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Should I be worried?
#19198568 - 11/27/13 10:21 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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So my gf comes over after school, and she's wearing some REALLY fancy necklace that was handmade by this guy she hangs out with at school (and presumably only at school). Like I'm talking REALLY fancy stone, wrapped in brass wire that was hand done. Something you'd see in some REALLY fancy, upscale store selling for a couple hundred.
Not to mention she wasn't wearing a bracelet that I dropped $200 on for her nor was she wearing a necklace that I bought her.
Am I overreacting for feeling distraught over this? I mean shit it's pretty bothersome. I asked her why she wasn't wearing the necklace I bought her and she evaded the question a solid 3 times before saying "oh I cant find it"
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Jeez.
Is she always oblivious to your feelings?
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She prefers the necklace that she is wearing... For that day at least. You said yourself it was really nice.. Are you sure that you really want her to change what she is wearing to appease your insecurities?
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Re: Should I be worried? [Re: Irfan]
#19198872 - 11/28/13 12:04 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Thats why I havent said anything to her yet. Im going to wait until tomorrow or the next few days to see if she keeps wearing it.
I know the way im thinking is a bit insecure, but i put a lot of time into deciding what to get her, and for her to choose something that someone else gave her over me is pretty hurtful. Shes also been really flirtatious with the way she interacts with him from what i;ve seen. So all that combined makes me feel uneasy.
Yea it was nice, really fucking nice and for some random guy to give that to her just really puts me off, yenno?
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Anonymous said: So my gf comes over after school, and she's wearing some REALLY fancy necklace that was handmade by this guy she hangs out with at school (and presumably only at school). Like I'm talking REALLY fancy stone, wrapped in brass wire that was hand done. Something you'd see in some REALLY fancy, upscale store selling for a couple hundred.
Not to mention she wasn't wearing a bracelet that I dropped $200 on for her nor was she wearing a necklace that I bought her.
Am I overreacting for feeling distraught over this? I mean shit it's pretty bothersome. I asked her why she wasn't wearing the necklace I bought her and she evaded the question a solid 3 times before saying "oh I cant find it"
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Anonymous said: So my gf comes over after school, and she's wearing some REALLY fancy necklace that was handmade by this guy she hangs out with at school (and presumably only at school). Like I'm talking REALLY fancy stone, wrapped in brass wire that was hand done. Something you'd see in some REALLY fancy, upscale store selling for a couple hundred.
Not to mention she wasn't wearing a bracelet that I dropped $200 on for her nor was she wearing a necklace that I bought her.
Am I overreacting for feeling distraught over this? I mean shit it's pretty bothersome. I asked her why she wasn't wearing the necklace I bought her and she evaded the question a solid 3 times before saying "oh I cant find it"
First off, how old are you op, what grade
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koraks
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Anonymous said: Yea it was nice, really fucking nice and for some random guy to give that to her just really puts me off, yenno?
Have you asked her why he gave it to her? Have you told her that it makes you feel uneasy that she wears his necklace instead of yours? Do you guys talk about what worries you at all?
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Re: Should I be worried? [Re: koraks]
#19199759 - 11/28/13 08:23 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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@EdibleStereos:
What grade am I in? I'm 19, and in college. So because I feel offput by some guy going out of his way to giver her some fancy ass jewelry it automatically equates that I'm young, childish, and in high school?? 
I wouldn't care if it was any of her numerous other friends, but she has had an over the top flirtatious relationship with this guy. The guy has joked about her hitting on him, how he doesn't want to have to fight me so she can fuck him. He even said to her at one point "next time you're fucking your boyfriend think of me."
Bro.
@Koraks: I haven't asked her why he gave it to her, and I didn't directly say that "Oh I feel uneasy about you wearing this." I pretty much just asked her until she answered why she wasn't wearing any of the jewlery I bought her. I didn't want to bring it up to her last night, simply because she had a lot of work to do and so did I, so any confrontation wouldn't have helped. I'm going to sit on it today and think about whether or not I should talk to her.
Part of me feels like I'm getting played by both him and her based on their social interaction and him giving her this piece of jewelry, part of me feels like I'm just being insecure and should shut my mouth.
