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thoughts on multiple partners
#19126611 - 11/12/13 02:11 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Ive been married for several years.. posted in this form a few times too with problems in my marriage as well.
Basically, Ive wondered if my wife was cheating on me. Which she said she never has, but has admit to thinking about it.
We've spent time figuring out our relationsip. Forgave each other for things we've done to each other in the past. We dont worry about the future anymore, cause thats pointless. At this point we are just living in the moment. taking thing as they come.
She has admit to wanting intamacy with other people. Cool. Good for her. Ive also thought about it, but I keep coming back to the feeling that I just want one significant person in my life.
What kinda sucks, I really like my wife. I am very happy with who she is and I really enjoy her company. I do love her. I do not want to keep her from being herself tho, and I hold her with an open hand.
She tells me that she loves me, and wants to stay with me as well. She also tells me that she is fine with me being the way she is wanting to live.
I perceive this as her wanting an open relationship.
I do not know how to feel or what to feel. I know that I meet the thought with a bit of pain, and feeling of loss.
But I also do not want to make my wife life a life that she does not want. I do not know if I could be fine with her going out for sex on the side then coming home to me. If I put myself in her shoes, the thought of going out on a date with another person, having a good time, then coming home sure is tempting. But I keep coming back to the thought that its not what I want.
So I turn to you shroomery, What are your feelings on this topic? I am still mulling over these thoughts. I know I will figure it out in time. I am curious as to what others feelings are on the topic.
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Re: thoughts on multiple partners [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19126649 - 11/12/13 02:18 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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There are some boundaries that should not be crossed. If you are not comfortable with it, explain that. If she disagrees, she can leave.
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Re: thoughts on multiple partners [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19126674 - 11/12/13 02:21 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have an open marriage but we dont date other people. If something happens we are both there if its in the same room or not. I believe sex is sex, animals do it but intimacy is a human thing and that should be left for your significant other. There can be no jealously at all or it will not work. Its something a select few can do.
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Quote:
brianstequila said: I have an open marriage but we dont date other people. If something happens we are both there if its in the same room or not. I believe sex is sex, animals do it but intimacy is a human thing and that should be left for your significant other. There can be no jealously at all or it will not work. Its something a select few can do.
This entirely. You are welcome to try it but just don't expect the thought or image to get out of your head if you cannot handle it. It very well could be the breaking point of your relationship.
All depends on you man. Are you comfortable letting other men have sex with her? Really think about it.
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Re: thoughts on multiple partners [Re: MoxyOx]
#19126808 - 11/12/13 02:50 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Oh believe me I've thought about it..
I understand that sex is just an act. Smashing and grindin. Body parts together.
It's the intimacy thing thats got me concerned.
Brainstequila, how do you guys make it work?
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Re: thoughts on multiple partners [Re: MoxyOx]
#19126831 - 11/12/13 02:54 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
MoxyOx said:
It very well could be the breaking point of your relationship.
All depends on you man. Are you comfortable letting other men have sex with her? Really think about it.
This 100%, also how comfortable is she going to be if you do the same.
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We dont do it all the time, im not the jealous type and neither is she. It would make me jealous if she went on dates or saw someone behind my back. The majority of the time if we do it its with some real good friends of ours thats into it too. Other times one of us would pick up girl, guy or couple at a bar or something one time thing never see them again. We just dont think of it as cheating, just having fun.
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