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Kalypto
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How to get noticed online?
#19092377 - 11/05/13 08:33 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Im on a couple non pay sites to meet people , but I really dont get any responses.
Any tips to help get noticed or help keep girls from skipping over me
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Kalypto]
#19092470 - 11/05/13 08:55 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Say you have a BC?
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19092478 - 11/05/13 08:56 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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get off the internet?
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: hgmstl]
#19092481 - 11/05/13 08:57 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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hgmstl said: get off the internet?
Im trying but I have social anxiety and no way to get medicine
Also pretty broke and not 21 so its hard to just go out and meet people
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Kalypto] 1
#19092522 - 11/05/13 09:04 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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You're under 21 and you're worried about this?
Go live life, seriously.
The world does not revolve around the opposite sex.
Just get out and do stuff.
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19092524 - 11/05/13 09:05 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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mjmihalov said: You're under 21 and you're worried about this?
Go live life, seriously.
The world does not revolve around the opposite sex.
Just get out and do stuff.
Mine does , I have a psychological need of having an SO to be happy
Most of my free thought goes to finding a girl or how to improve myself to get one
Edited by Kalypto (11/05/13 09:10 PM)
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Kalypto] 1
#19093304 - 11/05/13 11:40 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Kalypto said:
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mjmihalov said: You're under 21 and you're worried about this?
Go live life, seriously.
The world does not revolve around the opposite sex.
Just get out and do stuff.
Mine does , I have a psychological need of having an SO to be happy
Most of my free thought goes to finding a girl or how to improve myself to get one
Read that to yourself.
Do you really want to be that person for your entire life?
As long as you tell yourself that you need a significant other to be happy, you find it very difficult to love yourself.
If you do not know how to love yourself, you will be incapable of loving somebody else for you will not truly understand love.
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: empty space]
#19093933 - 11/06/13 03:41 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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how to improve myself to get one
There were many suggestions towards that end in this thread already.
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: empty space] 1
#19094154 - 11/06/13 06:11 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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empty space said:
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Kalypto said:
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mjmihalov said: You're under 21 and you're worried about this?
Go live life, seriously.
The world does not revolve around the opposite sex.
Just get out and do stuff.
Mine does , I have a psychological need of having an SO to be happy
Most of my free thought goes to finding a girl or how to improve myself to get one
Read that to yourself.
Do you really want to be that person for your entire life?
As long as you tell yourself that you need a significant other to be happy, you find it very difficult to love yourself.
If you do not know how to love yourself, you will be incapable of loving somebody else for you will not truly understand love.
This. OP a relationship is not what you need right now and you will find yourself in a co-dependent relationship, that ends in hurt or misery. Work on loving yourself and being confident and happy with yourself - not needing anyone else to be happy. A counsellor can help with this.
-------------------- Yes this is tymo - I just changed my name Have you ever had a dream that you were so sure was real? What if you were unable to awake from that dream? How would you know the difference between that dream world and the real world? There is NOTHING better than feeling that warm dissociative fuzz creeping up your body from IM K Something abut that anaesthetic rush... Qualitative Research Chemical Effects and Experiences The Wonderful World of Methoxetamine The 3-Meo-PCP Chapters, Part One
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empty space said:
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Kalypto said:
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mjmihalov said: You're under 21 and you're worried about this?
Go live life, seriously.
The world does not revolve around the opposite sex.
Just get out and do stuff.
Mine does , I have a psychological need of having an SO to be happy
Most of my free thought goes to finding a girl or how to improve myself to get one
Read that to yourself.
Do you really want to be that person for your entire life?
As long as you tell yourself that you need a significant other to be happy, you find it very difficult to love yourself.
If you do not know how to love yourself, you will be incapable of loving somebody else for you will not truly understand love.
I guess I dont want to need to be that person , but I have always loved having an SO around all time , it has been the greatest times of my life.
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mjmihalov said: You're under 21 and you're worried about this?
Go live life, seriously.
The world does not revolve around the opposite sex.
Just get out and do stuff.
