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LysergicX7
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Sex etiquette?
#19085289 - 11/04/13 12:58 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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So i'm a noob and after a long hiatus I am probably gonna get with a chick soon.
I've never had sex, im in my 20's, and only had like 2 gfs. :/ I have questions. Not really nervous, but I am completely lost on sex.
1. If I'm getting a blowjob do I warn the girl before I nut? Like "hey i'm about to cum everywhere!" Last time this happened the girl just removed her mouth and kept jacking me until i came all over her hand and my stomach basically. Messy. Disgusting and kinda awkward. Not sure if that was normal or not.
2. After giving oral do you still kiss eachother? It's kinda gross, I wouldn't want to taste my own jizz and Im sure girls wouldn't want to taste thier juices either. How does this work?
3. Condoms, I hear people talk pretty casually about not using rubbers... isnt this just stupid? I know it doesn't feel as good but neither do babys. Wtf am i missing here.
There is probably other questions but i can't think off top of my head. Any tips?
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Honestly just go at it brotha.
If she's really into you/thinks your attractive she probably won't care to much how it goes.
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LysergicX7 said: So i'm a noob and after a long hiatus I am probably gonna get with a chick soon.
I've never had sex, im in my 20's, and only had like 2 gfs. :/ I have questions. Not really nervous, but I am completely lost on sex.
No worries, a little practice goes a long way 
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1. If I'm getting a blowjob do I warn the girl before I nut? Like "hey i'm about to cum everywhere!" Last time this happened the girl just removed her mouth and kept jacking me until i came all over her hand and my stomach basically. Messy. Disgusting and kinda awkward. Not sure if that was normal or not.
You ask the girl if she swallows. You can do this as she's blowing you, it feels great when girls answer questions with your dick in their mouth. If she says yes, you're a lucky bastard, just go for it. Make sure you have a lot of fruit in your diet, especially pineapple. If she says no, just finish on her tits.
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2. After giving oral do you still kiss eachother? It's kinda gross, I wouldn't want to taste my own jizz and Im sure girls wouldn't want to taste thier juices either. How does this work?
You not wanting to taste your own jizz might be right, but the rest is 100% assumption on your part, and as far as I know it's flat out wrong. Fingering a girl and then giving her a taste of herself from your fingers is totally legit. Girls masturbate. You think they don't know what they taste like, and also, that they haven't associated that taste with pleasant sensations?
But generally, when in doubt you can ask. When you have preferences you should tell. Nobody's that good of a mindreader.
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3. Condoms, I hear people talk pretty casually about not using rubbers... isnt this just stupid? I know it doesn't feel as good but neither do babys. Wtf am i missing here.
Wear a condom. Wear a condom. Wear a condom. Every fucking time wear a condom. Once you know the girl well enough to trust her (when she says she's clean and on the pill) then you can start to THINK about not wearing a condom. Paranoia is way better here than taking needless risks. Never have I thought back in regret "Oh man I should have nailed that girl without a condom." That never happens. The opposite however can completely fuck up your life, and not just yours. When in doubt, assume the girl is a complete retard and YOU are the only sane responsible person in the room. It's on you. Wear a condom and happy bangin 
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There is probably other questions but i can't think off top of my head. Any tips?
One awesome piece of advice a girl gave me years ago was "Do what you really feel." Don't copy/paste from porn, don't even copy/paste from other girls or anything. If you're new at this and are a little shy you can tell the girl, I doubt most girls would mind. Take your time, get used to the girl and let her get used to you and you'll be fine
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Synthe
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LysergicX7 said: So i'm a noob and after a long hiatus I am probably gonna get with a chick soon.
I've never had sex,
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LysergicX7 said: If I'm getting a blowjob do I warn the girl before I nut? Like "hey i'm about to cum everywhere!" Last time this happened the girl just removed her mouth and kept jacking me until i came all over her hand and my stomach basically. Messy. Disgusting and kinda awkward. Not sure if that was normal or not.

Oral sex is still sex. I get really irritated when people receive/give blowjobs and call themselves virgins... even when they've done it with a dozen people.
