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The5thElement
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Registered: 07/01/12
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Loc: Canada
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Anonymous said: I'll just post exactly what I posted in the other ex thread.
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Anonymous said: No.
Exes are exes for a reason.
That off and on again shit never ever works in reality.
Once I break up with someone we stay broken up. There's usually not even any contact after the fact.
In some VERY RARE cases, if you are both mature enough.. and were good friends, then you could stay friends in the future. But that is extremely rare. But to try and become lovers again, after you have already broken it off once. I have NEVER seen that work. And I've seen a LOT of cases of BF/GF breaking up, getting back together, breaking up, getting back together. Been there myself before. It always end catastrophically. Save yourself the torment.
I have a friend who is married to someone that matches this exact situation. Literally grew up with this guy since I was like 12 years old, had the exact thing happen in his relationship with her... they broke up like 7 times or something, on again off again and then were split for like a year or two... Now they are married and the ONLY couple I grew up with that are still together and very happy.
Food for thought man
Edited by The5thElement (10/04/13 09:55 PM)
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Anonymous #1
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*sigh*life!
There's a party at my house and I just talked myself out of seeing if she wanted to come, but now I wanna invite her
There's gonna be a buncha other sluts here though...
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Anonymous #1
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I invited her but she didn't come.
I know exactly what I need to do and I'm just gonna keep the friendship we have going right now. It ain't broke, so why try and fix it.
I don't have many homies in this small town, they're all in my hometown. But she's a good homie. And I'll just leave it at that
I NEED to get laid though
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Anonymous #1
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Yea so, despite what was said up there. I actually did ask her on a date and she said no. I was actually pretty benzoed and slightly drunk when I did this.
She's pretty hell-bent on saying that we are toxic for each other, and we probably are. But I mean, we get along fine now and are pretty good friends, so we can't be THAT toxic for each other. I dunno man.
I'm not mad or hurt by it or anything and I hope I didn't make shit awkward because we still gotta do this group project together and I still consider her a friend. I just wanted to see if she would go for it, I guess
Sometimes, especially since we've grown older, I wish she would try this thing out again but maybe that'll never happen. But I shouldn't idolize her like that.
There's SOO many gorgeous women in this town and I've got nothing to lose so I needa get out there.
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itchmynipple
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Registered: 05/28/12
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Anonymous said: Yea so, despite what was said up there. I actually did ask her on a date and she said no. I was actually pretty benzoed and slightly drunk when I did this.
She's pretty hell-bent on saying that we are toxic for each other, and we probably are. But I mean, we get along fine now and are pretty good friends, so we can't be THAT toxic for each other. I dunno man.
I'm not mad or hurt by it or anything and I hope I didn't make shit awkward because we still gotta do this group project together and I still consider her a friend. I just wanted to see if she would go for it, I guess
Sometimes, especially since we've grown older, I wish she would try this thing out again but maybe that'll never happen. But I shouldn't idolize her like that.
There's SOO many gorgeous women in this town and I've got nothing to lose so I needa get out there.
if your taking this loss heavily let those emotions flow man, don't stress over the emotions in other words. just let the thoughts be there and go away, they will while don't stress about them. the more you stress the more it will be stuck in your mind.
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Anonymous #1
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itchmynipple said:
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Anonymous said: Yea so, despite what was said up there. I actually did ask her on a date and she said no. I was actually pretty benzoed and slightly drunk when I did this.
She's pretty hell-bent on saying that we are toxic for each other, and we probably are. But I mean, we get along fine now and are pretty good friends, so we can't be THAT toxic for each other. I dunno man.
I'm not mad or hurt by it or anything and I hope I didn't make shit awkward because we still gotta do this group project together and I still consider her a friend. I just wanted to see if she would go for it, I guess
Sometimes, especially since we've grown older, I wish she would try this thing out again but maybe that'll never happen. But I shouldn't idolize her like that.
There's SOO many gorgeous women in this town and I've got nothing to lose so I needa get out there.
if your taking this loss heavily let those emotions flow man, don't stress over the emotions in other words. just let the thoughts be there and go away, they will while don't stress about them. the more you stress the more it will be stuck in your mind.
I'm not really stressing. It just is what it is, I guess. We did some pretty unforgivable things to each other and while we can be civil now, I don't think all has been forgotten.
That old saying you can fogive, but you never forget...bullshit.
But I mean, it's cool. It hasn't weighed heavy on me or anything. I haven't spoken to her since yesterday, when I asked her. But that's not like a big deal or nothing. And now I'm wondering if I should apologize or some shit, but that would probably make it more awkward :/ Whatever man, I'll probably just see her in class.*sigh*
I dunno man, she's a real cool chick. But, fuck dude, shit happens. I just hope I can deal with it when she starts talking to other guys. Which, hopefully by then, I'll have a chica of my own to keep me company.
Main thing is, I need to get LAID!! And, I mean the company would be awesome. I could use some company.
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hr.paperstacks
warrior poet