Mine does , I have a psychological need of having an SO to be happy
Most of my free thought goes to finding a girl or how to improve myself to get one
Read that to yourself.
Do you really want to be that person for your entire life?
As long as you tell yourself that you need a significant other to be happy, you find it very difficult to love yourself.
If you do not know how to love yourself, you will be incapable of loving somebody else for you will not truly understand love.
This. OP a relationship is not what you need right now and you will find yourself in a co-dependent relationship, that ends in hurt or misery. Work on loving yourself and being confident and happy with yourself - not needing anyone else to be happy. A counsellor can help with this.
I guess Im just trying to take a shortcut
Ive seen those charts about needing to love yourself first , and thought they were bs but i guess not
I like myself but I dont love myself I think because I have always been the outlier
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Kalypto]
#19094658 - 11/06/13 10:04 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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OP, at the risk of raising a few eyebrows here and there, I will recommend that you smoke some salvia a few times, before you make your online messages towards online girls.
Might seem irrelevant and unrelated, but it's totally not. Hear me out on this one.
I too had my days of trying to land some pussy online, on various sites. Hi5 and that crap, whatever was on a while ago. Like you, I noticed minimal to no responses. Then I smoked some sally, and I started coming up with the most fascinating shit to write to people.
You should know that most people on these sites, like you, are quite unsure of what to do, unenthusiastic and unimaginative, or if they are imaginative they don't have the balls to show it when writing. They may write boring shit like hey baby you so fine etc etc. The girls will have seen that message a thousand times and be completely unimpressed with it, leaving you to your loneliness and pr0n collection. Total downer.
Enter Salvia. You will find that days and weeks after a good sally experience, your mind is so fresh and wonderful, teaming with ideas and gnomes and wobbling jellyfish, that you'll be writing in wonderful Shakespearean manner and rhyming in pentameter and stopping these bored apathetic girls dead in their tracks when they open one of your messages. Not all of them mind you, those that are indeed too stupid to read anything with long words inside, will just not get it. But the decent ones will thoroughly enjoy the fresh energy you bring to the table. A little PUA training and some Salvia, and you'll have sweet sweet in your face in no time.
-------------------- Blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear.
For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Spacerific]
#19095283 - 11/06/13 01:00 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Spacerific said: OP, at the risk of raising a few eyebrows here and there, I will recommend that you smoke some salvia a few times, before you make your online messages towards online girls.
Might seem irrelevant and unrelated, but it's totally not. Hear me out on this one.
I too had my days of trying to land some pussy online, on various sites. Hi5 and that crap, whatever was on a while ago. Like you, I noticed minimal to no responses. Then I smoked some sally, and I started coming up with the most fascinating shit to write to people.
You should know that most people on these sites, like you, are quite unsure of what to do, unenthusiastic and unimaginative, or if they are imaginative they don't have the balls to show it when writing. They may write boring shit like hey baby you so fine etc etc. The girls will have seen that message a thousand times and be completely unimpressed with it, leaving you to your loneliness and pr0n collection. Total downer.
Enter Salvia. You will find that days and weeks after a good sally experience, your mind is so fresh and wonderful, teaming with ideas and gnomes and wobbling jellyfish, that you'll be writing in wonderful Shakespearean manner and rhyming in pentameter and stopping these bored apathetic girls dead in their tracks when they open one of your messages. Not all of them mind you, those that are indeed too stupid to read anything with long words inside, will just not get it. But the decent ones will thoroughly enjoy the fresh energy you bring to the table. A little PUA training and some Salvia, and you'll have sweet sweet in your face in no time.
I ended up just deleting my online profiles, there are too many pathetic guys there putting girls on super high horses , Ive had better luck with girls before I had social anxiety in person , Which I think I will try again once I get my life in a better place
I will not do salvia . Heard way way to many bad stories and only a couple good ones .
