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blackglass6219
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What should I do?
#19119739 - 11/11/13 10:22 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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So guys, I'm in a bit of a predicament. There's this kid, let's call him L. I used to go to school with L up until the point I graduated, and he's 17 right now. L owes me quite a bit of money (a little over $400), yet keeps making excuses, saying shit like "Oh man, I was fucked up that day, I have no idea what happened to it." I know for a fact he snorts heroin, pops pills like candy, smokes any chance he can get including while driving, and will use any drug he can get his hands on. I'm not bashing him for using drugs, but what he does to obtain them needs to stop. L isn't your typical urban drug user, he's an upper middle class kid, does relatively well in school, plays football, all of that shit. Now, with some simple online searching, I've found where he lives, where his parents work, where he works, where his brother goes to college, and obviously I know where he goes to school. I'll get to the point. Would I be in the wrong to notify his place of work, and parents, that he's using drugs and should be tested? I've tried reasoning with him, saying he needs to use moderation and self-control, especially with what he's using, and he just blames his 'depression' and disregards it. I'm legitimately worried that he's going to end up a junkie and fuck up his life, while at the same time wanting to teach him a lesson about why you don't fuck with people's money. I wouldn't bring LE into this, but I do want his parents to be aware what he's doing, and get him fired.
TL;DR ex-friend addicted to heroin and painkillers, should i get him fired and let his parents know before he fucks himself up?
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hidenseek1
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getting him fired is retarded, and telling his parents may be, i guess it depends on situation and circumstance
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blackglass6219
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I know his parents wouldn't get police involved. He was caught dealing oxy when he was 16 and they grounded him for awhile. As soon as he was able to, he went right back to it.
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Hmm. that would be like ratting on somebody but you definitely need to get it into his head that you don't play around. I don't even know what you can do. The kid is 17 and probably dumb as fuck. 17 years olds usually don't know the consequences of anything.
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Here's a tip. Forget about that money because you will never see a penny. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you'll be happy.
As for the kid, telling his parents is a good idea or a bad one. If his parents are supportive and try to help him, good. If his parents react by giving him a ton of shit and threaten to kick him out, it'll lead him to use even more.
In the end, that kid is the only one to decide which road he will take.
But like I said. That money is gone, the faster you accept it, the better
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Re: What should I do? [Re: mindgnome]
#19119782 - 11/11/13 10:30 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Are you considering this because he owes you $400 or because you give a damn about him?
It sounds like the former.
Good news is that you have an excuse never to loan him money again.
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$400?
If that $400 has anything to do with drug transactions you don't want the police anywhere near this shit. I would let him know you expect it back and then just leave it there. Consider it a $400 lesson on who not to lend money to.
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Yeah first off you don't want to loan this kid money/front weed ever again. Don't fuck his job up by calling in because that is something a sketchy person would do. I wouldn't really consider it ratting if you told his parents if you were truly concerned and cared about this kid. You need to somehow convince this kid that he is going down the wrong path though. If you tell his parents and he still wants to use the shit he won't get any better. Don't get the cops involved because that is shitty.
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Edited by mindgnome (11/11/13 10:34 AM)
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Re: What should I do? [Re: mindgnome]
#19119951 - 11/11/13 11:02 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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"About the money you owe me, forget it. I do want you to know that I know where you live, I know where you work, I know where your parents work, I know where you go to school, and I know where your brother goes to school. What am I going to do with this info? Absolutely nothing. Fucking up your life is not worth $400, but I am hoping this will help you to realize you are heading down a dark path. There are people who wouldn't hesitate to beat you into a coma for a fraction of the money you owe, and eventually you'll come across them. They won't put up with your bullshit excuses like I did, or care about what you're doing with your life like I did. Right now you are worth less than the dirt beneath my feet, and if you ever fuck with me again or try to contact me, just know I did warn you. Get your life together and stop fucking around with chemicals you know nothing about besides "they make me feel good." Stop blaming your pseudo-depression for the bad choices you make, and grow some fucking balls."
well, those are the words i left him with. this is not my problem anymore
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That's a good message to leave him with. People like this are hard to help, if you don't want to help yourself nobody will be able to help you.
If he decides to be a man and pay you back that's good, I doubt that would happen though. Good choice on leaving it alone at this point
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Quote:
blackglass6219 said: "About the money you owe me, forget it. I do want you to know that I know where you live, I know where you work, I know where your parents work, I know where you go to school, and I know where your brother goes to school. What am I going to do with this info? Absolutely nothing. Fucking up your life is not worth $400, but I am hoping this will help you to realize you are heading down a dark path. There are people who wouldn't hesitate to beat you into a coma for a fraction of the money you owe, and eventually you'll come across them. They won't put up with your bullshit excuses like I did, or care about what you're doing with your life like I did. Right now you are worth less than the dirt beneath my feet, and if you ever fuck with me again or try to contact me, just know I did warn you. Get your life together and stop fucking around with chemicals you know nothing about besides "they make me feel good." Stop blaming your pseudo-depression for the bad choices you make, and grow some fucking balls."
well, those are the words i left him with. this is not my problem anymore
Good copy.
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he will remember that message when he is too high to get up and walk around.
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