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highowl
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Can't find a steady group of friends
#19202669 - 11/28/13 09:26 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have a serious problem with finding a group of friends that I legitimately enjoy and love being around. Out of the last group I hung around with, there was one guy that I actually liked, the rest seemed cool enough at first, but over time they began to annoy me. It was just a group with heavy hierarchy, like there was one dude that was in the group that everyone just fucking loved and he could do no wrong, no matter what the situation, and if you called him out then everyone in the group was going to bash you for it. We will cal this guy Z. Another dude was just a total idiot along with being a dick.
Like this past week I went to dick's house and we were planning to do acid. He had told me if I found him buyers for the acid that he'd give me a tab for free. Well, Z showed up and wanted to trip too so the dick gave Z some acid too. When I asked about my free hit he was like "Oh, well I just gave you your free hit." I told him yea man, but you also just gave Z a free hit and he didn't find you any buyers at all. And he flatly told me "Well, I don't like you and love you as much as I love Z, so of course he gets a free hit." So I found him people to buy his shit and he fucked me over and he is fully aware that he did though he won't admit it. So I got pissed and knew I wouldn't have a fun trip if I did mine so I left. Later they told me how the 'acid' had been so fun and how it numbed their mouth and tasted bitter.
So I told the dudes, nah, you probably have an RC. And they just started getting all offended like "No man, this was the real deal, if you would have done it you would agree. Yea, it was totally real man." And then the dick starts telling me bullshit like "Yea, it passed a test kit the other day, it's real." Which I know is BS. Also the hit is on paper that is like half an inch by half an inch and just seems like an RC. So they got all annoyed that I told them they hadn't done real cid and I just got pissed at them for being idiotic and ignorant. I suppose it really just boiled down to all the hierarchy, it's like there were one or two dudes in the group that everyone praised and kissed ass too, and if you went against them then you pretty much went against the group. So I pretty much told them how they were all ignorant fucks and just rude motherfuckers and havent talked to any of them or chilled with any of them in days. Usually I'd be smoking a J right now to calm me down but the dude selling fake acid is friends with my weed guy and called him up and told him I was a rat and to never sell to me again, or at least he says he called him and told him that. So I just havent really bothered to call the guy so now I'm out of friends (even if they were friends I didn't like) and weed. This seems to happen to all the people I hang out with. I get annoyed that there is always ass kissing to one or two people in the group that people look at as fucking gods or some weird shit, and I clal them out on it and then just don't talk to anyone in the group again. Why? ):
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: highowl]
#19202681 - 11/28/13 09:31 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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tldr seems like you got butthurt and argued over something neither parties would ever know is true
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: thelanzii]
#19202685 - 11/28/13 09:33 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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i see a long post and then the words friend, acid and RC pop out
you're probably a drahma queen
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: highowl] 3
#19202689 - 11/28/13 09:34 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Dude, a real friend in life is fucking rare. You will realize this is true the older you get and the more of these bullshit relationships you go through.
I can count on one hand real friends I have. Everything else is just noise.
Also, lots of relationships are formed from people sponging off others drug connections, their charisma, their property (pools, cars, whatever). That's why you see the hierarchy shit. Bunch of little doggies following around their master.
I see this shit too and don't give a fuck, I always call shit how I see it and never give a shit if people don't like it or agree. I value truth and reasoning more than transient relationships and the perks that might get me.
Fuckem man. Go enjoy solitude.
Oh and even if you know it was an RC and not LSD, who fuckin cares man? Worth arguing over or getting pissed about? You decide. Generally though if you want to get along you'll have to fight the urge to correct people. I don't try to correct people, I just let shit go as I'm sure I talk outta my ass from time to time. We all do.
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Edited by JesusIsLord (11/28/13 09:37 PM)
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19202696 - 11/28/13 09:36 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I used to be the guy who called out bs. then I realized being lonely is shittier than dealing with a little bs
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19202697 - 11/28/13 09:36 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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yeah...true friends are rare, but confused petty people are everywhere. wake them up
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: thelanzii] 2
#19202716 - 11/28/13 09:40 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Nemmies said: I used to be the guy who called out bs. then I realized being lonely is shittier than dealing with a little bs
Being alone is different than being lonely. I definitely put up with bs just to keep the peace though and enjoy others' company.
I just meant I don't play to the hierarchy shit.
Kinda difficult to distinguish what I'm saying but oh well. Can only relay so much of an idea through text.
