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On Monday im going to tell my girlfriend the truth about how I fucked my ex while I was dating her (some may remember my morning after thread). I had previously only admitted to kissing her, out of sheer cowardice. It's gone to far though. She needs to know and im tired of living with this lie.
I just wanted to put this on the internet. No one else will care, but it's important to me. If anyone has any advice as to what to say, that'd be nice. Otherwise, carry on folks.
Sincerely, The retiring douchebag
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I'm always amazed when people need to cause another person pain to ease their own.
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luvdemshrooms said: I'm always amazed when people need to cause another person pain to ease their own.
Be more clear. Do you think i'm causing her pain by telling her? Because its more healthy to tell her then to avoid it.
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It will ease your pain. It will cause her pain.
More healthy for you? Yup. For her? Possibly. Possibly not.
It is self-serving to hurt another to make yourself feel better.
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luvdemshrooms said: I'm always amazed when people need to cause another person pain to ease their own.
QFT!
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From a logical standpoint though, keeping this a secret for longer will hurt her more in the long run. I don't see what you're getting at?
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Why not keep it a secret and never tell her? Unless she's harassing you 24/7 for more info and doesn't believe it was just a kiss - I got to agree with the above. it'll make you feel better and her possibly like shit.
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luvdemshrooms said: It is self-serving to hurt another to make yourself feel better.
I prefer being told the truth rather than a lie. I don't think I'm the only one.
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luvdemshrooms said: It is self-serving to hurt another to make yourself feel better.
I prefer being told the truth rather than a lie. I don't think I'm the only one.
I do too, but the lies already been told. Now she'll be hurt by the cheating and by the lie.
Kick her while she's down.
Plus, we don't know if the GF would prefer the truth. Some people don't.
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Tell her, you can work through anything in a relationship if both partners are honest with another. My wife had a one night stand off her bi-polar meds and drinking while taking klonopins, she told me 3 days later and we worked through it. I got all crashed out on gak and Oxycodone for a few months here not that long ago, and we worked through that. Tell her even if it hurts her, because it will hurt her a lot more when she finds out from someone else which will happen, it may be 10 years from now when your married with kids and now your losing your family over some shit you should have been honest about years ago. Ask yourself, if your with someone you can't be real with, then why are you with them, Anything you build with this girl is built on false pretenses, relationships like that fail.
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ModestMouse said: From a logical standpoint though, keeping this a secret for longer will hurt her more in the long run. I don't see what you're getting at?
How is her not knowing you cheated and lied going to hurt her more in the long run?
I don't believe hurting her to make yourself feel better is the right thing to do.
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luvdemshrooms said: It is self-serving to hurt another to make yourself feel better.
I prefer being told the truth rather than a lie. I don't think I'm the only one.
I do too, but the lies already been told. Now she'll be hurt by the cheating and by the lie.
Kick her while she's down.
Plus, we don't know if the GF would prefer the truth. Some people don't.
It's a tough debate. Obviously the truth is the truth, and its good not to lie, but at the same time the truth can hurt.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Icepic]
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Icepic said: Tell her, you can work through anything in a relationship if both partners are honest with another.
That is a huge generalization.
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you shoulda done it when you told her you only kissed. now there's really no point in doing it unless just to relief your guilt..
i would tell her you are not worthy of her love and tell her she'd be better off with someone else. that way everyone gets hurt
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Plus, we don't know if the GF would prefer the truth. Some don't.
I mean, generally speaking, almost all people want to know if their partner has cheated on them - for sure. Your relationship will probably end but that's probably a good thing.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: gzuf]
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How did you reach the conclusion that "almost all people want to know if their partner has cheated on them"?
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luvdemshrooms said: It will ease your pain. It will cause her pain.
More healthy for you? Yup. For her? Possibly. Possibly not.
It is self-serving to hurt another to make yourself feel better.
So what? This is life, people get hurt. Better to face the hard truth than to be living with secrets IMO.