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koraks
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Dude, you quite obviously have to talk about it with her, because it's bugging you! What good is she to you if she won't talk about this with you, and what good are you to hear if you don't share your feelings with her? You're a couple, right, not just occasional fuckbuddies?
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Re: Should I be worried? [Re: koraks]
#19199782 - 11/28/13 08:30 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I know I have to talk to her, but I'm already insecure and she knows this, so if it is that I'm just perceiving this situation and being insecure I don't feel like that'll do any good 
She said last night before she left that if I feel ready to talk to her about why I'm feeling so down I should, so it's not like she isn't willing to talk. Really, I"m the one that isn't willing too.
And yea we are a couple, will have been dating for 8 months this friday actually
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koraks
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Anonymous said: I know I have to talk to her, but I'm already insecure and she knows this
So she knows (or should learn) it's important for you to talk about things. And if you've been down and she's wondering why and she actually literally invites you to talk to her...then just do it already!
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Anonymous said: I'm already insecure
Sometimes feeling insecure is justified if you are in an insecure situation...
Seems like there are bigger problems than a necklace.
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I think this depends on whether your gf tends to be materialistic, or sentimental. If she is the sentimental type, than I would worry that she may have some attachment to that guy. If she is materialistic, than that guy makes better jewelry than you can buy,
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Re: Should I be worried? [Re: koods]
#19202394 - 11/28/13 08:01 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well, you need to read a lot more into it. You know the back story, we don't. From only what you told us, it seems fine. If there's distance between you and her, recent fighting, etc, who knows what else could contribute to a theory such as yours?
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I don't know, man, in your situation I would really stay on my feet and watch for more clues, I really think this is not going in a good direction. Go with your gut, that's how I found out my wife was cheating on me. She was always texting, and guess who? Next thing I knew I was living alone in the middle of nowhere
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Re: Should I be worried? [Re: chobumms]
#19203133 - 11/28/13 11:39 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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chobumms said: I don't know, man, in your situation I would really stay on my feet and watch for more clues, I really think this is not going in a good direction. Go with your gut, that's how I found out my wife was cheating on me. She was always texting, and guess who? Next thing I knew I was living alone in the middle of nowhere
lol, not all girls who text alot cheat...
but the situation your in OP, is sketchy,
the best way to go about things is to play it cool, like look, if your talking with this guy, then maybe we should end this so we can still be friends, say that super calmly and mean it, she might not admit it at first (if its even true) but theres a bigger chance she'll own up to it then and not be so fucking retardedly bitch ass selfish.
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Re: Should I be worried? [Re: Endure]
#19203963 - 11/29/13 08:22 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Endure said:
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chobumms said: I don't know, man, in your situation I would really stay on my feet and watch for more clues, I really think this is not going in a good direction. Go with your gut, that's how I found out my wife was cheating on me. She was always texting, and guess who? Next thing I knew I was living alone in the middle of nowhere
lol, not all girls who text alot cheat...
He never said they did. He was referencing a specific scenario with his wife.
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Re: Should I be worried? [Re: pwnasaurus] 1
#19204484 - 11/29/13 11:15 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Man, this relationship forum is starting do make me doubt if I ever want to serious relationship in my life.
It seems like everybody on the continent is cheating on their significant other and if it's not that it's some other annoying stuff...
Can't we have a thread were people post how good things are in their couple? Just to give a little hope.
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Re: Should I be worried? [Re: Patlal]
#19204486 - 11/29/13 11:17 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Patlal said: Can't we have a thread were people post how good things are in their couple? Just to give a little hope.
We already have one of those:
http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/19024708
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Re: Should I be worried? [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19204497 - 11/29/13 11:20 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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pwnasaurus said:
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Patlal said: Can't we have a thread were people post how good things are in their couple? Just to give a little hope.
We already have one of those:
http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/19024708
Thanks dude
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Re: Should I be worried? [Re: Patlal]
#19206251 - 11/29/13 08:03 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Lol extremely fancy stone wrapped in copper wire ? man are you sure that stone isn't plastic and the whole as maybe a starter project for a jewelry class or something ? Jewelry like that always looked really cheap to me.
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