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Dating a married Woman -Wrong?
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So I've been going out with a married woman recently, and we've gotten busy a few times. She's unhappy in her marriage, and claims her husband is a douche... I feel like a scumbag, but I really like her, and the sex is fantastic. Is it completely immoral for me to continue seeing her?
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Ya, that's jacked up.
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kind of, but I think its more immoral on her part for not telling her husband. I don't think its really immoral of you. Its not like you knew she was married before hand and then purposely went for that reason. You should encourage her to get a divorce. But yeah. Ultimately true love is all that matters. If you have real feelings for her, then that's whats most important. If you are just doing it for sex, then idunno.. its still more the woman who needs to tell her husband shes not happy.
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Genghis Chron said: So I've been going out with a married woman recently, and we've gotten busy a few times. She's unhappy in her marriage, and claims her husband is a douche... I feel like a scumbag, but I really like her, and the sex is fantastic. Is it completely immoral for me to continue seeing her?
No it's not. It's immoral for her to be seeing you. You're doing nothing wrong.
Actually you're doing the husband a favor if he finds out. Of course it's fairly likely he's up to no good himself.
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Re: Dating a married Woman -Wrong? [Re: Yesod]
#19132836 - 11/13/13 07:24 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yesod said: kind of, but I think its more immoral on her part for not telling her husband. I don't think its really immoral of you. Its not like you knew she was married before hand and then purposely went for that reason. You should encourage her to get a divorce. But yeah. Ultimately true love is all that matters. If you have real feelings for her, then that's whats most important. If you are just doing it for sex, then idunno.. its still more the woman who needs to tell her husband shes not happy.
That's kind of how I was trying to look at it. However, I won't encourage her to get a divorce because A.) she has two kids B.) I could never fall in love with a woman who is willing to cheat on her husband, and C.) I'm 24, she's 32...
A friend of mine said "if it's not you, it's going to be someone else", and I kind of believe him.
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Re: Dating a married Woman -Wrong? [Re: Icelander]
#19132840 - 11/13/13 07:24 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Don't put a ring on the finger or get too serious for that matter. If things ever turn sour you've seen first hand that she won't hesitate to go out behind your back.
Aside from that, if you guys are having a good time together, she's the one at fault.
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Genghis Chron said:
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Yesod said: kind of, but I think its more immoral on her part for not telling her husband. I don't think its really immoral of you. Its not like you knew she was married before hand and then purposely went for that reason. You should encourage her to get a divorce. But yeah. Ultimately true love is all that matters. If you have real feelings for her, then that's whats most important. If you are just doing it for sex, then idunno.. its still more the woman who needs to tell her husband shes not happy.
That's kind of how I was trying to look at it. However, I won't encourage her to get a divorce because A.) she has two kids B.) I could never fall in love with a woman who is willing to cheat on her husband, and C.) I'm 24, she's 32...
A friend of mine said "if it's not you, it's going to be someone else", and I kind of believe him.
If you are having to tell yourself its ok, that's justification and in most of my past experiences, if i find myself trying talk myself into feeling better about something, im usually in the wrong.
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Dating single women is wrong. They get all sticky and emotionally attached and then, like a stray dog, you cannot get rid of them.
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Re: Dating a married Woman -Wrong? [Re: Mr.PhilCybin]
#19133279 - 11/13/13 08:42 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Don't put a ring on the finger or get too serious for that matter.
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You're right - dating is wrong. We should all be robots and have emotionally unattached sex.
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Good point!
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Always wrong. If she cheats on him she'll cheat on you. You're not marriage material either btw. If you have to ask right from wrong on a public forum, I wouldn't turn my back on you. Try not to have an angry husband bust a cap in your ass.
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Talking about morality issues on a forum societal cultural constraints based off perception, that's all it is. Do what you want
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Re: Dating a married Woman -Wrong? [Re: fatchillin]
#19134525 - 11/14/13 02:20 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Considering their marriage and your own involvement in it, yes it's immoral. It could also get you beat up or killed one day.
If you need a good moral base in the future, just consider how you'd feel if you were the person being wronged.
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Re: Dating a married Woman -Wrong? [Re: kneesocks]
#19134599 - 11/14/13 02:58 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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kneesocks said: Considering their marriage and your own involvement in it, yes it's immoral. It could also get you beat up or killed one day.
If you need a good moral base in the future, just consider how you'd feel if you were the person being wronged.
And don't forget to go to church and beg for forgiveness for being a natural healthy man
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Genghis Chron said: So I've been going out with a married woman recently, and we've gotten busy a few times. She's unhappy in her marriage, and claims her husband is a douche... I feel like a scumbag, but I really like her, and the sex is fantastic. Is it completely immoral for me to continue seeing her?
Of course not, I always encourage people I really like to live their lives with greater degrees of secrecy and deception. It's good for their psyche.
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Re: Dating a married Woman -Wrong? [Re: CosmicJoke]
#19134967 - 11/14/13 07:22 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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What makes you think he's the one keeping the secret?
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Re: Dating a married Woman -Wrong? [Re: kneesocks]
#19135013 - 11/14/13 07:45 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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kneesocks said: Considering their marriage and your own involvement in it, yes it's immoral. It could also get you beat up or killed one day.
If you need a good moral base in the future, just consider how you'd feel if you were the person being wronged.
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