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I wouldn't care if it was any of her numerous other friends, but she has had an over the top flirtatious relationship with this guy. The guy has joked about her hitting on him, how he doesn't want to have to fight me so she can fuck him. He even said to her at one point "next time you're fucking your boyfriend think of me."
Bro.
The man sounds like a player and a pretty good one at that. From where I'm standing your girl is definitely being worked on, by a dude who knows what he's doing.
I don't know you but I'm sure from your perspective this should be quite clear: If you were a single girl, knowing yourself and knowing this guy, would you rather spend time with him or with you?
So far we know he's got the girl accessory skills down better than you do, and he's chill and secure enough to just shoot the shit and make carefree jokes about you, her, him, everybody. Not a care in the world, fun guy to be around. Meanwhile you're here worried and tense and all 
You must have some value to this girl, or she wouldn't have spent 8 months with you. Do an assessment of what worked best for you, what are your strong points, and try to give her some nice awesome times over the coming days / weeks. Then be a man, bite the bullet and bring it up. Say that she's awesome and your relationship is important, and you're concerned she'll throw it all away over some new jewelry. Bring it up. Ask. Just make sure you're relaxed and comfortable, as opposed to needy and insecure about it. Be ok with her walking away if that's what she wants. The less you cling the more likely she'll stick around.
I'd say shit like oh you're so fun, I'm going to miss you once we split up because of you having fucked the jewelry guy
-------------------- Blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear.
For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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