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Le_Canard
The Duk Abides


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Edit: NVM
Edited by Le_Canard (11/28/13 08:06 PM)
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Versicolor
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ModestMouse said: I actually just told her because she called me and asked whats wrong. She said "I already knew that", "we'll be okay", "are you sick of me?"
Quoting just in case some people think she still doesn't know.
OP, I would recommend having a talk with her in person and try to see how she really feels. It sounds to me like she just wants to be with you, and is obviously willing to put it behind her. If you feel she is someone you really think is right for you and vice versa, maybe it can work out. I'm sure you've learned not to do things like cheating in the future, and maybe she knows that. But then again, maybe she's not the kind of person you can respect for how she dealt with this. It's really up to you.
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Patlal
You ask too many questions



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OP!!!
Welcome back to the singles world!!! You are gonna LOVE it! Freedom of speech, liberty, the right to assemble with your friends. Pretty much everything the constitution is supposed to give you
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ModestMouse
IM WALKIN ON SUNSHINE


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Patlal]
#19202465 - 11/28/13 08:21 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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qman
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Why not have two girl friends? Maybe both are OK with you not being exclusive, two female friends with benefits would be super duper.
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Magicman69
All About the Benjamins



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Re: Ending the lies [Re: qman]
#19202703 - 11/28/13 09:37 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hope your prepared to lose the one you cheated on if you admit it. Just a heads up
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NWlight
Just look


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: qman]
#19202733 - 11/28/13 09:44 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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dude telling her is the most selfish shit u can do.
the only person who's going to feel better is YOU.
just let it go and don't do it again... absolute best thing to do. trust me.
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thelanzii

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Re: Ending the lies [Re: NWlight]
#19202807 - 11/28/13 10:03 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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enjoy the many hours even days of emotional distress because of your irrational impulsive decisions
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NWlight
Just look


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: thelanzii]
#19202831 - 11/28/13 10:09 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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hours and days are nothing compared to what it would do to his gf.
and if he is serious about being with her then telling her could ruin a potentially long-term relationship
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Everlong
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: NWlight]
#19202843 - 11/28/13 10:12 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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NWlight said: and if he is serious about being with her then telling her could ruin a potentially long-term relationship
He should of thought of that when he was cheating on her.
I'd prefer to know if my partner cheated on me in the past, as it shows me what kind of person they truly are.
Cheaters are some of the biggest scums of the earth.
It was the right thing to do, he's letting her know who she is in a relationship with.
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NWlight
Just look


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Everlong]
#19202851 - 11/28/13 10:13 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Idk man I say if he doesnt do it again then all it would do is hurt her.
but then I'm not a big risk taker
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NWlight
Just look


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Everlong]
#19202854 - 11/28/13 10:14 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Idk man I say if he doesnt do it again then all it would do is hurt her.
Then again I'm not a big risk taker
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ModestMouse
IM WALKIN ON SUNSHINE


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: NWlight]
#19202884 - 11/28/13 10:22 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I already told her - see above posts.
I'm just gonna see how the aftermath goes. I already expected her to break up with me but it seems thats not what she wants.
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Everlong
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: NWlight] 2
#19202889 - 11/28/13 10:24 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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NWlight said: Idk man I say if he doesnt do it again then all it would do is hurt her.
but then I'm not a big risk taker
I get the point you are trying to make, you aren't the first one in the thread to look at it that way.
I think it's sorta bullshit logic to keep it to yourself. "I'm not going to tell her to protect her feelings." No, you aren't telling because you know you fucked up and it could potentially ruin your chances with said person. I gamble that not many people want to have a false cloak over their eyes about the relationship they're in.
I just like the truth.
And hate cheaters.
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NWlight
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ModestMouse said: I already told her - see above posts.
oh, right.
good luck man keep us posted. i've always wondered how the truth works in relationships, never been good at it.
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Bologna
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I would say the chance of her impulsively cheating on you has gone up a large amount. She might say its ok and that she'll move past it and she might even believe it herself but it's just not true. Have her take a few shots and put on an episode of Cheaters and see how quickly shit hits the fan.
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NWlight
Just look


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Bologna]
#19202997 - 11/28/13 10:53 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Have her take a few shots and put on an episode of Cheaters and see how quickly shit hits the fan.

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deCypher



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Re: Ending the lies [Re: NWlight] 4
#19203091 - 11/28/13 11:25 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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LOL at all the people in this thread advising OP not to tell his girlfriend. Rationalizing cowardice and the self-serving motive to keep the relationship going afloat via deception under the pretense that doing so will save his girlfriend the hurt of knowing he cheated on her is truly laughable.
For a real, true, meaningful relationship, honesty is key. Don't like the results of being honest with your girlfriend? Don't cheat. It's that simple.
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ComputerTekGuy
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ModestMouse said: I already told her - see above posts.
I'm just gonna see how the aftermath goes. I already expected her to break up with me but it seems thats not what she wants.
You are a shitty person. Break up with her, then move on, and not make the same mistake again.
If you fucked up like this, and this is something that has happened to her before. Dont know who it is, but this relationship doesnt seem healthy
Sorry bro, live and learn
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Shroomism
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: deCypher]
#19203218 - 11/29/13 12:24 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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deCypher said: LOL at all the people in this thread advising OP not to tell his girlfriend. Rationalizing cowardice and the self-serving motive to keep the relationship going afloat via deception under the pretense that doing so will save his girlfriend the hurt of knowing he cheated on her is truly laughable.
For a real, true, meaningful relationship, honesty is key. Don't like the results of being honest with your girlfriend? Don't cheat. It's that simple. 
Word to your mother
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