Registered: 10/12/13
Posts: 14
Loc: da filthy durrty
Last seen: 9 years, 6 months
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you should ride out the shitty emotions. seriously puts some hair on your chest and once they subside, you feel unfuckinstoppable.
with the seeing her with other dudes thing, that's your ego tricking you into thinking you have some sort of say in who she gets to be with. if you can get over that and keep emotions unattached to her, it won't effect you.
if you are fixin to just smash with no emotions, you should check out the Black Philip show. Patrice O'neal had a brilliant mind about these matters.
it'll work out ,man. remember, she can only let you feel that way if you let her.
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Anonymous #1
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True.
I had my chance at flirting with a few girls at work today and it boosted my ego a bit. Had her blushing I think, but didn't get the #.
I'll be ok, I think.
I'm gonna check that show, just cuz Patrice O'Neal is a funny muhfuckah
I'll do my homework tomorrow
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Anonymous #1
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Aight, so here's the science:
Halloween party tomorrow at my house, should be a buncha ppl there. Homegirl is coming too, the girl this thread is about. She seemed pretty excited about it, was making a costume and everything when I saw her.
Dude, I still can't read the situation, but whatever. I think she likes me or likes that I care or something; even through all the bullshit. Still haven't hooked up since the last time we hooked up, which was about a year ago or more.
Thing is, I'm probably gonna try to put the moves on her at this party. Maybe. Pretty sure I'm gonna do it though. It's mostly gonna be my roommates and all their rugby buddies, a few of which I know but that doesn't matter. There will be other hot girls there too, just you know...
I just hope I don't make shit awkward but I guess I'll let future-anon worry about that.
What do?! Put my shoes for a sec and see what you think? I think I know what I wanna do and what my penis wants, but I just don't know if it's a solid move. Does this shit even happen to other people?!
Best not to overthink it though and just roll with it. Should be an interesting weekend.
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Anonymous #1
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I'm so dumb. I'm gonna go after some strange tomorrow. I don't even think she's gonna come thru, maybe for a bit but she said she planned on going to the bars. So dumb.
IDK why I get wrapped up in her so much.
Oh well. Here's to me gettin laid tomorrow!
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TrentBoyett
Aspiring Mycologist



Registered: 11/29/12
Posts: 16,000
Loc: Kazakhstan
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Good luck OP, honestly I would just try and forget about about her and try to talk to someone else, if she does happen to come through DSHSB real quick and then when she leaves go back to doing what you were doing.
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Anonymous #1
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She never came thru and I never gave it a second thought
I think it's cool to just stay friends with her. I'm cool with that, plus I don't think she's really forgiven me for things I've done in the past. I've forgiven her. But that shit takes time. But we are really good friends.
Ain't trippin. I was macking on all the honeys either way. Slept in the bed alone but it's all gravy. I probably coulda gone home with this one chick; my roomie went home with her friend...but I wanted food at 5 in the morning and they wanted to go home I was hungry and pussy wouldn't have satisfied my appetite
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JesusGoneRogue


Registered: 10/24/10
Posts: 9,495
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I'm so dumb. I'm gonna go after some strange tomorrow. I don't even think she's gonna come thru, maybe for a bit but she said she planned on going to the bars. So dumb.
IDK why I get wrapped up in her so much.
Oh well. Here's to me gettin laid tomorrow!
! need some strange r!ght MEOW
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Anonymous #1
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JesusGoneRogue said:
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Anonymous said:
I'm so dumb. I'm gonna go after some strange tomorrow. I don't even think she's gonna come thru, maybe for a bit but she said she planned on going to the bars. So dumb.
IDK why I get wrapped up in her so much.
Oh well. Here's to me gettin laid tomorrow!
! need some strange r!ght MEOW
It's true. I do need some strange.
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JesusGoneRogue


Registered: 10/24/10
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Re: Another Ex thread *DELETED* [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19104803 - 11/08/13 10:22 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Well yeah, she started talking to another dude. She hasn't said so explicitly but I can just tell.
She came over last night to buy some vyvanse and brought dude along with her. Was like "umm, I didn't know you were bringing company..." But I can just tell that she's hooking up with him or at least talking to him. I shouldn't assume but, yea. I just got a vibe. I was kind of an ass, just really wanted em out my house.
Plus she sounded fucked up on xanax. Said she didn't take any yesterday but I find that HARD to believe the way she was acting.
Maybe I just shouldn't give a fuck. Well, I know I shouldn't. Co-dependency sucks sometimes.
feels. Like I said, I just need some strange and a LIL bit more self-esteem. It's whatever though. I ain't mad. Sad a little bit, but I'm a big boy and mama didn't raise no punk
Just felt like filling yall in.
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dark3st
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Registered: 08/02/13
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OP remember how you said your girl is like me with BPD. Its not worth it man, if I were a girl I wouldn't dâte me vica versa. I. Wish you the best but she's not going to change its her PERSONALLY not just a period u know?
That said, you have an attraction I know to well. And no matter how hard you. Try and stay away you'll end up together again unless you or her move or die.
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Re: Another Ex thread [Re: dark3st]
#19129306 - 11/12/13 11:28 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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anon2 to anon 1 do you read me?
LOUD AND CLEAR
i'll try and give advice on this tomorrow buddy
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Anonymous #3
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fuck you anon 2 i guess i'm anon 3
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Anonymous #1
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Loud and clear brother.
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