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Why waste your time on someone who cheats on you? Generally speaking almost all relationships value monogamy.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: gzuf]
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Many would agree but that's not really what I asked.
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I mean, if you are monogamous, you probably don't want your partner cheating you be it past, future, etc.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: gzuf]
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Sorry, what I asked was how did you reach the conclusion that "almost all people want to know if their partner has cheated on them"?
Gut feeling? Research? Something you read? I'm curious.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: gzuf]
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gzuf said: Why waste your time on someone who cheats on you? Generally speaking almost all relationships value monogamy.
exactly. I actually just told her because she called me and asked whats wrong. She said "I already knew that", "we'll be okay", "are you sick of me?"
This seems unhealthy. How is she accepting this so easily? Why is she worried about me breaking up with her? Should I still end it?
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If you tell her, I bet she will dump you. Rightfully so.
If you continue to sleep in the bed you made, everything will continue on just as it is. At some point, your mistake and lie will be so far in the past it won't feel the same as it does at this moment.
Clearing your conscious and relieving your guilt in this situation seems to be your motivation, which isn't the morally sound decision in my opinion. The opportunism is evident.
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ModestMouse said: This seems unhealthy. How is she accepting this so easily? Why is she worried about me breaking up with her? Should I still end it?
Has she got self esteem issues?
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: SoreSpore]
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Read my above post. I expected her to dump me. That hasn't happened as of now.
YES she does have self esteem issues.
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I agree with luvdemshrooms.
Admitting you had sex is absolutely retarded. You take this kind of shit to the grave. You can't change your scumbag actions, no reason to make more scumbag actions and bring her down with you.
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Why not just end it OP? Easier for all parties
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Personally, I couldn't be with someone who doesn't respect themselves enough to kick my ass if I did cheat. I've ended a relationship in the past when my (then) GF would repeatedly turn my shit behaviour around on herself and find a way to make it her fault.
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Mush4Brains said: You take this kind of shit to the grave.
How can an aspiring psychonaut realistically do that? A real mind explorer takes nothing to the grave. The deeper I bury it the bigger a splash it will make when it surfaces during a trip/meltdown. That's ridiculous.
Not even that, but a girl who I care about deserves to know exactly where she stands.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Juicin]
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Juicin said: Why not just end it OP? Easier for all parties
Then she will have to live wondering why. Or should the OP make up another lie as a reason to end the relationship?
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Hobozen]
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How long ago do you think she found out? When you told her it was just a kiss, do you think she maybe already knew it was more?
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You're being melodramatic she'll move on and so will he. And the next guy won't have to deal with trust issues OP caused
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I don't think she ever found out but she probably always had a suspicion in the back of her mind, and just played it off like it was nothing out of shock.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Juicin]
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Juicin said: And the next guy won't have to deal with trust issues OP caused
I'm guessing you've never known many women who's ex cheated on them.
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This isnt the first time she's been cheated on by a guy, which is why I initially kept it a secret.
It's fucked up, what I did.
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ModestMouse said: From a logical standpoint though, keeping this a secret for longer will hurt her more in the long run. I don't see what you're getting at?
How is her not knowing you cheated and lied going to hurt her more in the long run?
I don't believe hurting her to make yourself feel better is the right thing to do.
Just because OP doesn't tell her doesn't mean she won't find out sooner or later. These things have way of coming out regardless of who tries to keep the secret. The longer the relationship goes on and the longer she grows attached to OP, the more it's going to hurt when she does find out.
I've also never known a single person who didn't/wouldn't want to know when they were being cheated on.
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Edit: NVM
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ModestMouse said: I actually just told her because she called me and asked whats wrong. She said "I already knew that", "we'll be okay", "are you sick of me?"
Quoting just in case some people think she still doesn't know.
OP, I would recommend having a talk with her in person and try to see how she really feels. It sounds to me like she just wants to be with you, and is obviously willing to put it behind her. If you feel she is someone you really think is right for you and vice versa, maybe it can work out. I'm sure you've learned not to do things like cheating in the future, and maybe she knows that. But then again, maybe she's not the kind of person you can respect for how she dealt with this. It's really up to you.
