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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
#19157842 - 11/19/13 12:40 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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it's gotta be the self-loathing that's getting to him. he's not trying to sound like an asshole, i'm sure of it. he's just frazzled and needs to vent.
he may need some acting lessons, too.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
#19157846 - 11/19/13 12:42 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yeah.. That's what I'm thinking too.
I mean if its really that serious to him to be able to help people who are "dying" or whatever the reason may be, then it would be really difficult to consider him cold hearted.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
#19157854 - 11/19/13 12:44 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'd also like to think that you are right, I've been drinking tonight so i might be overstating my opinion.
To be honest, most of what I've been (pretty transparently ) projecting has just been spite.
I have a lot of compassion for people and I'm not in a good place lately because I've been exposed to way too much in a short amount of time and I am terrified to make a mistake... my mistakes carry a lot of gravity.
thus the pressure to perform and having to dismiss everything else but the prime directive, which is to be the best I can- has taken the #1 spot in my mind.
unfortunately, this is At the expense of lots of social activity and things i used to enjoy, so I am venting here...
It's all becoming a lot more clear to me. sometimes talking about a thing makes it more apparent to me what is really going on.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
#19157859 - 11/19/13 12:46 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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the phronesis he's tackling is an irrefutably difficult challenge. he's gotta relax a bit or he'll explode, but he'll come to that in his own time.
words can hurt, though, OP. my feelwings aren't petty. they're just orthodox and pithy.
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It's all becoming a lot more clear to me. sometimes talking about a thing makes it more apparent to me what is really going on.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Episteme
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
#19157869 - 11/19/13 12:49 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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It happens man. Its not your fault. There will be times when you will question yourself and I think for the most part that's a good thing.. Although I don't think its very healthy that its gone this far, but thats not any fault of your own..that happens too.
I don't want to say you will become numb to the after effects of your mistakes.. But you do to some degree.. That isn't to say that you don't care or aren't feeling anything. But after a while you come to a sense of understand that sometimes you don't have any control and you can't beat yourself up over mistakes.. if you want to be "productive" or meaningful then you have to move on. I know you know that but I was just saying it for sake of the conversation.
It's good to take a look at things the way you are.. But don't beat yourself up so much.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
#19157899 - 11/19/13 01:01 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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It really doesn't take a lot of time to make it seem like you care
i am gonna try and really take that to heart. maybe even saying something like "hey this is important to me but I don't have time right now to talk about it" much better than what I have been doing.
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words can hurt, though, OP

yeah that was a dick move
I think I'm going to try and find a friend who isn't also caught up in this madness and can put it in perspective when i start to lose it a little
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
#19157909 - 11/19/13 01:06 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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you know what i find is helpful... acting.
learn how to act... intrigued. even a little goes a long way. a nod, and smile, and then "welp, i've really got so much on my mind/on my plate right now, i can't focus on ectect", if you need to.
people will understand that. what people do not EVER understand, is when people react entirely out of pathos.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
#19157939 - 11/19/13 01:20 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I think you're on right track posting it in here and talking to someone else to give you a different perspective elsewhere as well..
Its kind of like your thoughts and feelings are landmarks all over the place.. Other peoples perspectives can help you give you land marks to help you identify where they are at and whether you need to go to another location or not.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
#19157956 - 11/19/13 01:26 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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good analogy. perception works in the exact same way. you take cues from examples in your everyday life, and connect them to either other concurrent views, or connect to a bigger impasse in your own experience, which you can amount to the foundation of your perception.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
#19157964 - 11/19/13 01:28 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I've been "training" myself to question my thought process and feelings a lot because of my disabilities as well as my substance abuse..
It's pretty useful and I think it's the same thing that hes trying to do.. Like you said it can be used for many things
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
#19157977 - 11/19/13 01:34 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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we all do that sort of unknowingly. trying to find meaning and purpose in our actions. the thing is though, "knowing why" is better then then not knowing. even if you "stir the hive", so to speak. sometimes we create our own problems in order to see what's right for ourselves.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
#19157984 - 11/19/13 01:37 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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No flaming in the pub.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
#19157999 - 11/19/13 01:44 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Well that is true..
But a lot of times we take our thoughts as truth and don't question them. Sometimes that is even more true than normal. At least I know I did.. I used to think oh well this this and that..and now I question it almost always no matter what it's about..
Feelings and emotions is a little different. Especially when considering the emotions I have with my disabilities. I always have to ask myself if they are primary or secondary and if they are appropriate for the situation.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
#19158007 - 11/19/13 01:46 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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They're not appropriate at all.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
#19158020 - 11/19/13 01:52 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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thoughts are just filters for our willpower. you should question them, as they might attain some relevance to a more pertinent question to you, or at the most... prevent you from drawing conclusions leading to you or someone else's demise.
emotions are just unanswered questions. again... question question and question again.
sometimes you might get the answer, and it might or might not be the one you're looking for. or sometimes you might just reveal your insecurities.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: thoughts]
#19158022 - 11/19/13 01:52 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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thoughts said: They're not appropriate at all.
you're not allowed to troll so i'm gonna quote this.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
#19158037 - 11/19/13 02:00 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm sorry, guy who's never met me in his life, what was i convicted of??
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: thoughts]
#19158083 - 11/19/13 02:26 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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oh now, lets not separate our fantasy roleplaying here, from real life... that's no fun.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
#19158102 - 11/19/13 02:48 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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He's on my ignore list for trying to bait me with injured pictures of soldiers 
He is a pretty pathetic person.
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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
#19158116 - 11/19/13 02:57 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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wow, that's pretty low even for a kid.
hopefully, the building he works in won't get a plane shot into it. that's would make me sad for him.
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