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lunarpiscean
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people suck you probably wont find all of those things
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was just a writing i wrote
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Sagescruffy said: If you don't settle you might find what you're looking for.
Probably this one.
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Sagescruffy said: If you don't settle you might find what you're looking for.
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Re: what i want [Re: Atrium]
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I just want to say...that I am also a hopeless romantic and can relate to every single thing on your list.
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i wrote a list like that & vowed to never settle. i didn't (for 4 years) and now they're here w/ me.
 
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Ballerium said: I just want to say...that I am also a hopeless romantic and can relate to every single thing on your list.

I think everyone desires these things deep down from a partner. The problem is people settle for less, due to many reasons, but the main one is fear of being alone. Unfortunately by settling they sell themselves short, and decide they don't deserve the future they desire.
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pika* said: i wrote a list like that & vowed to never settle. i didn't (for 4 years) and now they're here w/ me.
  
This. This. This. The best advice I can give is never ever settle. I understand the fear of being alone but that fear can be overcome. Learning to love yourself is paramount to overcoming that fear, and to finding that special someone who is everything that is listed in the OP piece.
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It's been tough for me. The entire time I've been in relationships with guys I always have become emotionally dependent on them (even though they aren't treating me the way I should be treated) and then I feel too worried to break up with them or I'm afraid to hurt them in the process. But I've gotten to a point where I just can't take it anymore.
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Anonymous said: It's been tough for me. The entire time I've been in relationships with guys I always have become emotionally dependent on them (even though they aren't treating me the way I should be treated) and then I feel too worried to break up with them or I'm afraid to hurt them in the process. But I've gotten to a point where I just can't take it anymore.
Don't take it anymore. Seriously - take it from me. I was there once. So have many other people. But once you break free and learn to love yourself and get rid of your fear of being alone, your next real relationship will be like heaven.
With my partner of 3+ years we never fight (and live together) (besides a few times I can count on my hands from silly tiny arguments), absolutely no jealousy or controlling behaviour (trust is so key), compromise, know how to take care of the other person in the relationship and listen to them just because of love - and not because of an expectation of sex or favors in return. I am very romantic, my partner is not, yet we still work because we know each others love languages.
Once you realize that a relationship really can be everything you wrote in the OP - then you can make the decision not to settle and find that special someone who treats you how you deserve to be treated. The thing is, you have to fix whats wrong with you first (without knowing too much specifics I can't say, but could be codependency because of the fear of being alone). A psychologist will do WONDERS for helping you overcome these issues. Looking back at myself 5 years ago I can't believe what a different person I am. You owe it to yourself to get out of a relationship that isn't making you happy. A relationship should be the icing on the cake of life - anything less and it's not healthy.
It really breaks my heart seeing so many people posting similar things in the S&R forum, settling for those that are not worthy of them for fear of being alone / breaking up, especially since I was there once, and I also see it around me - my best friend is in a similar relationship and so unhappy, two of my siblings - the same story.
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i think what also has kept us together over the years is just pure jealousy and selfishness of not wanting each other making someone else happy. or someone else reaping the benefit of them and being with them. superficial reasons.. that i think has been one of the harder ones for me unfortunately. and i'm sure for him. it's been a long time coming....a few days/weeks we are fine then it's a 360 and we can't even stand each other. but always gritted our teeth and bared it.
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Anonymous said: i think what also has kept us together over the years is just pure jealousy and selfishness of not wanting each other making someone else happy. or someone else reaping the benefit of them and being with them. superficial reasons.. that i think has been one of the harder ones for me unfortunately. and i'm sure for him. it's been a long time coming....a few days/weeks we are fine then it's a 360 and we can't even stand each other. but always gritted our teeth and bared it.
Codependency.. It is horrible, I used to be VERY codependent and my relationships were exactly like you mentioned. Overcoming that was key to being enabled to not settle and to find that special someone for me. I would make an appointment with a counsellor, they can really help you overcome it. You deserve a better life. Don't be like my best friend, brother, and sister, who all settled and are in unhappy relationships.
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OP just hang in there. You have to have faith that your dream partner will come. Work on yourself everyday, don't focus on negativity and don't settle for nothing but what your heart tells you is perfect. You will find it...and all those years you spent longing for that love will feel like seconds compared to the eternity of your lover's embrace. Stay strong
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Threads like these give me hope for my future. Not settling is a tough, hard path.
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Giggle_Grower said: Threads like these give me hope for my future. Not settling is a tough, hard path.
Mmm the way i see it, it can only make your self stronger.
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Re: what i want [Re: Legend]
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Very true. Stills sucks in the meantime. Lol
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lol i've been singlfor years. fuck co dependency. it's only ever got me screwed. now a harmonious relationship. that i'd gladly work towards.
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OP - I really wish you wouldn't have deleted what you wrote. It was so beautiful, I wanted to save it and maybe show it to my partner. If, by chance, you saved it somewhere & would be willing to I'd appreciate that.
@tymoteusz3 - I just want to point out that NOT fighting is not an ultimate sign of a great relationship. I think the way a couple fights and what about is more the indicating factor of a healthy relationship or not. I also think it's good to be able to express a full range of emotions with your partner. I know GREAT couples that fight pretty regularly and others not so much. I guess it also depends on the individuals.....
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@tymoteusz3 - I just want to point out that NOT fighting is not an ultimate sign of a great relationship. I think the way a couple fights and what about is more the indicating factor of a healthy relationship or not. I also think it's good to be able to express a full range of emotions with your partner. I know GREAT couples that fight pretty regularly and others not so much. I guess it also depends on the individuals.....
Yeah you are right. It really depends on the individuals. That being said I think in most cases heavy fighting is indicative of relationship issues, at least the inability to relate properly to each other. But you are right - not fighting is not necessarily an ultimate sign of a great relationship - it could be that both parties don't care enough to even fight anymore.
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