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Niffla



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Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick
#19122061 - 11/11/13 05:53 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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So this Iraqi dude I work with -- and he's a cool ass dude for the most part, started fucking around with this girl at work. She's pretty much a proud slut and would probably be the first to admit that, as she's always talking about how she just wants to get fucked up and have fun for the next several years. No marriage, no kids, no deep relationships...none of that interests her at all.
So anyway, her and the Iraqi dude went out to the bar and movies and stuff, as friends according to her, and they ended up getting plastered and going back to his place and fucking. Well somewhere along the line Mr. Iraqi Guy fell in love. Supposedly he put rose petals all over the bed for her to wake up to (I lol'd) and did a whole breakfast in bed thing. Okay corny as fuck but not stalking at this point. But it freaked her out and she told him the next day that they were just having fun and that she has no interest in a relationship.
She told me today that he's been coming to her office like 6 or 7 times a day and begging her for a second chance. He brings her lunch everyday and is always dropping by with flowers and shit he buys her out of the vending machine (I lol'd again), and according to her she finally blew up and said that if he doesn't stop communicating with her that she's going to report him for harassment.
The threat wasn't enough.
Apparently when she came home last night he was parked in front of her house. She said he got her address by going through files at work. Apparently he wasn't threatening or anything, just begging again. The fuck, bro. she didn't really go into detail other than that but said she's starting to get scared.
I think shit's about to go down. He's probably going to lose his job at the very least. And she's seriously considering going to the law if he keeps it up. I tried talking to him and told him he needs to get over her because things are only getting worse -- but he's all like "I'm so empty inside without her, she's perfect for me, I can't let go, etc."
Any of y'all witness any stalking shit like this? Or where a dude (or a chick for that matter) just couldn't let it go?
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Niffla]
#19122086 - 11/11/13 05:57 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Lol
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Niffla]
#19122122 - 11/11/13 06:01 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I call this oneitis. Everyone gets it now and then and I don't think it's particularly unusual. The cure for oneitis is to simply have an active dating/sex life.
It's virtually impossible to hold onto oneitis after going out with 5 other, decent women. Any man will find that everything he liked about the object of his obsession can be found, even even greater abundance, in other girls who actually do like him.
She ought to be flattered that he has a silly little crush on her. Trying to get him fired just makes her seem self-centered and unempathetic.
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Niffla]
#19122128 - 11/11/13 06:02 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I've thought I was in love before. Never like that though lmao. But I'm sane for the most part and understand when to back off. I'm a huge fan of not making things weird with a girl I feel for.
This guy does't have enough real world experience obviously. So let nature (or the law) pick him off or clear his feelings.
It's always the foreigners isn't it?...
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Niffla]
#19122174 - 11/11/13 06:11 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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mega creepy.
i have had a few girls stalk me over the years... most recently a girl from high school who moved to my city, I am the only person she knwos here so she formed an irrational connection.
O.O I've never had to move or call the cops or anything tho
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Dawks]
#19122206 - 11/11/13 06:15 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Dawks said:
She ought to be flattered that he has a silly little crush on her. Trying to get him fired just makes her seem self-centered and unempathetic.
I agree to an extent; I mean as far as I know he's harmless and just developed a ridiculously large crush on her (at rapid speed), but dude has to know when to let go and accept the fact that it's over. I think he took the drunken fucking as a sign that she was in love with him or some shit. I don't want to see him lose his job over this but he's making coming to work for her very uncomfortable I'd imagine.
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It's always the foreigners isn't it?...
Lmao when I asked him where he got the idea to shower the fucking bed with rose petals and the whole breakfast in bed thing he said he "saw it in a movie on Lifetime". My reaction was...DUDE WHY THE FUCK YOU WERE WATCHING LIFETIME?!
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Dawks]
#19122226 - 11/11/13 06:18 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Dawks said: I call this oneitis. Everyone gets it now and then and I don't think it's particularly unusual. The cure for oneitis is to simply have an active dating/sex life.
It's virtually impossible to hold onto oneitis after going out with 5 other, decent women. Any man will find that everything he liked about the object of his obsession can be found, even even greater abundance, in other girls who actually do like him.
She ought to be flattered that he has a silly little crush on her. Trying to get him fired just makes her seem self-centered and unempathetic.
oneitits is a FUCKING bitch, but all you gotta do is spend time with othr girls and it goes away. Honestly it's easier to get other girls when your hung up on one IMO because every other girl you could give a fuck less about making it easier to gain their attraction.
