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Not having time for other people
    #19156802 - 11/18/13 09:03 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

lately I've become very antisocial and career-oriented.  I can't stand spending time with other people because I know I could be productive during that time and possibly do something that MATTERS.

How do you waste time on other people knowing that you aren't reaching your full potential by doing so?

is this a phase that most people experience in their early-mid 20s?


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19156808 - 11/18/13 09:05 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Dude I know what you're talking about bro. Those ppl are anchors, they aren't doing shit so you gotta move on.

Well you don't have to move on, but you're gonna notice yourself hanging out less and less.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: underfliptown]
    #19157106 - 11/18/13 09:54 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I think this is something many 20-somethings end up going through. I am very anti-social by nature, and I hardly ever hang out with anyone-- especially in the fall/winter, because I am devoting my time to my studies, but when I do spend time with my peeps I literally
consider it "spending" my time on other people because I value their company.
If you feel like you're wasting your time with these people then maybe they aren't worth hanging out with, or atleast not at this moment in your life. It is ok to focus on YOU and YOUR path and YOUR career and not so much on your friends/others for awhile.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157172 - 11/18/13 10:08 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Depends on how it makes you feel honestly..

I'm almost 30 and I am very antisocial. I am happy with that, I enjoy myself alone.

However, I have to draw the line sometimes. I can't just never be around other people, or else it starts having a negative impact on you. I don't have to socialize much but I still have to do it here and there.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157188 - 11/18/13 10:12 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I'm kind an introvert too, but I try to balance it with the idea of service towards humanity. Sometimes I'm successful and sometimes I'm not. Think about people who have been there for you when you really needed them. Wouldn't you like to be that somebody?


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157189 - 11/18/13 10:13 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I made a new friend recently and have been going out once a week the last couple of weeks and honestly it's nice to do, but I also find I enjoy being alone as well and once a week is more then enough for me...

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LordSenate said:


However, I have to draw the line sometimes. I can't just never be around other people, or else it starts having a negative impact on you. I don't have to socialize much but I still have to do it here and there.



This pretty much sums up how I am, I spent a lot of time alone and although I usually was ok with that, I started noticing it having a negative impact on myself.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: The5thElement]
    #19157277 - 11/18/13 10:31 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

What kind of impact?


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157294 - 11/18/13 10:34 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

For me I start getting extremely irritable.. Feeling depressed and cut off from everyone. Start thinking really negative thoughts and getting lost in my thought process a bit.

It's good to get out of yourself and socialize with people even if its just once a week. Like I said, for me I have to draw a fine line. If I socialize too much I feel drained because I don't like doing it. I feel pretty much the same + the other stuff I mentioned above when I isolate too much.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157309 - 11/18/13 10:36 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

people need people. not for social reasons, though. not unless you're the kind of person who becomes so withdrawn that they start to corral a negative attitude.

in the perfect world, we'd have a bunch of big clubs for socialization, and lots and lots of little boxes to live in with tubes to connect them, in order to send for things, and provide transactions.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #19157329 - 11/18/13 10:42 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

People don't need people for social reasons? That makes absolutely no sense.

Go ahead and isolate yourself and don't ever go out and socialize, then come back and tell me you don't need to do it.

Saying that you don't need people for social reasons and then saying the part about unless you are the type of person that starts thinking negative is weird because they go hand in hand.. If you aren't socializing then you WILL be that person. It's not about just having a bad attitude it can have a multitude of different effects on people but I guarantee that it will have negative effects on anyone who doesn't socialize.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157338 - 11/18/13 10:44 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

i was being facetious. the point being that, you'll harbor negative attitude and berate people for their actions not following in tune with one's isolation.

i was just making a point.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: tito123]
    #19157345 - 11/18/13 10:47 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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What kind of impact?





Well in the past I'd spend a lot of time alone, not really doing anything and kinda just stagnating. Stopped learning things and just kinda switched my brain off, smoked too much weed and just wasted time I guess. I stopped socializing and after a while I found I didn't really communicate with other people well anymore, I'd feel anxious and kinda unconfident with interacting with people, even with friends.