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Re: Sex etiquette? [Re: Synthe]
#19085464 - 11/04/13 01:42 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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That's just like, your opinion, man. I disagree. We had a big poll on here before and it most people agreed that penetrative sex is what most people consider sex.
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Synthe
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To each their own I suppose, but consider this - if a "virgin" gave you some nasty STD's because they went down on a dozen different people, might you change your mind?
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Re: Sex etiquette? [Re: Synthe]
#19085635 - 11/04/13 02:19 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I enjoyed reading the OP, I remember thinking like that and it brought back some lulzy memories, but anyways...
1)It really depends, sometimes I'll say I"m about to cum, other times I won't, I just sort of assess the situation, and formulate my opinion based on that. If it's just some random hook up, I wouldn't say aynthing.
2)Depends how you look at it, I think it's respectful to kiss the girl after, I mean she just sucked your dick and took your load in the mouth. It's really not a big deal to taste your own cum IMO, it's your body so what's the big deal?
3)If it's a random hookup, wear a fucking condom. If you've been dating the girl fro awhile, and or trust the girl really well and KNOW she's on the pill, then don't wear one. Also if it's a random hookup and the girl is on the pill, unless you trust her wear a damn condom.
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I would avoid asking the question "Do you swallow?" It implies that the person doing the sucking 1. gets around 2. has a list of services she provides and 3. doesn't "do what she really feels," as someone wisely suggested you do. In short, the question could be take to mean that you think she's a whore.
Simply saying that you're about to come allows your partner to decide what she's going to do about it.
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Re: Sex etiquette? [Re: Me_Roy]
#19085759 - 11/04/13 02:50 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Me_Roy said: I would avoid asking the question "Do you swallow?" It implies that the person doing the sucking 1. gets around 2. has a list of services she provides and 3. doesn't "do what she really feels," as someone wisely suggested you do. In short, the question could be take to mean that you think she's a whore.
Simply saying that you're about to come allows your partner to decide what she's going to do about it.
Hmm, now that you mention it I think I actually ask beforehand if I can finish in the nice lil lady's mouth. From then on I'm sure she'll figure something out.
It is certainly a slightly awkward convo, for me at least. But yeah still best to be polite and ask, especially if one plans on good vibes and repeat business.
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I've never had sex, im in my 20's, and only had like 2 gfs. :/ I have questions. Not really nervous, but I am completely lost on sex
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Not really nervous
That got me laughing.
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LysergicX7
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Glad I can assist you with that. I'm not nervous...
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LysergicX7 said:
1. If I'm getting a blowjob do I warn the girl before I nut? Like "hey i'm about to cum everywhere!" Last time this happened the girl just removed her mouth and kept jacking me until i came all over her hand and my stomach basically. Messy. Disgusting and kinda awkward. Not sure if that was normal or not.
I don't worn the girl im going to nut, unless she has special requests. Otherwise I just nut in her mouth which is the way i prefer to do it. The first time the current girl im seeing went down on me she told me not to nut in her mouth. I told her, "ok ill try not to" she grabbed my dick really hard and said "You better not".. Now its no big thing, she even swallows and stuff. Go figure.
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LysergicX7 said: 2. After giving oral do you still kiss eachother? It's kinda gross, I wouldn't want to taste my own jizz and Im sure girls wouldn't want to taste thier juices either. How does this work?
I don’t think it’s gross to kiss after oral, you’re not really going to taste your own jizz in a significant way. Her mouth might taste a tad off and kind of smell like your cock but meh, never bothers me at all. Typically after I eat a chick out and get my facial hair all juicy I take her hands to pin her down and start making out with her. I do that because it turns me on, and I’ve never had anyone stop me but I could see if you didn’t do something like that with unshakable confidence maybe she would say something.
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LysergicX7 said: 3. Condoms, I hear people talk pretty casually about not using rubbers... isnt this just stupid? I know it doesn't feel as good but neither do babys. Wtf am i missing here.
Condoms suck but not using one probably won’t make a first timer perform any better. I use condoms on strangers which by my definition encompasses anyone im not comfortable with enough to talk about what kind of birth control they are on and how they would handle the situation if they got pregnant. Depending on the outcome of that conversation then I’ll consider not using a rubber.
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