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: thelanzii]
#19202718 - 11/28/13 09:40 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Nemmies said: I used to be the guy who called out bs. then I realized being lonely is shittier than dealing with a little bs
yeah... nothing good comes of correcting people no matter how full of shit they are, unless it's a safety issue.
it sucks for people who are very scientifically-minded.
if someone corrects me I'm usually thankful, most people not so much
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: hmmn] 1
#19202722 - 11/28/13 09:41 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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If you can count your friends on one hand, you're doing good.
I'm a relatively popular person. I have thousands of acquaintances, but only about 3 friends (outside of family)
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: hmmn]
#19202732 - 11/28/13 09:43 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Who the fuck has "groups of friends"? Everyone is an individual, they shouldn't be judged based on groups.
Find one good friend, sometimes that is all a person ever finds, fuck this group shit.
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: qman]
#19202741 - 11/28/13 09:47 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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qman said: Who the fuck has "groups of friends"? Everyone is an individual, they shouldn't be judged based on groups.
Find one good friend, sometimes that is all a person ever finds, fuck this group shit.
everyone relates differently. some people prefer lots and lots of shallow relationships and like the transience of life.
some people want to share a shitload of life with just one or two other people. these people often get married, go through life pretty alone, or just have a couple great friends.
obviously there are exceptions. i'm making generalizations to simplify life.
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: highowl]
#19202754 - 11/28/13 09:49 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I don't have a "steady group of friends" either OP, not since I was in my 20s. I mean, I have shitloads of friends. But my closest friends I could count on one hand. Life partner + work = not much time left. I see my best friend in the world like every six months.
tl:dr - most "groups" of people suck. You have to find individuals on your own level. or enjoy being alone. I LOVE being by myself.. I never let me down. I have good friends as well.. I just don't see them very often. And a good tight group of friends I chill with from time to time, but they are by proxy from my GF.. I wouldn't have known them if I hadn't met her.
I think it gets easier as you get older and more mature. You aren't so concerned with petty shit. But really, you don't have to be friends with people you don't get along with.. just to HAVE friends. Find people on your same wavelength.
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: Shroomism]
#19202760 - 11/28/13 09:51 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yeah I mean if I don't have any friends it's because I'm too boring to invite people in my life to do shit
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: Konyap]
#19202771 - 11/28/13 09:54 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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My excuse is that I'm an introverted motherfucker, motherfucker... maintaining consistent friendships and "doing stuff" all the time is draining as fuck.. to me..
I NEED my alone time, or I go crazy. Constant social interaction is so draining. Even if it's people I really like. But that's all me.
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: Konyap]
#19202790 - 11/28/13 09:59 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have never found a 'steady' group of friends. most of them end up screwing me over or just dropping out of my life.
I like being alone these days... moreso recently. i've found that all the people in life were impermanent and most of them didn't truly care. Family, friends, it doesn't matter much. I have a few close friends today, but i made them recently, and i bet anything in a few years things will change and we wont be close anymore because it's just the way things are.
You can be alone without being lonely.
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: 404]
#19202794 - 11/28/13 10:00 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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"happiness only real when shared"
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: Shroomism]
#19202826 - 11/28/13 10:07 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Shroomism said: My excuse is that I'm an introverted motherfucker, motherfucker... maintaining consistent friendships and "doing stuff" all the time is draining as fuck.. to me..
I NEED my alone time, or I go crazy. Constant social interaction is so draining. Even if it's people I really like. But that's all me.
this is an internet forum. pretty sure the vast majority of us are introverted motherfuckers. motherfucker
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: thelanzii]
#19202835 - 11/28/13 10:10 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Nemmies said: "happiness only real when shared"
he was probably just bummed he was dying alone.
strange too our obsession with happiness as though it was the highest virtue. even enshrined in our declaration of independence, the pursuit of happiness. strange
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: thelanzii]
#19202875 - 11/28/13 10:20 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I've realized that a lot of people that I've met or have been friends with were just friends because they were around. Even if our personalities mesh or whatever, we may not have the same interests and have nothing beyond playing video games and random chat.
Right now, I'm just looking to surround myself by positive non-judgmental people who are changing something for the betterment of society or whatever. That's my only criteria. Then I'm looking for close friends who share my interests and also change jive for society.
but ofcourse that's not gonna happen anytime soon because I don't know what I'm interested in and I live in a small town in a red state but I'm rambling so hopefully this helps
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Re: Can't find a steady group of friends [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19202878 - 11/28/13 10:21 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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JesusIsLord said:
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Nemmies said: "happiness only real when shared"
he was probably just bummed he was dying alone.
strange too our obsession with happiness as though it was the highest virtue. even enshrined in our declaration of independence, the pursuit of happiness. strange
it's just a transient feeling we're all trying to hold on to. the pursuit is what matters.
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