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maerigan


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I am horrible at relationships
#19078329 - 11/03/13 01:26 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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here is my official confession I am really, really awful at them. for many reasons, I'm sure.
I will be forever alone. I've tried so many times and failed that now I seem to sabotage things before they even begin
I've joked with my friends about how I run off so often that if someone wants to keep me around they'll just have to tie me to something, feed and water me everyday and just hope that I get stockholm syndrome.
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: maerigan]
#19078344 - 11/03/13 01:36 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: jboredone]
#19078357 - 11/03/13 01:41 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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you're right. that's probably the problem.
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: maerigan]
#19078382 - 11/03/13 01:50 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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sorry man....relationships suck sometimes....just remember you get out what you put into it....
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: jboredone]
#19078397 - 11/03/13 01:55 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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oh, really? please tell me of this wonderful world where people always treat each other the way they'd like to be treated
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: maerigan]
#19078406 - 11/03/13 01:57 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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haha...sorry i'm at a loss of words at the moment...lol...I can't really say much...I seem to stay in relationships way longer than i should...
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: jboredone]
#19078409 - 11/03/13 01:58 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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and i mean yrs longer than i should of.....
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: jboredone]
#19078781 - 11/03/13 04:07 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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jboredone said: sorry man....relationships suck sometimes....just remember you get out what you put into it....
Yeah. NO
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: fbi365]
#19078851 - 11/03/13 05:21 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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fbi365 said:
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jboredone said: sorry man....relationships suck sometimes....just remember you get out what you put into it....
Yeah. NO 
You get out of it what THEY put into it.
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: Heffy]
#19081544 - 11/03/13 05:29 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well what exactly seems to be the problem OP?
How do these relationships usually end?
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: Spacerific]
#19081588 - 11/03/13 05:39 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I feel that. I love my gf and all but I am so fucking on edge with this shit. Same ol story everytime. Find someone you think completes you then months down the road it's just bickering over stupid shit. Don't know who to blame, it just happens, but it's fucking exhausting
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just curious, do you feel like you have relationship ocd?
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: Endure]
#19081829 - 11/03/13 06:20 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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heres something i grabbed real quick..
Relationship-centered obsessive-compulsive symptoms: A person may continuously doubt whether they love their partner, whether their relationship is the "right" relationship or whether their partner "really" loves them.[5] Even when they know they love someone or that someone loves them, they constantly check and reassure themselves that it is the right feeling. When they attempt to end the relationship, they are overwhelmed with anxiety. Staying in the relationship, however, they are haunted by continuous doubts regarding the relationship.
Partner-focused obsessive-compulsive symptoms: Another form of ROCD includes preoccupation, checking, and reassurance seeking behaviors relating to the partner's perceived flaws.[6] Instead of finding good in their partner, they are constantly focused on their shortcomings. They often exaggerate these "flaws" and use them to prove the relationship is fundamentally bad. The fact that they are unable to concentrate on anything but their partner's flaws causes the sufferer great anxiety, and often leads to a strained relationship.
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: maerigan]
#19081880 - 11/03/13 06:30 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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maerigan said:
I've joked with my friends about how I run off so often that if someone wants to keep me around they'll just have to tie me to something,.

Or be ok with you running off for a while... Why does only one person have to complete you? I don't understand how humans, as cognitively advanced as we are, subscribe to such fairy tails. You can have relationships on your own terms if you have the balls to be true to yourself and potential future lovers. It starts with you defining to yourself what you need out of a relationship, no matter what it is... There are plenty of relationships out-there that deviate from social norms.
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: Irfan]
#19081903 - 11/03/13 06:33 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Irfan said:
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maerigan said:
I've joked with my friends about how I run off so often that if someone wants to keep me around they'll just have to tie me to something,.

Or be ok with you running off for a while... Why does only one person have to complete you? I don't understand how humans, as cognitively advanced as we are, subscribe to such fairy tails. You can have relationships on your own terms if you have the balls to be true to yourself and potential future lovers. It starts with you defining to yourself what you need out of a relationship, no matter what it is... There are plenty of relationships out-there that deviate from social norms.
fairy tale? we think the same of you
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: Spacerific]
#19081917 - 11/03/13 06:36 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Spacerific said: Well what exactly seems to be the problem OP?
How do these relationships usually end?
it varies. relationships when I was younger usually eventually ended because the guy I was with was cheating on me or because he'd just start being really violent. I also have this thing with really disliking feeling ignored when I'm with someone. If I'm in a relationship, I can't stand to just sit in the same room with someone and still feel completely alone. It makes it even worse whenever I try to talk about how I feel and nothing changes. Most of the time it will be like I'm talking and no one is even listening. Either that or they act like they hear me but provide me with little to no feedback. And then just get back to their computer or tv or video games or whatever.
I think I've just been really bad about choosing people. So now, more recently (after a 3rd attempt at marriage and failure) when people come into my life I almost instantly tell myself that it's not going to work out anyway. sometimes I'll still give them a chance to prove me wrong. but mostly, at this point I think it's because most guys seem to be only interested in trying to hunt me like I'm some wild game. Then I can't figure out maybe it's because I have a son and they're afraid of that... at some point they let me know that hanging out with me isn't a serious thing so I should probably not stop trying to date other people

I'm "awesome" and "beautiful" and blah blah fucking blah [edit-lol oops. but really. people are usually kiiiiiiiind of inconsistent]
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: maerigan]
#19082418 - 11/03/13 08:15 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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maerigan said:
I've joked with my friends about how I run off so often that if someone wants to keep me around they'll just have to tie me to something.
That can be arranged. 
No, but seriously - you need to find somebody that is okay with you having a son.
This will be extremely difficult to do, and it will get even harder as your son grows up.
My advice - focus on improving your overall quality of life, for both you and your son.
Steer clear of any man who offers to do this for you - no matter how attractive he is.
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: Mr. Material]
#19082666 - 11/03/13 09:05 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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it shouldn't be extremely difficult to do. the hardest part is finding someone that is okay with me having a son who has a father who I don't talk shit about constantly. for some reason, most guys seem to find that weird.
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: maerigan]
#19083308 - 11/03/13 11:21 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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maerigan said: it shouldn't be extremely difficult to do. the hardest part is finding someone that is okay with me having a son who has a father who I don't talk shit about constantly. for some reason, most guys seem to find that weird.
I don't think that's weird, but it is different.
Maybe they feel that you'll eventually want to get back with the biological Father of your son?
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Re: I am horrible at relationships [Re: maerigan]
#19083413 - 11/03/13 11:35 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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maerigan said: here is my official confession I am really, really awful at them. for many reasons, I'm sure.
I will be forever alone. I've tried so many times and failed that now I seem to sabotage things before they even begin
I've joked with my friends about how I run off so often that if someone wants to keep me around they'll just have to tie me to something, feed and water me everyday and just hope that I get stockholm syndrome.

I think you're confusing dating with relationships.
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