As for the PUA stuff I have spent lots of time reading it , but Im not going after HBs at clubs ( that I cant even get in) , I have the knowledge of how people work kinda , but I have no desire to further it and build a routine , I want to be able to be me , I studder sometimes and say wierd off topic shit , Id rather not be fake and not show that then end up that way who I really am and get left
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Kalypto]
#19095774 - 11/06/13 02:50 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I will not do salvia . Heard way way to many bad stories and only a couple good ones .
Read the guide that I linked to, read the thread and you'll see there are good stories. IMO 90% or more of the people with shitty salvia stories are doing it in very very very retarded ways. Read the guide and ask, or just ponder how many of those guidelines got completely ignored, or weren't considered in the first place. Anyway makes no difference to me, Salvia got me into psychedelics, painting, and made a huge impact on my life, so if other people can't follow simple rules what can I do 
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As for the PUA stuff I have spent lots of time reading it , but Im not going after HBs at clubs ( that I cant even get in) , I have the knowledge of how people work kinda , but I have no desire to further it and build a routine , I want to be able to be me , I studder sometimes and say wierd off topic shit , Id rather not be fake and not show that then end up that way who I really am and get left
Who said anything about HBs and clubs?
You have knowledge kinda? PUA means getting knowledge for real, and much more importantly learning to apply it with some level of consistency. Most nerds know in theory that body language is important. They still have shitty eye contact, idiot grins or fidgety movements that give away tons of anxiety and ruin the day for all involved.
You have no desire to build a routine? Mkay, you seemed to have plenty of desire to build routines for writing, walking, eating, cooking, driving a car, playing an instrument or learning the rules of grammar and punctuation. Are any of those covering up your personality and not allowing you to be yourself? Is grammar getting in the way of you expressing yourself, or on the contrary enabling you to do so even more clearly?
I say off topic shit all the time, the only difference is that with some PUA skills, the vibes of the off topic shit are much much better. The whole point of the exercise is so that you can say your off topic shit with full flamboyant confidence. Nobody will "find out who you really are" because practicing the stuff will actually improve who you are. It's not a surface mask you wear for 5 minutes. You learn some good habits and as you use them they become second nature. They become you.
If you learn to drive for instance, do you then spend every moment on the road fearing the day when someone will "find out who you really are" namely still a non-driver?
-------------------- Blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear.
For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Spacerific]
#19095821 - 11/06/13 03:00 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I will not do salvia . Heard way way to many bad stories and only a couple good ones .
Read the guide that I linked to, read the thread and you'll see there are good stories. IMO 90% or more of the people with shitty salvia stories are doing it in very very very retarded ways. Read the guide and ask, or just ponder how many of those guidelines got completely ignored, or weren't considered in the first place. Anyway makes no difference to me, Salvia got me into psychedelics, painting, and made a huge impact on my life, so if other people can't follow simple rules what can I do 
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As for the PUA stuff I have spent lots of time reading it , but Im not going after HBs at clubs ( that I cant even get in) , I have the knowledge of how people work kinda , but I have no desire to further it and build a routine , I want to be able to be me , I studder sometimes and say wierd off topic shit , Id rather not be fake and not show that then end up that way who I really am and get left
Who said anything about HBs and clubs?
You have knowledge kinda? PUA means getting knowledge for real, and much more importantly learning to apply it with some level of consistency. Most nerds know in theory that body language is important. They still have shitty eye contact, idiot grins or fidgety movements that give away tons of anxiety and ruin the day for all involved.
You have no desire to build a routine? Mkay, you seemed to have plenty of desire to build routines for writing, walking, eating, cooking, driving a car, playing an instrument or learning the rules of grammar and punctuation. Are any of those covering up your personality and not allowing you to be yourself? Is grammar getting in the way of you expressing yourself, or on the contrary enabling you to do so even more clearly?
I say off topic shit all the time, the only difference is that with some PUA skills, the vibes of the off topic shit are much much better. The whole point of the exercise is so that you can say your off topic shit with full flamboyant confidence. Nobody will "find out who you really are" because practicing the stuff will actually improve who you are. It's not a surface mask you wear for 5 minutes. You learn some good habits and as you use them they become second nature. They become you.
