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Murzelpfrumpft
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: Crystal G]
#19192939 - 11/26/13 04:38 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Crystal G said: He did lose a couple pounds, but not nearly as much or I or other people would have on the same diet.
Yeah it's just harder. Too hard for many people like that.
But becoming fat during pregnancy is a whole other phenomenon in my eyes.
Seen this on several women, they say "now I have to eat for two people" and stuff everything into their mouths. For sure hard to determine if you are actually gaining fat when you're constantly bloated and gaining weight. Most might be concerned to provide their baby with proper nutrients, I can totally see how coming out twice as big happens easily.
Body cult really sucks. And I'm obviously on the winning side...
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: Murzelpfrumpft]
#19200334 - 11/28/13 11:25 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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superficial women are uglier than fat girls. you can do better, OP. find yourself a nice big fatty
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: Patlal]
#19201213 - 11/28/13 03:11 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Patlal said: She was "shocked" by your body.
That's a very strong word to use. How thin are you exactly? Post a pic maybe?
I'd also like to see what shockingly thin looks like.
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Boss Figga
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: Into The Woods]
#19203644 - 11/29/13 05:25 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Into The Woods said: I'd probably have gotten a gym membership.
He should be hitting the gym to improve himself not to meet someones standards.
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: Boss Figga]
#19205387 - 11/29/13 03:48 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I haven't read any of the responses, but here's my personal answer.
I probably wouldn't break up with the girl JUST because of that. If she's a great girl why would you throw her away just because of a comment? If I were you I would've talked it all through with her to understand all the issues and what can be done to fix them. You could "hit the gym" and try to get in shape, but I wouldn't suggest it unless it's something YOU want to do. Or another way to look at it (the way I would look at it, cause I'm a very thin dude as well) is if you're comfortable with your own body the comment shouldn't have mattered at all. I would've shrugged it off cause I don't even care if I'm really thin, it's just who I am.
If she can't accept you for who you are, inside and out, then she shouldn't be with you anyway. If YOU can't accept you for who you are, then like I said, maybe you should try to get in shape to improve yourself.
Hope I helped
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: lonelypsychonaut] 1
#19206271 - 11/29/13 08:07 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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lonelypsychonaut said: I haven't read any of the responses, but here's my personal answer.
I probably wouldn't break up with the girl JUST because of that. If she's a great girl why would you throw her away just because of a comment? If I were you I would've talked it all through with her to understand all the issues and what can be done to fix them. You could "hit the gym" and try to get in shape, but I wouldn't suggest it unless it's something YOU want to do. Or another way to look at it (the way I would look at it, cause I'm a very thin dude as well) is if you're comfortable with your own body the comment shouldn't have mattered at all. I would've shrugged it off cause I don't even care if I'm really thin, it's just who I am.
If she can't accept you for who you are, inside and out, then she shouldn't be with you anyway. If YOU can't accept you for who you are, then like I said, maybe you should try to get in shape to improve yourself.
Hope I helped 
You know... It wasn't the comment that bugged me.. It was the disrespectful way it was said.... as if she was ashamed of me. And she basically straight up said she isn't attracted to be, so it makes the whole idea of intimacy much less desirable. I cant imagine wanting to cuddle with her, have sex, or just be comfortable around someone who is so judgmental of my shape.
I'm a thin tall guy... 6'2 at 150 lbs... I accept it, I used to work out but due to a few factors I've had to put that on hold the last few months. 6 months or so. You guys are right... If I go to the gym it is for me, no one else.
Anways.. I did shrug it off, it was the disrespect and fact that she is ashamed to be seen around me shirtless with her friends that makes me reconsider.
I'm still talking to her... But have rejected hanging out with her for this week... I just need some space to figure out if someone like that has the privilege of being a part of my life.
