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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19086655 - 11/04/13 06:23 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Getting laid helps. Maybe it's just a temporary distraction. But distractions help. If you CAN find some chick to chill with who's down for sex, do it.
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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19087227 - 11/04/13 08:15 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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JesusIsLord said: disagree. you don't get over someone by distracting yourself with some hollow sex. you get over them by letting them go, on a heart and head level.
You say that like the two are inherently mutually exclusive.
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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19088173 - 11/05/13 12:21 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Spacerific said: Once you've cleared your system of the bad vibes with said rebound pussy, you're in a much better state to start something new, on a clean slate.
disagree. you don't get over someone by distracting yourself with some hollow sex. you get over them by letting them go, on a heart and head level.
Well whatever you've found to work in practice my good man. I and plenty of others have found that new pussy tends to get one involved in ways that make it impossible to dwell endlessly on the past. The name of the game being to get back to the present moment and live life, not chew memories and stale vibes from the past over and over.
Just out of curiosity though, how specifically do you propose one "let go, on a heart and head level"? What are the specific actions that lead to that? Like what would one actually do tomorrow to encourage this result? Wear a wrist band that says "Let Go"? I'm seriously asking, not trolling.
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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: Spacerific]
#19091422 - 11/05/13 05:51 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Spacerific said:
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JesusIsLord said:
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Spacerific said: Once you've cleared your system of the bad vibes with said rebound pussy, you're in a much better state to start something new, on a clean slate.
disagree. you don't get over someone by distracting yourself with some hollow sex. you get over them by letting them go, on a heart and head level.
Well whatever you've found to work in practice my good man. I and plenty of others have found that new pussy tends to get one involved in ways that make it impossible to dwell endlessly on the past. The name of the game being to get back to the present moment and live life, not chew memories and stale vibes from the past over and over.
Just out of curiosity though, how specifically do you propose one "let go, on a heart and head level"? What are the specific actions that lead to that? Like what would one actually do tomorrow to encourage this result? Wear a wrist band that says "Let Go"? I'm seriously asking, not trolling.
Make the conscious effort to rearrange your thought patterns. By, as you say, staying in the present. When you dwell on the memories gone by, the what ifs, all the hangings on - you stop yourself and get back in the present. It's just a continuous process of letting go, yielding to the present. Nothing real profound I know, but it worked well for me
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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19091540 - 11/05/13 06:15 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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JesusIsLord said: disagree. you don't get over someone by distracting yourself with some hollow sex. you get over them by letting them go, on a heart and head level.
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JesusIsLord said: Make the conscious effort to rearrange your thought patterns. By, as you say, staying in the present. When you dwell on the memories gone by, the what ifs, all the hangings on - you stop yourself and get back in the present. It's just a continuous process of letting go, yielding to the present. Nothing real profound I know, but it worked well for me 
And how does having sex with a new partner not fit into exactly what you have just said? These two posts sound pretty contradictory. There's no activity that defines "living in the present" more than sex IMO.
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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19092101 - 11/05/13 07:46 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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JesusIsLord said: disagree. you don't get over someone by distracting yourself with some hollow sex. you get over them by letting them go, on a heart and head level.
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JesusIsLord said: Make the conscious effort to rearrange your thought patterns. By, as you say, staying in the present. When you dwell on the memories gone by, the what ifs, all the hangings on - you stop yourself and get back in the present. It's just a continuous process of letting go, yielding to the present. Nothing real profound I know, but it worked well for me 
And how does having sex with a new partner not fit into exactly what you have just said? These two posts sound pretty contradictory. There's no activity that defines "living in the present" more than sex IMO.
the idea being in the true present is born from having sex in order to distract yourself from your memories and old thought patterns is disingenuous.
being truly in the present cannot arise if you're starting point is that you want to be distracted from the past. you can't truly arrive at the present from an idea that is born from a need to distract yourself from the past.
as in, rebound sex is not sex for its own sake. it's sex with an ulterior goal of freeing you from the past, and so you're still trapped in it, but the accompanying endorphins and euphoric high lend a foggy haze, masking this reality.
methinks
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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19093659 - 11/06/13 01:30 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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As far as I'm concerned, the brain works a lot like the physical body. It's got several distinct parts with different function, and if you don't work those parts, problems develop.
In the same way that you pick up weights and move and get physically active now, to get over past idleness and sloth that put your body in a terrible shape, similarly you give your head something new and constructive to do in the present moment, to keep a good flow going. To keep things moving.
I agree if this becomes a compulsion based on being a nervous wreck otherwise, that's probably not healthy. But if your last relationship is shot for whatever reason, after some time of thinking on it and learning what lessons you can, it's probably time to get some new pussy on the screen.
While some might see this as a distraction, I would say that it's a healthy distraction, your body does get more exercise, you get real life logistical problems to tackle, you probably get more attention and are less likely to spend days and weeks alone indoors among old photos listening to old songs, and crap forbid drinking your worries away during this time.
It may not be ideal, but new pussy is one of the healthiest distractions there is
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For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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