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Niffla]
#19122264 - 11/11/13 06:22 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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You need to take him aside and pull a straight Mercutio on him - his Rosaline don't want his ass.
Explain to him plainly that she doesn't have feelings for him, and furthermore, the concept of no-strings-attached sex.
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Niffla]
#19122273 - 11/11/13 06:23 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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not to make a generalization but thats totally what i'm doing maybe its a middle eastern thing, my old boss used to kinda stalk women he was interested in persue. not stalk but like be a major creeper. lol
i feel bad for the girl anyways
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: lunarpiscean]
#19122283 - 11/11/13 06:24 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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one time this guy was creepin on my girlfriend so I confronted him and he stopped.
maybe he doesn't know he's bein a creeper OP he needs a man to tell it to him.
in his culture women don't have opinions
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Niffla]
#19122284 - 11/11/13 06:24 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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That's so weird. I worked with an Iraqi dude that did the exact same thing. Got the co-workers address from internal work information and showed up at her house one night. She told HR at work and he almost lost his job. He told HR that she had totally been coming on to him and that he was only acting on her work place advances. He was a total head case that freaked all the ladies out.
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: pslyke]
#19122323 - 11/11/13 06:30 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Funny this is, he's been here long enough to be pretty much Americanized; he's in our age bracket, likes to party, is into the music scene, etc. I would've guessed that he understood this part by now. Guess not. IDK, maybe it's just ingrained into him because of the culture he saw as a kid.
But anyway I'll try my best to talk to him (and her) and see if I can try to defuse the situation at all so nobody loses their job. We'll see what happens.
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Niffla]
#19122332 - 11/11/13 06:31 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I fell in love with a chick after a one off but I'm too fucking lazy to stalk anyone. I told her I wanted to build on it but she wasn't down. I still whack over that one fuck though.
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Niffla]
#19122341 - 11/11/13 06:33 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Niffla said:
Well somewhere along the line Mr. Iraqi Guy fell in love. Supposedly he put rose petals all over the bed for her to wake up to (I lol'd)
Did anyone else think of the It's always sunny in philly 'Desert Rose' episode, here? I did. I then laughed as well
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Niffla]
#19122343 - 11/11/13 06:34 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Niffla said: Funny this is, he's been here long enough to be pretty much Americanized; he's in our age bracket, likes to party, is into the music scene, etc. I would've guessed that he understood this part by now. Guess not. IDK, maybe it's just ingrained into him because of the culture he saw as a kid.
But anyway I'll try my best to talk to him (and her) and see if I can try to defuse the situation at all so nobody loses their job. We'll see what happens.
Maybe he's just sexually inexperienced. Who knows, she could've been his first, stranger things have happened right?
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: TheFakeSunRa] 1
#19122344 - 11/11/13 06:34 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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TheFakeSunRa said: I fell in love with a chick after a one off but I'm too fucking lazy to stalk anyone.
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Synthe]
#19122366 - 11/11/13 06:37 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Synthe said:
Maybe he's just sexually inexperienced. Who knows, she could've been his first, stranger things have happened right?
He claims that he's been in a few long relationships but IDK, he could be fibbing on that one.
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: TheMule73]
#19122385 - 11/11/13 06:40 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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TheMule73 said:
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Niffla said:
Well somewhere along the line Mr. Iraqi Guy fell in love. Supposedly he put rose petals all over the bed for her to wake up to (I lol'd)
Did anyone else think of the It's always sunny in philly 'Desert Rose' episode, here? I did. I then laughed as well
never seen the show, but i thought the ideas awesome, its cheesey enough to work, except i dont think i could afford roses
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: hidenseek1]
#19122442 - 11/11/13 06:49 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I knew this big tittied married bitch who fucked a German dude we all worked together and she got so obsessed with him they fired big tits. Her teeth were all sorts of fucked but I still really REALLY wanted to fuck her. That German dude sure must have put a solid dick in her. I was jealous, too. She was just married a few months earlier. Her husband couldn't have been very happy about the whole fucking thing. Do Germans have magic dicks or something?
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Re: Dude I work with is straight stalking a chick [Re: Niffla]
#19128558 - 11/12/13 08:40 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Damn. I had the cops involved when I was "stalking" a girl my freshman year of high school. They didn't even find evidence of harassment and I didn't get in trouble luckily. I was a overly attached and probably crossed some lines, but this dude blows me out of the water. That sucks, man.
Stalking really sucks for everyone involved. The stalkers don't want it either. They're mentally ill.
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