For a few years I had an awesome life, it wasn't anything out of the ordinary but later on as I started becomming more introverted I eventually lost some friendships, my girlfreind of 6.5 years, dropped out of college ect... Mostly just lost my confidence in myself and that kinda wrecked everything I loved about my life, then for a while life just kinda got bleak; I just stopped being happy. For the last 2 years I've kinda just been rebuilding after all that, I still enjoy my time alone and I feel that I need it in order to be happy but I defiantly need to at least go out once a week just to socialize and stuff. There's nothing wrong with being alone, but I think everyone needs some sort of interaction with other people regularly and every so often people should go out of their comfort zones and do something out of the ordinary. 

People need some sort of relationship with other people, eventually everyone gets lonely I think.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #19157348 - 11/18/13 10:47 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I edited my post, what I said before your reply made no sense.


So you're saying that you'll harbor a negative attitude for people that don't agree with your isolation or interfering with it? Is that what you mean?


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight] * 1
    #19157355 - 11/18/13 10:48 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

the machine won't have much time for you when your usefulness expires.

you are as disposable as those you dispose of.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157370 - 11/18/13 10:51 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

yeah. one would take it on the notion that "those people are wrong, and/or wasting time or not being productive ect ect" instead of looking at WHY they do what they do, and why you do what you do. (being the isolatee)

not in all cases... certainly. but i see it happening.

look at the opening post in this thread.

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because I know I could be productive during that time and possibly do something that MATTERS.




Quote:

How do you waste time on other people knowing that you aren't reaching your full potential by doing so?





see the insults? "i'm good, everyone is wrong and fucked". because they don't wanna be isolated, they're lumped in to a metaphorical pile of petulance. :lol:


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157387 - 11/18/13 10:57 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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lately I've become very antisocial and career-oriented.  I can't stand spending time with other people because I know I could be productive during that time and possibly do something that MATTERS.

How do you waste time on other people knowing that you aren't reaching your full potential by doing so?

is this a phase that most people experience in their early-mid 20s?




Who are you to say what they're doing doesn't matter?


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #19157389 - 11/18/13 10:57 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Yeah, I definitely see what you're saying. I skimmed through it so I only got the general idea of the conversation.

I do snap at people when they invade my "space" often times. But I'm doing what I can to mitigate that and get myself out of "myself" and around people, even if its just for a week.

There is nothing wrong with isolating if it's done correctly.. Even if it's not it's that persons prerogative. Not to mention, who dictates what "MATTERS" or what's "PRODUCTIVE"? I would hope it would be that individual person whether they are isolating or not.. It goes both ways. Socializing or isolating.

I understand what you're saying.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: fiddle]
    #19157395 - 11/18/13 10:59 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Quote:

NWlight said:
lately I've become very antisocial and career-oriented.  I can't stand spending time with other people because I know I could be productive during that time and possibly do something that MATTERS.

How do you waste time on other people knowing that you aren't reaching your full potential by doing so?

is this a phase that most people experience in their early-mid 20s?




Who are you to say what they're doing doesn't matter?




if you knew anything about this dudes post history, you would already know that he's a flaming douche nozzle.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: greenspectral]
    #19157402 - 11/18/13 11:01 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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the machine won't have much time for you when your usefulness expires.

you are as disposable as those you dispose of.




In the end all that matters is who will remember and cherish your memory and what good you've done while you're here. Regardless of what follows at said end.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157418 - 11/18/13 11:04 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

that's because you do have other things you should be doing. i feel that way when i am too busy or have other responsibilities to attend to.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157419 - 11/18/13 11:05 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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LordSenate said:
Quote:

greenspectral said:
the machine won't have much time for you when your usefulness expires.

you are as disposable as those you dispose of.




