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cez

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Re: General dislike of life. Input would be awesome [Re: Ace1928]
#19143787 - 11/16/13 01:15 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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One cool way of realizing the disconnect between you and your thoughts is this..
Ask yourself "I wonder what my next thought will be." Then sit and wait for your next thought.
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Ace1928
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Re: General dislike of life. Input would be awesome [Re: cez]
#19143801 - 11/16/13 01:18 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Ha cool. That is a really good tip. It breaks the chatter with a thought you consciously provoke and then forces you to observe your thoughts at the same time. Could prove exceedingly useful.
Cheers
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Re: General dislike of life. Input would be awesome [Re: Ace1928]
#19143814 - 11/16/13 01:23 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Confused2289
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Re: General dislike of life. Input would be awesome [Re: cez]
#19144041 - 11/16/13 02:58 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I suggest meditation. From my experience meditation has lead to happiness, pleasure, and calmness. Of course I am also quite Theravada Buddhist so it might have to do with those teachings as well.
A Buddhist would probably suggest not attaching to your happiness or unhappiness. Even though your unhappy, just remain calm, learn to be calm even though you're unhappy (or happy). It doesn't matter if you find meaning or not, you're still going to die. Might as well live peaceably.
It's up to you.
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Re: General dislike of life. Input would be awesome [Re: Confused2289]
#19144055 - 11/16/13 03:07 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I should also say that I've never been diagnosed with anything because I've never seen a psychiatrist.
But I have rarely been happy in this life. I'm a very isolated person. I've gradually learned to embrace my aloneness. It goes well with my practice of Buddhism.
Also lately I've realized that much of my unhappiness was actually caused by wanting something from people. I cut myself off from a lot of people and just focus on living skillfully day by day, meditating, etc. I get by, not completely happy, but much more happy than I was before.
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Re: General dislike of life. Input would be awesome [Re: Confused2289]
#19144076 - 11/16/13 03:17 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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sounds like its time to eat a lot of psychedelic mushrooms at once
if you need a great way to force yourself to see the things you take for granted every day, this would be it.
-------------------- "An ignorant man is lost, faithless, and filled with self-doubt; A soul that harbors doubt has no joy, not in this world or the next." -Bhagavad-gita 4:40
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Re: General dislike of life. Input would be awesome [Re: Ace1928]
#19144090 - 11/16/13 03:27 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Are you getting laid?
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Re: General dislike of life. Input would be awesome [Re: kneesocks]
#19144133 - 11/16/13 04:00 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Ace1928 said: I possibly suffer from depression (surprise surprise) or perhaps bipolar. And have recently been diagnosed with ADD (might i say that the drugs for add are wonderful and do help). I have a good diet. I exercise quite regularly and have a decently active social life as well. I'm intelligent and can do almost anything i set myself to do also.
I have everything that most people desire but none of it is particularly what I want.
I would love to disappear and travel. But for that you require money which I don't have.
To be perfectly honest I would be happy providing I had the basics of life and could do what I wanted to do. But you can't do that. No person can. Everything is dictated so heavily by money and expectations etc.
That is my problem. Money. If i didn't have to worry about it then I would have no worries. Which is one reason why I call bullshit to the whole "Money doesn't buy happiness". If you didn't have to worry about money you wouldn't have anything to worry about. If you wanted friends you would have them easy. If you wanted "love" you would have that easy. Money = happiness and simplicity. Getting money = misery and difficulty for most.
Thats my current viewpoint at least.
Your past sounds similar to mine in a few ways, maybe six years ago. And what you described about money kind of sounds like you aren't setting realistic short-term and long-term goals for yourself. Even people with money have lots of worries, and money is easy to make but for most people, it is also very easy to spend / difficult to save. As for sleep, sometimes I'd sleep less than 4 hours a night, for months at a time. Want to know my #1 motivator, the one that gets me going every day? The fact that I'm not fully where I want to be in life yet, despite everything that I've achieved. Over the past decade I've been through dozens of prescription antidepressants and sleep aids, but as of today I'm not taking them. Sometimes I'm so tired after work that, even though I'd normally think about things while laying in bed waiting for sleep, I'd be out before I knew it.
Years ago I ditched alcohol, weed, dating, and unnecessary chemicals to the curb because they're things that slow me from achieving the various goals I set for myself in life. But even if I'm not sure I'll ever reach them, slowly making progress towards them every day is very fulfilling.
So don't worry about the future; control the part of life that you can control. Sometimes it may feel stagnant, or like its not going anywhere, and it's okay as long as you don't give up. May sound generic, but it's the truth to me.
Every mood and reason has its purpose. Every yin has its yang, and ups have their downs. You can't know unhappiness without happiness, and the sum of these feelings makes them all the more meaningful.
-------------------- "An ignorant man is lost, faithless, and filled with self-doubt; A soul that harbors doubt has no joy, not in this world or the next." -Bhagavad-gita 4:40
Edited by kneesocks (11/16/13 04:04 AM)
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Re: General dislike of life. Input would be awesome [Re: Ace1928]
#19144466 - 11/16/13 07:52 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Ace1928 said: Hey guys.
Just wanting to get other peoples perspectives on life really. Basically i love all the wonder and excitement that the world holds but i greatly dislike the way that life is. Im generally unmotivated and unenthusiastic about almost anything. I feel as though everything in life is dictated by someone or something else, like everything i do is simply the best i can try and do in the situation to get to my own goals in life but that is different to what society itself wants from me. I am seeing professional help. I am trying to change it. Nothing is working. Nothing ever has.
What are your views on life? Are there people who think like me on here?
Cheers guys 
As you age you get to refine your lifestyle to resemble your preferences. When you're young you have to go through much - good and bad to determine your goals for the future. Later in life you put it into practice.
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Re: General dislike of life. Input would be awesome [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19144489 - 11/16/13 08:05 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I think society today is controlled by evil people and/or alien lizardpeople... I do not believe it is possible to live a happy life inside this.
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Re: General dislike of life. Input would be awesome [Re: Icyus]
#19144746 - 11/16/13 10:23 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hey bud,
one of the reasons I say you should volunteer, adopt, leave the country, etc. is that there are people all over the world in less fortunate conditions than many of us find ourselves in from day to day. Find a homeless person, a parent, a teacher, anyone anywhere that you think looks miserable. Ask them why they do it, why they live, what keeps them going. You may find the most profound answers in places you'd never expect, and you may even help them ask the question themselves. Perhaps they never knew, never thought about it, yet will gain some knew understanding because some stranger had the balls to ask them the question. Maybe it sounds weird, maybe it is weird. So what?Just do it. Do not be afraid to seek understanding of this life from other people, and do not underestimate their ability to help you. Most of all, do not underestimate yourself.
You must realize that what you're doing on this forum is a very important opportunity for yourself. You are asking the question that we humans have been asking since the beginning of time, how can we be happy in this life? We live in a time like never before, and you may not believe me, but you are lucky to be alive to see it, and to be able to change it. You are changing right now by posting here, now. If you ask me, that's something worth living for.
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