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yogabunny
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mixed signals.....halp!
#13945382 - 02/11/11 12:42 PM (13 years, 14 days ago) |
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so, i've been having this amazing connection with this guy i work with. i noticed him the first day i went in for training, but i wasn't sure if he might be gay or not.
after the restaurant opened one day he came in and told me he had a dream about me, and that began a hard core flirtation that's been going on for about 3 weeks now. we have so much in common it's just getting silly. last week he wrote his number down on a piece of paper and told me to call him if i ever wanted him to make me dinner and we've been texting pretty much non stop since then, and talking about hanging out outside of work but not really making plans to do so. and im concerned and confused about the phrasing he uses sometimes though. for example:
(in response to my using the word "huzzah"): i wish you did you use the word huzzah! for it endears you to me mucho
and: ..."i fear we have an uncommon bond"
and then last night (in response to me saying word wasn't as interesting without him around): "i hate that i miss you as much as you do, but life is life"
it sounds like he likes me a lot and is conflicted or scared about these feelings which is a bummer because i am like totally ready to get on with it and get to know him outside of our workplace....
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: yogabunny]
#13945741 - 02/11/11 01:56 PM (13 years, 14 days ago) |
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i could be wrong, but i think you're reading too much into that. Try making an actual time where you can hang out or whatever and then see whats up from there!
texting is so ambiguous, it's easy to misread. He's probably trying to be funny or witty or something.
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yogabunny
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that's entirely possible. damn texting and it's inability to express tone.
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: yogabunny] 1
#13947722 - 02/11/11 07:27 PM (13 years, 14 days ago) |
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Yeah too ambiguous. I would just be upfront and make a date and see what happens from there. If the date goes strangely then maybe there was something to it otherwise you're just psyching yourself out.
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StickyRicky said: texting is so ambiguous, it's easy to misread. He's probably trying to be funny or witty or something.
yup, sounds about right. but, based on everything else you've said, he seems pretty darn interested.
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He's fuckin someone else bro. But seriously, he's gay.
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yogabunny
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thanks guys. it's nice to be able to get advice from you guys because most of my friends are girls and we all think the same way, ya know? i love that i have like a thousand older and younger brothers here at the shroomery who will give me that male perspective.

i am going to try to make the hang out happen this coming week, and i'll keep ya posted.
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: yogabunny] 1
#13950358 - 02/12/11 10:06 AM (13 years, 13 days ago) |
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im hitch hikeing ill come to you if your hot and hippy
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texting is bad....
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: yogabunny]
#13955219 - 02/13/11 10:27 AM (13 years, 12 days ago) |
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Edited by Spooge (04/04/12 06:08 AM)
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: Spooge]
#13955424 - 02/13/11 11:30 AM (13 years, 12 days ago) |
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ZoooftheMoon said:
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..."i fear we have an uncommon bond"
that's a fucking weird ass thing to say 
I'd be thinking the same things as you.
Three things are possible here:
1. He's gay or is having some sort of personal issues with his sexual orientation
2. He has another woman in his life he may be dating or together with
3. You (and I) read to much into his comments
Like the earlier advice suggests, I'd go ahead and try to make some concrete plans. Make some very noticeable advances during your time together. See what he does.
This. or He may not want to date someone he works with.
Also, from my experience, when dudes are interested they let you know because they don't want you start dating someone.
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yogabunny
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well here's some more background information: he was married for 9 years, and has been divorced for one, and has an 8 year old daughter. i also just found out last night that he's A LOT older than me. i knew he was older than me but i was thinking 40, tops. he's 48. that was shocking because A) he does not look it AT ALL at all B) he's literally old enough to be my dad. weird. anyway, i am undeterred in my interest.
i am going over to his house with some other people from work on tuesday to get a tattoo. he has a really talented friend who comes down from VT once a month so a bunch of us are going over to get some work done, and he's going to give me a massage.
he also says and does lots of cute and flirtatious things, and i think maybe i am focusing too much on these few phrases, and i think it's cause i like him a lot.
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: yogabunny]
#13958149 - 02/13/11 09:16 PM (13 years, 12 days ago) |
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I never understood how women pursue men old enough to be their fathers.
I can definetely understand why he'd want to go after you. I hope I can score deliciousness when I'm 48! haha
Maybe that's why you've got some of those remarks. Maybe he's a tad uncomfortable with the thought of sexing up someone young enough to be his daughter? 
Whatever the case...a massage always sets the stage! enjoy
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: Spooge]
#13960164 - 02/14/11 09:11 AM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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i wouldn't normally pursue someone that much older than me, but i never would have guessed.

i am usually not attracted to guys who are even 5-8 years older than me but life is life!!!
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: yogabunny]
#19176075 - 11/22/13 06:57 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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we have so much in common it's just getting silly.
I love when that happens!
Since you got the tattoo over there, I have to ask. Did you two share the source of inspiration for the tattoo? I read a book recently that would be great to glean a tattoo from.
Usually, when we aim for something so permanent, we try and surround it with meaningful circumstances and people. Glad you found it.
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: Talib]
#19176438 - 11/22/13 08:34 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Just a guess here. Maybe he feels you are out of reach due to preconceived social constructs.
Either that or he has aids.
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: Irfan]
#19176697 - 11/22/13 09:40 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Maybe this thread is almost 3 years old.
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19176733 - 11/22/13 09:49 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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lol oh, Talib, why did you bump this old ass thread??
Now I kind of want to know what happened...
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Re: mixed signals.....halp! [Re: Irfan]
#19180837 - 11/23/13 11:17 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Irfan said: lol oh, Talib, why did you bump this old ass thread??
Answer: n00bs
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