In the end all that matters is who will remember and cherish your memory and what good you've done while you're here. Regardless of what follows at said end.




maybe so...my cynicism makes me question such romantic notions, though.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: greenspectral] * 1
    #19157555 - 11/18/13 11:13 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

It doesn't have to be romantic at all. That's just the way it is. That's reality.

I'm not saying your "legacy" doesn't matter at all. IE if you do something that people remember far after you've passed away.. But personally I don't care about that... I don't really care about people "cherishing" my memory..

Just saying to me its important that when I pass away people aren't sayin "Oh that guy? Horrible person, screwed over a lot of people, I'm glad he died".

That's taking it to the extreme but you kinda get the idea anyway.

Also. I want to note that this may not have any impact on what happens after you pass away.. It may not matter at all to anyone but me.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: zZZz]
    #19157562 - 11/18/13 11:15 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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that's because you do have other things you should be doing. i feel that way when i am too busy or have other responsibilities to attend to.




Yeah, thats completely understandable.. However saying you're "wasting" your time on other people? That's pretty shitty. He may not have meant it the way it sounds but that's what it looks like. He may have meant just what you said. But it sounded like he meant that spending time with other people was a waste of his time.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157566 - 11/18/13 11:16 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Yeah, I definitely see what you're saying. I skimmed through it so I only got the general idea of the conversation.

I do snap at people when they invade my "space" often times. But I'm doing what I can to mitigate that and get myself out of "myself" and around people, even if its just for a week.

There is nothing wrong with isolating if it's done correctly.. Even if it's not it's that persons prerogative. Not to mention, who dictates what "MATTERS" or what's "PRODUCTIVE"? I would hope it would be that individual person whether they are isolating or not.. It goes both ways. Socializing or isolating.

I understand what you're saying.



damn right, it goes both ways. this is why you get this dichotomy in thinking... "oh well, they always wanna socialize and waste time"

the other school of thought is "well, they always wanna work on personal projects and be isolated"

both schools are wrong.

people are just doing that which gives them the least culpability in matters of the human conditioning, in this now very big world stage.

so if you think about... both schools of thought are both wrong AND right. right for doing what they feel gives them the most happiness, but also wrong for doing what gives them most amount of conditioning away from what leaves them culpable in the world.

basically... not any one person can DO EVERYTHING. simply put.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #19157583 - 11/18/13 11:21 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

It's just a thought loop I've been stuck in for a while now, and it makes total logical sense:

Any time spent doing things that aren't productive are detracting from my potential.

I don't see how you can refute that, and therein lies my issue.  The whole time I'm with other people talking about bullshit I could be learning or volunteering helping others somewhere.


I can't figure out whether I'm a sociopath or a workaholic.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #19157584 - 11/18/13 11:22 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Yeah, I completely agree. That is exactly what I meant when I said I have to "draw the line". Either one of those have negative consequences when that is all a person does. Socializing non stop will have a negative impact be it small or large. In the same breath isolating and never socializing will do the same exact thing.. You can be anywhere on the scale between the two whether it be a lot more social, or a little bit more into isolation.. It can work correctly in a multitude of ways for different people but it is something you have to be wary of all the time.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157589 - 11/18/13 11:23 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

being too much of one thing is often paradoxical.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157594 - 11/18/13 11:24 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

It's easy to refute that. What you think you have to do to reach your full potential doesn't actual mean it is helping you reach it. Potential can differ from person to person but you will always be judged by other people. So just because you think you're reaching your full potential, there is a good chance you will be limiting yourself in one way or another whether you realize it or not.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #19157601 - 11/18/13 11:26 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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being too much of one thing is often paradoxical.




lol.. It's been a very long time that I saw a word I didn't know the meaning of. Reading the definition made me feel stupid.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157607 - 11/18/13 11:27 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)



this is what happens with too much socialization. you start idolizing this "Jason" guy^
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LordSenate said:
Quote:

akira_akuma said:
being too much of one thing is often paradoxical.




lol.. It's been a very long time that I saw a word I didn't know the meaning of. Reading the definition made me feel stupid.



a paradox!


