeneous touch to the homogeneous life. Good choices.
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Crystal G said: How do I find another way to relate to him? How do you make a bitter old man happy?
Find him a date and gift him some viagra. He obviously needs laid more regularly. His grumpiness is from lack of sex, not from getting old.
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