If you learn to drive for instance, do you then spend every moment on the road fearing the day when someone will "find out who you really are" namely still a non-driver? 
I will not do salvia regardless of your experience or guidelines my mind has doubts so I will never do it
Pua is focused towards those people and environments Ive spent too much time studying it
I dont do any of those regularly With the exception of grammar
I built my life to only have to do things I like So I just live and hope it will all be alright
Maybe I dont want to change into a PUA Maybe I just need time and to get some meds for social anxiety and experience , not some bullshit facade that I want to change into
I am not you and no offense man but from the sound of it I dont want to be like you
Edited by Kalypto (11/06/13 03:01 PM)
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Kalypto]
#19095862 - 11/06/13 03:06 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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When I mean improve myself I mean improve my life , go to school , buy nicer clothes , actually do something with my hair , not change myself.
Id rather be hated for who I am than loved for being someone I'm not
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Kalypto]
#19096065 - 11/06/13 03:47 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Suit yourself man, I was just sharing what worked for me.
I feel a bit of hostility that's IMO unwarranted, but I get where you're coming from. If anything gives you bad vibes (salvia, PUA, me) then indeed it's best to look elsewhere.
If you think PUA stuff is about "building a bullshit facade" then my job is done here. Best of luck and enjoy the ride
-------------------- Blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear.
For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Spacerific]
#19096975 - 11/06/13 06:46 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Iv tried salvia, and didn't have a bad time. I just think its too expensive for the duration. I also know 4 other people that have tried it (I was in the room with them) and none of them had bad experiences. Try putting a picture of you with an animal as your profile picture.
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Spacerific said: Suit yourself man, I was just sharing what worked for me.
I feel a bit of hostility that's IMO unwarranted, but I get where you're coming from. If anything gives you bad vibes (salvia, PUA, me) then indeed it's best to look elsewhere.
If you think PUA stuff is about "building a bullshit facade" then my job is done here. Best of luck and enjoy the ride 
I use to think PUA was great , but I have realized after talking to people it doesnt fit within my morals Sorry If I came off hostile
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SteelPanther said: Iv tried salvia, and didn't have a bad time. I just think its too expensive for the duration. I also know 4 other people that have tried it (I was in the room with them) and none of them had bad experiences. Try putting a picture of you with an animal as your profile picture.
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Kalypto]
#19098916 - 11/07/13 03:24 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I use to think PUA was great , but I have realized after talking to people it doesnt fit within my morals Sorry If I came off hostile
Morals? 
Well as I said I think you got the wrong idea, or got to talk to some weird superficial PUA students. It's a set of skills one can use to improve themselves and have more healthy, chill, flowing interactions. One can use them to get one night stands and deceive people, or to find a nice girlfriend or wife, just as one can use fire or chemistry for great purposes or for burning shit to the ground. The skills themselves are completely amoral.
We just got off on the wrong foot, no harm done. Good vibes, hope you find some ways that work for you
-------------------- Blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear.
For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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Re: How to get noticed online? [Re: Spacerific]
#19099622 - 11/07/13 10:00 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I use to think PUA was great , but I have realized after talking to people it doesnt fit within my morals Sorry If I came off hostile
Morals? 
Well as I said I think you got the wrong idea, or got to talk to some weird superficial PUA students. It's a set of skills one can use to improve themselves and have more healthy, chill, flowing interactions. One can use them to get one night stands and deceive people, or to find a nice girlfriend or wife, just as one can use fire or chemistry for great purposes or for burning shit to the ground. The skills themselves are completely amoral.
We just got off on the wrong foot, no harm done. Good vibes, hope you find some ways that work for you 
Ive bought multiple books Downloaded tons of movies From ones like niel stauss or what ever and mystery and matador and lovedrop
I wouldnt do anything I wouldnt tell someone about , If I cant tell the girl Im trying to talk to that I use PUA books and am a PUA then I dont want to
And any guy who says he is a PUA will most likely get turned down by any girl I want
Edited by Kalypto (11/07/13 10:06 AM)
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