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157620 - 11/18/13 11:31 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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It's easy to refute that. What you think you have to do to reach your full potential doesn't actual mean it is helping you reach it. Potential can differ from person to person but you will always be judged by other people. So just because you think you're reaching your full potential, there is a good chance you will be limiting yourself in one way or another whether you realize it or not.



no ground breaking discoveries or advances in science are made while bullshitting about sports or playing video games.

And talking about feelings and girls and shit.. god damn :whatever:
total waste of time


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157629 - 11/18/13 11:33 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

not true. discoveries have happened away from the microscope. plenty of discoveries have happened purely out of coincidence and happenstance.

which is the point.

also why you are getting all uppity...


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #19157637 - 11/18/13 11:35 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

idk man i'm stressed as fuck and people keep wanting to hang out and detracting from my "me" time  :lol: 


I feel like i have some obligation to hang out with them because they're my friends but I don't want to at ALL.

probably why it's so prominent in my mind right now.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157642 - 11/18/13 11:37 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

well, take it out on them, not anyone else here.

it's YOUR problem. not their's either, so you'd probably come off as an ass.

you should be honest with them, and have them just abandon you as a source of friendship. you need friends that are... more you. you know?

or just honestly, all jokes aside... just tell them you're on a breakthrough, and you can just tell them later that it fell through "oops!". :lol:


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157644 - 11/18/13 11:38 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

yea i feel ya. just gotta keep telling them no. eventually you'll have all the time in the world.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157778 - 11/19/13 12:12 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Well that sucks you don't like talking about feelings.. That's pretty fucking insensitive.. I don't like talking about it either but it shows people you care.

I know akira said you'd probably come off as an ass. From what I've read, you sound like you ARE an ass.

It's one thing to want to accomplish something and not waste all your time, but saying peoples feelings is a waste of time is pretty fucked up.

That aside, what it comes down to is how you feel about the way things are going. Others peoples feelings and outlook of you based on your decisions should be taken into consideration but if you're happy with the way you do things then that's on you.

In this conversation there isn't really any good or bad way to be.. It's different for everyone.

Even though I don't agree with you in everything you're saying. I DO however completely understand what you're saying, I don't want to socialize with my friends sometimes as well and often times find it physically and emotionally draining. So I can somewhat relate to what you're saying.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157790 - 11/19/13 12:15 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

i don't have time to worry about peoples' petty feelings, as much as I wish I could.

there's people who need my help RIGHT NOW and their problems are 500x worse.

like, dying worse.


i'm just having a hard time finding a healthy outlet and some sort of happy medium with my time.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157798 - 11/19/13 12:19 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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lately I've become very antisocial and career-oriented.  I can't stand spending time with other people because I know I could be productive during that time and possibly do something that MATTERS.

How do you waste time on other people knowing that you aren't reaching your full potential by doing so?

is this a phase that most people experience in their early-mid 20s?




I'm in that boat too. I do think that it's a phase to be very socially promiscuous in adolescence. I used to party a lot and hang out with huge groups of friends, but it eventually took on sort of a "been-here-done-that" sort of feeling. I see the same thing happening with the very same friends I just mentioned. It's not a bad thing, it's just you giving yourself priority and figuring out what you want from life and what kind of company you want to keep.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157800 - 11/19/13 12:19 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

there are people dying everywhere right now, as i type this, someone just died.

you can't save everyone. no one wants to see you or anyone go into a state of perpetual self-loathing because you can't find any way out of having to deal with the worlds problems.

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I'm in that boat too. I do think that it's a phase to be very socially promiscuous in adolescence. I used to party a lot and hang out with huge groups of friends, but it eventually took on sort of a "been-here-done-that" sort of feeling. I see the same thing happening with the very same friends I just mentioned. It's not a bad thing, it's just you giving yourself priority and figuring out what you want from life and what kind of company you want to keep.



this is all true.^

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i'm just having a hard time finding a healthy outlet and some sort of happy medium with my time.



well, if it isn't people, then what will give a happy medium?

