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Anonymous #1
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I guess I need to vent about my FWB
#19161263 - 11/19/13 06:55 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I've got anxiety about this and I don't know why.... This summer me and a class mate hooked up, we are in the same major and graduate next semester. I told her right from the start that I have my priorities in check, that she is not one of them, and that we are friends first.. So whatever happens, we still study together and get through this major together... My feelings for this girl are primarily friendship based; sex is just something we do for fun, like playing pool... I'm really not very physically attracted to her, but apparently she's hot because she constantly has good looking dudes going after her. Maybe she’s just not my type idk...
Anyway, our friendship has only grown over the past months, and we thought it'd be a good idea to do a grow... I live in an apartment but this chick owns a large house with a spare bedroom that she just uses for storage, perfect right! So we start a grow...
As the time has passed she has started hooking up with this dude, I mean she always hooks up with dudes but this dude is different. She is keeping him around. I think that's awesome for her, especially considering that she feels like she is destined to never connect with someone. This is where my frustration has started…
When I got word that she was digging this dude I kind of backed off sexually from her, see, this is the type of chick that will keep someone stringing along without ever committing. Meanwhile the dude thinks they are “kinda together” while she’s fucking other guys without his knowledge.. Dude finds out and she’s like “What we weren’t officially dating or anything”.. Yea… You can see why im not romantically into this chick. As her good friend, I hear about all these stories. Don’t get me wrong though she’s still a cool chick, just not what I consider dating material.
Here’s the thing, this dude seems like a nice guy.. And IDK, I just don’t really want to be the guy fucking her while he thinks they are building something really special.. I mean shit, maybe they are. Maybe me fucking her has nothing to do with anything… Anyway, im starting to get a little frustrated.. No.. Scared even..
See, we have this friendship, I mean we are really tight.. I’ve got keys to this chick’s house; we spend a lot of time together. I’m worried that this new dude is going to fuck everything up, not the sex, I could care less.. But the friendship.. She has already started hanging out with this dude a lot, and to make matters worse our grow is underway and the tubs are ready to case. I tried to make plans with her to case the tubs and she’s too busy with this guy to do it this week. This kind of pisses me off to be honest.. And since the grow is at her house it’s beyond my control…
So now I’ve got all of these paranoid thoughts like maybe she’s going to get with this dude officially.. I already know this will add friction to our friendship. Just the time investment of a relationship alone.. And I suspect this dude will be jealous of me spending time with her, no, I guarantee he will. It’s like all guys get super jealous and possessive over their women… This chick is far from trustworthy and I do tend to fuck her from time to time, but this guy wouldn’t know any of that. Anyway, the paranoid thoughts keep piling up, like what if she tells him about the grow even though I told her repeatedly not to tell anyone? I’m stressed about that, im stressed about the grow itself because her priorities are quickly changing… I’m worried about our friendship.. Maybe im a little worried about the sex, idk… Sometimes I even wonder if im a little jealous.. But what am I jealous of? I don’t think I’m jealous of him romancing with her, but maybe not having as much of her time anymore?? IDK
All I know is im stressing about all this shit instead of getting any of my school work done which stresses me out even more… I can’t vent to her because I’ve got to keep this dynamic super straight since a portion of our relationship is a professional one… I need this chick and her friends to get me through next semester, we do awesome study sessions together.. So no matter what, I can’t lose my cool.
Edited by Anonymous (11/19/13 11:37 PM)
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Black_Sunset
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Re: I guess I need to vent about my FWB [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19162613 - 11/19/13 10:24 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Sounds like a very volatile situation and I would think about yourself first and foremost.
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Re: I guess I need to vent about my FWB [Re: Black_Sunset] 1
#19162808 - 11/19/13 11:06 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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To me it sounds like you're getting a bit jealous, which is completely understandable. Also this sounds like a shitty situation to be in, I'd cut all sexual relationships with her and stick to just being friends and doing the grow together.
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Re: I guess I need to vent about my FWB [Re: Anonymous #2] 1
#19164440 - 11/20/13 10:44 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Honestly , you sound pretty self centered to me. It is inevitable that she will eventually find a man that will satisfy ALL her needs. Sounds like you guys have a good friendship but it appears to me that she is falling in love with this dude. You should be happy for her if you are a true friend.
I would be concerned about the grow though....they cannot be neglected ....they need alot of attention especially right now. She needs to step up here.
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Re: I guess I need to vent about my FWB [Re: Thayendanegea]
#19167687 - 11/20/13 09:35 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm prescribing 1 mg of lorazepam 2x daily,til next semesters completion
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Anonymous #1
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Re: I guess I need to vent about my FWB [Re: dutchfunkle]
#19168552 - 11/21/13 03:21 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I am pretty self centered... We both are actually...
I hooked up with her tonight, wasn't really expecting too.. I was really fucked up, drunk and high I mean.. She was pretty paranoid about me leaving marks on her so im thinking things are pretty serious with this dude. Anyway, its really none of my business.
I did have a chat with her about what I need out of her for this grow to be successful... It went well.. She is making time for us to case. I hate to be pushy but fuck, the mushies need our attention.
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Re: I guess I need to vent about my FWB [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19168560 - 11/21/13 03:29 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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You have the keys to her house, so why not arrange to tend to the mushrooms when she's not there with the dude, if it's going to be weird.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: I guess I need to vent about my FWB [Re: barong]
#19168577 - 11/21/13 03:41 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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It's just kind of hard to organize... I mean misting and fanning is one thing but prepping the casing, pasteurizing, cooling, and then applying it. It's tough to fit something like that into a specific time window, it can easily take longer than expected... Plus cleanup, her house has to be tip top when he comes over. Assuming she is indeed not telling him about the grow.. Which at this point I am pretty sure she has not.
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Re: I guess I need to vent about my FWB [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19168924 - 11/21/13 08:13 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Do insist on her not telling the new dude.....There have been threads here about jealous ex's calling authorities to small town cops that would love to get their names in the paper for busting a major "drug manufacturing" lab...that one always cracks me up. Meanwhile you got one tub of birthing mycellium and they're weighing the tub saying you got 10 pounds of mushrooms. Just be careful dude...and make sure she is also...If I were you, after this grow...split the bounty and split yourself. Also....I don't think casing is necessary...I once got 6 flushes out of one tub of uncased myc.
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Re: I guess I need to vent about my FWB [Re: Thayendanegea]
#19169137 - 11/21/13 09:33 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Stop fucking her and respect the other guy trying to get with her.
Toss the grow in the garbage
Get on with your regular life.
I dunno man, this whole thing seems toxic to me, I would be anxious too.
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