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Ending the lies * 2
    #19201963 - 11/28/13 06:28 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

On Monday im going to tell my girlfriend the truth about how I fucked my ex while I was dating her (some may remember my morning after thread). I had previously only admitted to kissing her, out of sheer cowardice. It's gone to far though. She needs to know and im tired of living with this lie.

I just wanted to put this on the internet. No one else will care, but it's important to me. If anyone has any advice as to what to say, that'd be nice. Otherwise, carry on folks.

Sincerely,
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: ModestMouse] * 1
    #19201964 - 11/28/13 06:28 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Good for you! It's gonna suck though...get ready.

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Re: Ending the lies [Re: KingKnowledge] * 3
    #19201990 - 11/28/13 06:32 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I'm always amazed when people need to cause another person pain to ease their own.


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: luvdemshrooms] * 3
    #19201993 - 11/28/13 06:33 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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I'm always amazed when people need to cause another person pain to ease their own.




Be more clear. Do you think i'm causing her pain by telling her? Because its more healthy to tell her then to avoid it.


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: ModestMouse]
    #19202014 - 11/28/13 06:37 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

It will ease your pain. It will cause her pain.

More healthy for you? Yup. For her? Possibly. Possibly not.

It is self-serving to hurt another to make yourself feel better.


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: luvdemshrooms]
    #19202015 - 11/28/13 06:37 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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luvdemshrooms said:
I'm always amazed when people need to cause another person pain to ease their own.




QFT!


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: luvdemshrooms] * 1
    #19202020 - 11/28/13 06:38 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

From a logical standpoint though, keeping this a secret for longer will hurt her more in the long run.
I don't see what you're getting at?


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: ModestMouse]
    #19202028 - 11/28/13 06:40 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Why not keep it a secret and never tell her? Unless she's harassing you 24/7 for more info and doesn't believe it was just a kiss - I got to agree with the above. it'll make you feel better and her possibly like shit.


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: luvdemshrooms] * 7
    #19202032 - 11/28/13 06:40 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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It is self-serving to hurt another to make yourself feel better.



I prefer being told the truth rather than a lie. I don't think I'm the only one.


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: KremrBigSikter]
    #19202048 - 11/28/13 06:43 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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KremrBigSikter said:
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luvdemshrooms said:
It is self-serving to hurt another to make yourself feel better.



I prefer being told the truth rather than a lie. I don't think I'm the only one.




I do too, but the lies already been told. Now she'll be hurt by the cheating and by the lie.

Kick her while she's down.

Plus, we don't know if the GF would prefer the truth. Some people don't.


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: pslyke] * 1
    #19202058 - 11/28/13 06:46 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Tell her, you can work through anything in a relationship if both partners are honest with another. My wife had a one night stand off her bi-polar meds and drinking while taking klonopins, she told me 3 days later and we worked through it. I got all crashed out on  gak and Oxycodone for a few months here not that long ago, and we worked through that. Tell her even if it hurts her, because it will hurt her a lot more when she finds out from someone else which will happen, it may be 10 years from now when your married with kids and now your losing your family over some shit you should have been honest about years ago. Ask yourself, if your with someone you can't be real with, then why are you with them, Anything you build with this girl is built on false pretenses, relationships like that fail.


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: ModestMouse]
    #19202063 - 11/28/13 06:47 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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From a logical standpoint though, keeping this a secret for longer will hurt her more in the long run.
I don't see what you're getting at?




How is her not knowing you cheated and lied going to hurt her more in the long run?

I don't believe hurting her to make yourself feel better is the right thing to do.


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: luvdemshrooms] * 2
    #19202065 - 11/28/13 06:47 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Quote:

KremrBigSikter said:
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luvdemshrooms said:
It is self-serving to hurt another to make yourself feel better.



I prefer being told the truth rather than a lie. I don't think I'm the only one.




I do too, but the lies already been told. Now she'll be hurt by the cheating and by the lie.

Kick her while she's down.

Plus, we don't know if the GF would prefer the truth. Some people don't.




It's a tough debate. Obviously the truth is the truth, and its good not to lie, but at the same time the truth can hurt.


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Icepic]
    #19202070 - 11/28/13 06:49 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Tell her, you can work through anything in a relationship if both partners are honest with another.




That is a huge generalization.


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: KingKnowledge]
    #19202083 - 11/28/13 06:51 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

You should ask her, what pill she wants. :thumbup:



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Re: Ending the lies [Re: ModestMouse]
    #19202086 - 11/28/13 06:52 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

you shoulda done it when you told her you only kissed. now there's really no point in doing it unless just to relief your guilt..

i would tell her you are not worthy of her love and tell her she'd be better off with someone else. that way everyone gets hurt


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    #19202095 - 11/28/13 06:54 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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You should ask her, what pill she wants. :thumbup:






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Re: Ending the lies [Re: luvdemshrooms]
    #19202107 - 11/28/13 06:55 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Plus, we don't know if the GF would prefer the truth. Some don't.




I mean, generally speaking, almost all people want to know if their partner has cheated on them - for sure. Your relationship will probably end but that's probably a good thing.


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: gzuf]
    #19202114 - 11/28/13 06:57 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

How did you reach the conclusion that "almost all people want to know if their partner has cheated on them"?


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Re: Ending the lies [Re: luvdemshrooms]
    #19202116 - 11/28/13 06:57 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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It will ease your pain. It will cause her pain.

More healthy for you? Yup. For her? Possibly. Possibly not.

It is self-serving to hurt another to make yourself feel better.




So what?  This is life, people get hurt.  Better to face the hard truth than to be living with secrets IMO.


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