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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157837 - 11/19/13 12:38 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Must be nice to write off others peoples feelings as petty.

Just because other people need your time because they're dying doesn't make how someone else feels petty.

You just sound like a cold hearted asshole.

I have a feeling you're voicing your opinion a little further then what you actually feel.. I'm pretty sure you're just trying to say that you have to prioritize your time to deal with peoples feelings, you just aren't communicating that very well. Just because someones else's problems or feelings might not be a real big problem (to you anyway), just because you don't have a lot of time doesn't mean you can't deal with them a little bit. It really doesn't take a lot of time to make it seem like you care regardless of the fact if you actually do care or not.

Maybe I'm wrong but I'd like to think that its not the fact that someones problems are petty but just that someone else needs your attention focused on theirs more. It's effectively the same thing but it sounds a lot different if you express it differently.

Then again you just might be an asshole. :shrug:


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157842 - 11/19/13 12:40 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

it's gotta be the self-loathing that's getting to him. he's not trying to sound like an asshole, i'm sure of it. he's just frazzled and needs to vent.

he may need some acting lessons, too.


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    #19157846 - 11/19/13 12:42 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Yeah.. That's what I'm thinking too.

I mean if its really that serious to him to be able to help people who are "dying" or whatever the reason may be, then it would be really difficult to consider him cold hearted.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157854 - 11/19/13 12:44 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I'd also like to think that you are right, I've been drinking tonight so i might be overstating my opinion.

To be honest, most of what I've been (pretty transparently :facepalm:) projecting has just been spite.


I have a lot of compassion for people and I'm not in a good place lately because I've been exposed to way too much in a short amount of time and I am terrified to make a mistake... my mistakes carry a lot of gravity.


thus the pressure to perform and having to dismiss everything else but the prime directive, which is to be the best I can- has taken the #1 spot in my mind.


unfortunately, this is At the expense of lots of social activity and things i used to enjoy, so I am venting here...

It's all becoming a lot more clear to me.  sometimes talking about a thing makes it more apparent to me what is really going on.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157859 - 11/19/13 12:46 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

the phronesis he's tackling is an irrefutably difficult challenge. he's gotta relax a bit or he'll explode, but he'll come to that in his own time.

words can hurt, though, OP. :sad: my feelwings aren't petty. they're just orthodox and pithy.

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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157869 - 11/19/13 12:49 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

It happens man. Its not your fault. There will be times when you will question yourself and I think for the most part that's a good thing.. Although I don't think its very healthy that its gone this far, but thats not any fault of your own..that happens too.

I don't want to say you will become numb to the after effects of your mistakes.. But you do to some degree.. That isn't to say that you don't care or aren't feeling anything. But after a while you come to a sense of understand that sometimes you don't have any control and you can't beat yourself up over mistakes.. if you want to be "productive" or meaningful then you have to move on. I know you know that but I was just saying it for sake of the conversation.

It's good to take a look at things the way you are.. But don't beat yourself up so much.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157899 - 11/19/13 01:01 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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It really doesn't take a lot of time to make it seem like you care




i am gonna try and really take that to heart.  maybe even saying something like "hey this is important to me but I don't have time right now to talk about it"
much better than what I have been doing.

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words can hurt, though, OP



:sad:

yeah that was a dick move :lol:

I think I'm going to try and find a friend who isn't also caught up in this madness and can put it in perspective when i start to lose it a little


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19157909 - 11/19/13 01:06 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

you know what i find is helpful... acting.

learn how to act... intrigued. even a little goes a long way. a nod, and smile, and then "welp, i've really got so much on my mind/on my plate right now, i can't focus on ectect", if you need to.

people will understand that. what people do not EVER understand, is when people react entirely out of pathos.


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    #19157939 - 11/19/13 01:20 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I think you're on right track posting it in here and talking to someone else to give you a different perspective elsewhere as well..

