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Not having time for other people
    #19156802 - 11/18/13 09:03 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

lately I've become very antisocial and career-oriented.  I can't stand spending time with other people because I know I could be productive during that time and possibly do something that MATTERS.

How do you waste time on other people knowing that you aren't reaching your full potential by doing so?

is this a phase that most people experience in their early-mid 20s?


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19156808 - 11/18/13 09:05 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Dude I know what you're talking about bro. Those ppl are anchors, they aren't doing shit so you gotta move on.

Well you don't have to move on, but you're gonna notice yourself hanging out less and less.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: underfliptown]
    #19157106 - 11/18/13 09:54 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I think this is something many 20-somethings end up going through. I am very anti-social by nature, and I hardly ever hang out with anyone-- especially in the fall/winter, because I am devoting my time to my studies, but when I do spend time with my peeps I literally
consider it "spending" my time on other people because I value their company.
If you feel like you're wasting your time with these people then maybe they aren't worth hanging out with, or atleast not at this moment in your life. It is ok to focus on YOU and YOUR path and YOUR career and not so much on your friends/others for awhile.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157172 - 11/18/13 10:08 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Depends on how it makes you feel honestly..

I'm almost 30 and I am very antisocial. I am happy with that, I enjoy myself alone.

However, I have to draw the line sometimes. I can't just never be around other people, or else it starts having a negative impact on you. I don't have to socialize much but I still have to do it here and there.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157188 - 11/18/13 10:12 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I'm kind an introvert too, but I try to balance it with the idea of service towards humanity. Sometimes I'm successful and sometimes I'm not. Think about people who have been there for you when you really needed them. Wouldn't you like to be that somebody?


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157189 - 11/18/13 10:13 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I made a new friend recently and have been going out once a week the last couple of weeks and honestly it's nice to do, but I also find I enjoy being alone as well and once a week is more then enough for me...

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LordSenate said:


However, I have to draw the line sometimes. I can't just never be around other people, or else it starts having a negative impact on you. I don't have to socialize much but I still have to do it here and there.



This pretty much sums up how I am, I spent a lot of time alone and although I usually was ok with that, I started noticing it having a negative impact on myself.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: The5thElement]
    #19157277 - 11/18/13 10:31 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

What kind of impact?


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157294 - 11/18/13 10:34 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

For me I start getting extremely irritable.. Feeling depressed and cut off from everyone. Start thinking really negative thoughts and getting lost in my thought process a bit.

It's good to get out of yourself and socialize with people even if its just once a week. Like I said, for me I have to draw a fine line. If I socialize too much I feel drained because I don't like doing it. I feel pretty much the same + the other stuff I mentioned above when I isolate too much.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157309 - 11/18/13 10:36 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

people need people. not for social reasons, though. not unless you're the kind of person who becomes so withdrawn that they start to corral a negative attitude.

in the perfect world, we'd have a bunch of big clubs for socialization, and lots and lots of little boxes to live in with tubes to connect them, in order to send for things, and provide transactions.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #19157329 - 11/18/13 10:42 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

People don't need people for social reasons? That makes absolutely no sense.

Go ahead and isolate yourself and don't ever go out and socialize, then come back and tell me you don't need to do it.

Saying that you don't need people for social reasons and then saying the part about unless you are the type of person that starts thinking negative is weird because they go hand in hand.. If you aren't socializing then you WILL be that person. It's not about just having a bad attitude it can have a multitude of different effects on people but I guarantee that it will have negative effects on anyone who doesn't socialize.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157338 - 11/18/13 10:44 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

i was being facetious. the point being that, you'll harbor negative attitude and berate people for their actions not following in tune with one's isolation.

i was just making a point.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: tito123]
    #19157345 - 11/18/13 10:47 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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What kind of impact?





Well in the past I'd spend a lot of time alone, not really doing anything and kinda just stagnating. Stopped learning things and just kinda switched my brain off, smoked too much weed and just wasted time I guess. I stopped socializing and after a while I found I didn't really communicate with other people well anymore, I'd feel anxious and kinda unconfident with interacting with people, even with friends.

For a few years I had an awesome life, it wasn't anything out of the ordinary but later on as I started becomming more introverted I eventually lost some friendships, my girlfreind of 6.5 years, dropped out of college ect... Mostly just lost my confidence in myself and that kinda wrecked everything I loved about my life, then for a while life just kinda got bleak; I just stopped being happy. For the last 2 years I've kinda just been rebuilding after all that, I still enjoy my time alone and I feel that I need it in order to be happy but I defiantly need to at least go out once a week just to socialize and stuff. There's nothing wrong with being alone, but I think everyone needs some sort of interaction with other people regularly and every so often people should go out of their comfort zones and do something out of the ordinary. 

People need some sort of relationship with other people, eventually everyone gets lonely I think.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #19157348 - 11/18/13 10:47 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I edited my post, what I said before your reply made no sense.


So you're saying that you'll harbor a negative attitude for people that don't agree with your isolation or interfering with it? Is that what you mean?


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight] * 1
    #19157355 - 11/18/13 10:48 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

the machine won't have much time for you when your usefulness expires.

you are as disposable as those you dispose of.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157370 - 11/18/13 10:51 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

yeah. one would take it on the notion that "those people are wrong, and/or wasting time or not being productive ect ect" instead of looking at WHY they do what they do, and why you do what you do. (being the isolatee)

not in all cases... certainly. but i see it happening.

look at the opening post in this thread.

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because I know I could be productive during that time and possibly do something that MATTERS.




Quote:

How do you waste time on other people knowing that you aren't reaching your full potential by doing so?





see the insults? "i'm good, everyone is wrong and fucked". because they don't wanna be isolated, they're lumped in to a metaphorical pile of petulance. :lol:


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157387 - 11/18/13 10:57 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

NWlight said:
lately I've become very antisocial and career-oriented.  I can't stand spending time with other people because I know I could be productive during that time and possibly do something that MATTERS.

How do you waste time on other people knowing that you aren't reaching your full potential by doing so?

is this a phase that most people experience in their early-mid 20s?




Who are you to say what they're doing doesn't matter?


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #19157389 - 11/18/13 10:57 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Yeah, I definitely see what you're saying. I skimmed through it so I only got the general idea of the conversation.

I do snap at people when they invade my "space" often times. But I'm doing what I can to mitigate that and get myself out of "myself" and around people, even if its just for a week.

There is nothing wrong with isolating if it's done correctly.. Even if it's not it's that persons prerogative. Not to mention, who dictates what "MATTERS" or what's "PRODUCTIVE"? I would hope it would be that individual person whether they are isolating or not.. It goes both ways. Socializing or isolating.

I understand what you're saying.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: fiddle]
    #19157395 - 11/18/13 10:59 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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fiddle said:
Quote:

NWlight said:
lately I've become very antisocial and career-oriented.  I can't stand spending time with other people because I know I could be productive during that time and possibly do something that MATTERS.

How do you waste time on other people knowing that you aren't reaching your full potential by doing so?

is this a phase that most people experience in their early-mid 20s?




Who are you to say what they're doing doesn't matter?




if you knew anything about this dudes post history, you would already know that he's a flaming douche nozzle.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: greenspectral]
    #19157402 - 11/18/13 11:01 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

greenspectral said:
the machine won't have much time for you when your usefulness expires.

you are as disposable as those you dispose of.




In the end all that matters is who will remember and cherish your memory and what good you've done while you're here. Regardless of what follows at said end.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157418 - 11/18/13 11:04 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

that's because you do have other things you should be doing. i feel that way when i am too busy or have other responsibilities to attend to.


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