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The5thElement
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19209142 - 11/30/13 04:06 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
You know... It wasn't the comment that bugged me.. It was the disrespectful way it was said.... as if she was ashamed of me. And she basically straight up said she isn't attracted to be, so it makes the whole idea of intimacy much less desirable. I cant imagine wanting to cuddle with her, have sex, or just be comfortable around someone who is so judgmental of my shape.
I'm a thin tall guy... 6'2 at 150 lbs... I accept it, I used to work out but due to a few factors I've had to put that on hold the last few months. 6 months or so. You guys are right... If I go to the gym it is for me, no one else.
Anways.. I did shrug it off, it was the disrespect and fact that she is ashamed to be seen around me shirtless with her friends that makes me reconsider.
I'm still talking to her... But have rejected hanging out with her for this week... I just need some space to figure out if someone like that has the privilege of being a part of my life.
Fuck yeah, good for you. Every thing you just said there is 100%, pure awesomeness.
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Biodiversity
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: The5thElement]
#19209205 - 11/30/13 04:28 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Go naked, that will show her.
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: Biodiversity]
#19209478 - 11/30/13 06:00 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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idk man, I feel like if shes with you it must not really bother her that much. that however doesn't mean her friends wouldn't think less of you for it. maybe she hangs out with a superficial crowd and she wants them to like you, we've all got friends that are assholes but we like them anyway. idk its really weird she said surprising though, you can see a skinny guy is skinny with his shirt on
I really do applaud you for your reaction though, you seem like a very mentally healthy confident guy. good on you
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19211731 - 12/01/13 09:46 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
I'm a thin tall guy... 6'2 at 150 lbs...
well then lucky you, I'm 5'8 at 110 lbs maybe I should go to the gym
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Kalypto
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Im skinny as fuck like boney skinny , I take my shirt off and girls are basically all over me touching me cause of my tattoos
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: Kalypto]
#19215996 - 12/02/13 05:57 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Kalypto said: Im skinny as fuck like boney skinny , I take my shirt off and girls are basically all over me touching me cause of my tattoos
Pics? I'd like to see some cool tatts!
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badchad
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19216411 - 12/02/13 09:19 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Tough call. Personally, I appreciate the fact my gf can offer me constructive criticism and advice. However, it sounds like it was the way she said it, not really the content of the message. IMO, that's something that can be worked on if you want to.
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19216450 - 12/02/13 09:33 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Basically..
I've been dating a girl for the last few months. Very amazing girl: attractive, great personality.
Basically we were planning on going to a pool party. We have been planning on it for the last week or so. She tells me not to wear a swimming suit. I ask why, and she eventually says because she doesn't want people to be shocked like she was....
I asked her to elaborate, and she ended up saying i have a bad looking body and doesn't want people to be shocked by it. (I am a thin dude)... and after that I realized I dont want to have sex with her anymore, I can't feel comfortable with someone who isn't physically attracted to me...
Even though we were very sexually active, I broke it off for that comment... As I want the freedom to be open and myself, not being around someone who is ashamed to be around me or unwilling to accept my body. I just cant imagine myself wanting to cuddle up against her anymore or have sex with her after she said that.
Anyways... Would it be a breaking point for you?
Wow! What a really insensitive thing to say to someone you supposedly care for. Anywho...She obviously didn't think you had that bad of a body. You yourself said you guys were very sexually active implying she was very attracted to you despite what she said.
Would I break it off for that one thing alone? Probably not, but I would definitely be a little hurt by the comment and she would be explaining herself. If however it was just one more thing among a laundry list of shit it definitely might be a breaking point. It's all done now. Just my 2 cents worth.
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: perkysmiles]
#19219921 - 12/02/13 10:38 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Id be hurt... IDK if id end it but it would hurt a little
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Re: WOULD YOU break up with her for this.....? [Re: A-Ribbon]
#19219976 - 12/02/13 10:49 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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What the hell kind of disrespectful shit is that? Please, break up with her. It is for your own spiritual well-being. I'm 19 and if I was in your situation I'd break it off, very reasonably.
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