Its kind of like your thoughts and feelings are landmarks all over the place.. Other peoples perspectives can help you give you land marks to help you identify where they are at and whether you need to go to another location or not.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157956 - 11/19/13 01:26 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

good analogy. perception works in the exact same way. you take cues from examples in your everyday life, and connect them to either other concurrent views, or connect to a bigger impasse in your own experience, which you can amount to the foundation of your perception.

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    #19157964 - 11/19/13 01:28 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I've been "training" myself to question my thought process and feelings a lot because of my disabilities as well as my substance abuse..

It's pretty useful and I think it's the same thing that hes trying to do.. Like you said it can be used for many things


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19157977 - 11/19/13 01:34 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

we all do that sort of unknowingly. trying to find meaning and purpose in our actions. the thing is though, "knowing why" is better then then not knowing. even if you "stir the hive", so to speak. sometimes we create our own problems in order to see what's right for ourselves.


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    #19157984 - 11/19/13 01:37 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

No flaming in the pub.:ban:


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    #19157999 - 11/19/13 01:44 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Well that is true..

But a lot of times we take our thoughts as truth and don't question them. Sometimes that is even more true than normal. At least I know I did.. I used to think oh well this this and that..and now I question it almost always no matter what it's about..

Feelings and emotions is a little different. Especially when considering the emotions I have with my disabilities.  I always have to ask myself if they are primary or secondary and if they are appropriate for the situation.


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    #19158007 - 11/19/13 01:46 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

They're not appropriate at all.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19158020 - 11/19/13 01:52 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

thoughts are just filters for our willpower. you should question them, as they might attain some relevance to a more pertinent question to you, or at the most... prevent you from drawing conclusions leading to you or someone else's demise.

emotions are just unanswered questions. again... question question and question again.

sometimes you might get the answer, and it might or might not be the one you're looking for. or sometimes you might just reveal your insecurities.


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    #19158022 - 11/19/13 01:52 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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They're not appropriate at all.



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    #19158037 - 11/19/13 02:00 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I'm sorry, guy who's never met me in his life, what was i convicted of??:confused:


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: thoughts]
    #19158083 - 11/19/13 02:26 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

oh now, lets not separate our fantasy roleplaying here, from real life... that's no fun.


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    #19158102 - 11/19/13 02:48 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

He's on my ignore list for trying to bait me with injured pictures of soldiers :facepalm:

He is a pretty pathetic person.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19158116 - 11/19/13 02:57 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

wow, that's pretty low even for a kid.

hopefully, the building he works in won't get a plane shot into it. that's would make me sad for him.


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    #19158129 - 11/19/13 03:06 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

He also responds to me even though I have him on ignore... weird


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: LordSenate]
    #19158140 - 11/19/13 03:14 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

well, i do that to Soulidarity :hehehe:... just to lampoon him, if it's relevant. i don't follow Soulidarity around though, and bash his deprecating grungy abode, or rub the movie ratings system of Australia in his face; when he can't see me. :lol:

convict is being particularly vindictive. dead soldiers? really? i mean, that's just crass and dysfunctional all by itself... but to another soldier, just to be spiteful? that's less then heartless, that's completely careless.


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    #19158150 - 11/19/13 03:22 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Check out the thread I just made.. It's not even got half of the stuff in it,  but obviously its the pub so that wouldnt fly lol.


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    #19158191 - 11/19/13 03:41 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

why do butthurt people love to bring OTD shit outside OTD? oh yeah... because :goatse: butthurt.


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Re: Not having time for other people [Re: NWlight]
    #19158199 - 11/19/13 03:47 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

hey op i was reading something before you made this thread about people not using their god givin gifts to their full potential and them going to waste or some shit like that. just thought it was pretty synchronistic.


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    #19158203 - 11/19/13 03:50 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

don't use it, ya lose it. :yesnod:


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    #19158206 - 11/19/13 03:51 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

exactly. something we can all relate to i think..


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exactly. something we can all relate to i think..



oh definitely, but the good thing is... there is more then one thing a person has.
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