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OP!!!
Welcome back to the singles world!!! You are gonna LOVE it! Freedom of speech, liberty, the right to assemble with your friends. Pretty much everything the constitution is supposed to give you
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Patlal]
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Why not have two girl friends? Maybe both are OK with you not being exclusive, two female friends with benefits would be super duper.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: qman]
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Hope your prepared to lose the one you cheated on if you admit it. Just a heads up
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: qman]
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dude telling her is the most selfish shit u can do.
the only person who's going to feel better is YOU.
just let it go and don't do it again... absolute best thing to do. trust me.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: NWlight]
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enjoy the many hours even days of emotional distress because of your irrational impulsive decisions
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: thelanzii]
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hours and days are nothing compared to what it would do to his gf.
and if he is serious about being with her then telling her could ruin a potentially long-term relationship
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: NWlight]
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NWlight said: and if he is serious about being with her then telling her could ruin a potentially long-term relationship
He should of thought of that when he was cheating on her.
I'd prefer to know if my partner cheated on me in the past, as it shows me what kind of person they truly are.
Cheaters are some of the biggest scums of the earth.
It was the right thing to do, he's letting her know who she is in a relationship with.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Everlong]
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Idk man I say if he doesnt do it again then all it would do is hurt her.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Everlong]
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Idk man I say if he doesnt do it again then all it would do is hurt her.
Then again I'm not a big risk taker
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: NWlight]
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I already told her - see above posts.
I'm just gonna see how the aftermath goes. I already expected her to break up with me but it seems thats not what she wants.
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NWlight said: Idk man I say if he doesnt do it again then all it would do is hurt her.
but then I'm not a big risk taker
I get the point you are trying to make, you aren't the first one in the thread to look at it that way.
I think it's sorta bullshit logic to keep it to yourself. "I'm not going to tell her to protect her feelings." No, you aren't telling because you know you fucked up and it could potentially ruin your chances with said person. I gamble that not many people want to have a false cloak over their eyes about the relationship they're in.
I just like the truth.
And hate cheaters.
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ModestMouse said: I already told her - see above posts.
oh, right.
good luck man keep us posted. i've always wondered how the truth works in relationships, never been good at it.
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I would say the chance of her impulsively cheating on you has gone up a large amount. She might say its ok and that she'll move past it and she might even believe it herself but it's just not true. Have her take a few shots and put on an episode of Cheaters and see how quickly shit hits the fan.
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: Bologna]
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Have her take a few shots and put on an episode of Cheaters and see how quickly shit hits the fan.

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LOL at all the people in this thread advising OP not to tell his girlfriend. Rationalizing cowardice and the self-serving motive to keep the relationship going afloat via deception under the pretense that doing so will save his girlfriend the hurt of knowing he cheated on her is truly laughable.
For a real, true, meaningful relationship, honesty is key. Don't like the results of being honest with your girlfriend? Don't cheat. It's that simple.
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ModestMouse said: I already told her - see above posts.
I'm just gonna see how the aftermath goes. I already expected her to break up with me but it seems thats not what she wants.
You are a shitty person. Break up with her, then move on, and not make the same mistake again.
If you fucked up like this, and this is something that has happened to her before. Dont know who it is, but this relationship doesnt seem healthy
Sorry bro, live and learn
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Re: Ending the lies [Re: deCypher]
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deCypher said: LOL at all the people in this thread advising OP not to tell his girlfriend. Rationalizing cowardice and the self-serving motive to keep the relationship going afloat via deception under the pretense that doing so will save his girlfriend the hurt of knowing he cheated on her is truly laughable.
For a real, true, meaningful relationship, honesty is key. Don't like the results of being honest with your girlfriend? Don't cheat. It's that simple. 
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ModestMouse said: From a logical standpoint though, keeping this a secret for longer will hurt her more in the long run. I don't see what you're getting at?
makes no sense
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