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Offlinepsyconaught
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How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life...
    #19077840 - 11/02/13 11:35 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I know that the best course of action when breaking up is to cut off all contact. But fuck... this girl was/is my best friend. We were best friends for years before dating and we dated for years. But now that we've broken up... I just don't know.... How do you completely cut someone out of your life that you've talked to every single day for the past 4 or 5 years?


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: psyconaught]
    #19077893 - 11/02/13 11:43 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I had to do it with a a friend I dated. Loved her to death. She was always there and vise versa, would always chill with me when I tripped and made sure I was safe even though she hated psychs. We loved each other and were inseperable. One day i decided she was toxic. We were both heavy into dope so i cut contact completely and got clean. I still wonder sometimes if we'd ever have worked minus the drugs


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: psyconaught] * 1
    #19077898 - 11/02/13 11:44 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

it just happens man, literally a day at a time.

try and stay occupied with what YOU like to do/pursue in this life.

i have been where you stand now, and can guarantee that it will not be easy but everyone reaches a point where they realize they just got to let it all go


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: Rafiikii] * 2
    #19078050 - 11/03/13 12:15 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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it just happens man, literally a day at a time.

try and stay occupied with what YOU like to do/pursue in this life.

i have been where you stand now, and can guarantee that it will not be easy but everyone reaches a point where they realize they just got to let it all go



Yup
Sound advice

Weigh your prioroties, do YOU, & move FORWARD

You gotta love yourself, first and foremost
Then... shit'll come back in spades


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: psyconaught]
    #19078334 - 11/03/13 01:29 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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psyconaught said:
I know that the best course of action when breaking up is to cut off all contact.



I disagree for the most part :justdontknow:

I think that would only be true if you guys were like way hella toxic for each other an thangs



But then again, I've got a pretty non-traditional way of approaching most situations


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Offlinepsyconaught
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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: Sheekle]
    #19078389 - 11/03/13 01:52 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

not toxic at all. The reason for the breakup is due to it being a long distance relationship and her needing to figure some shit out in her own life before continuing having anyone else in it.


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: psyconaught]
    #19078696 - 11/03/13 02:35 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Well the fact that its long distance helps.
Break up, dont go there, dont let her come over, no telephone calls, messaging, chatting.

Problem solved. Not saying its easy but its not like she is living in your house or around the corner or something.


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: Tripsurfer]
    #19078777 - 11/03/13 04:04 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

In my experience it is pretty difficult to cut all ties with someone you love.  But in your situation, if you are long distance, it seems inevitable that you will drift apart.


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: fbi365]
    #19079144 - 11/03/13 07:41 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

That's a tough thing to do. Sometimes you can still remain friends with a someone who was really close to you, but if not than I agree with the approach of continuing on with your life & not dwelling on the past.

Try and move on, see other friends, distract yourself. At least she lives at a distance so you dont have to run into her around town.


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: shimmeringtrance]
    #19080016 - 11/03/13 11:55 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Sorry completely missed the point here!

I have noticed that finding something new to fill your time helps a lot. Find a new hobby, preferably something that requires loads of physical activity.

I would suggest joining a yoga studio, they usually offer unlimited subscriptions and yoga can be pretty addictive. You will also be surrounded by lost of toned women (and a couple fatties) in yoga pants  :thumbup:


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: Tripsurfer] * 1
    #19080427 - 11/03/13 01:39 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I really don't understand cutting someone completely out of your life, but I have had it done to me over the course of a few months by way of divorce. Really a pretty shitty thing to do to someone who loves you, but I suppose some people have a need to put themselves first in all situations, and this woman certainly seemed to do that. I just tried to message the ex for the first time in two weeks with no response. Oh well. Wish I had some advice for you OP, but I can't say that I do. Just kind of venting that I don't understand most people's need for such actions. In the case of abusive people I can understand it.


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: Rafiikii]
    #19081207 - 11/03/13 04:18 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Rafiikii said:
it just happens man, literally a day at a time.

try and stay occupied with what YOU like to do/pursue in this life.

i have been where you stand now, and can guarantee that it will not be easy but everyone reaches a point where they realize they just got to let it all go



This is pretty accurate. I'm going through a similar situation. I try and immerse myself in whatever I am doing at work and stay busy throughout the day. On my days off I have been chilling, and usually watching a movie or have something to stimulate me and keep my mind off of everything else.


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19081235 - 11/03/13 04:25 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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I really don't understand cutting someone completely out of your life

I don't understand most people's need for such actions. In the case of abusive people I can understand it.



This about sums up my opinion on the subject pretty well


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: Sheekle]
    #19081304 - 11/03/13 04:40 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Just make sure you have a new girl to fill most of your screen so to speak, to fill some of the needs that the girl in question was filling. Then you'll have the freedom to talk or not talk to her, no pressure. From there it's easier to choose to take her out completely (if that's really needed) or have a more positive relationship with her as friends.


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: Spacerific] * 1
    #19081316 - 11/03/13 04:42 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

y do people always think all like officaly about everything i think life is just a flow of feel's


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: Spacerific]
    #19081447 - 11/03/13 05:10 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Just make sure you have a new girl to fill most of your screen so to speak, to fill some of the needs that the girl in question was filling. Then you'll have the freedom to talk or not talk to her, no pressure. From there it's easier to choose to take her out completely (if that's really needed) or have a more positive relationship with her as friends.




Sadly I agree, I always try to have someone on the tip when I'm dating a girl helps to fill some of that emptiness, and lets ya focus on the person in front of you and move on. Shitty but rebound pussy is one of the best placebos for closure.


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: psyconaught]
    #19081468 - 11/03/13 05:14 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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psyconaught said:
I know that the best course of action when breaking up is to cut off all contact. But fuck... this girl was/is my best friend. We were best friends for years before dating and we dated for years. But now that we've broken up... I just don't know.... How do you completely cut someone out of your life that you've talked to every single day for the past 4 or 5 years?



what do you mean how?

you bite the bullet and do what must be done. like that fella who got pinned by a boulder in Utah. cut his arm off, or die. your ex is your arm.


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: B0b0]
    #19084242 - 11/04/13 05:52 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Spacerific said:
Just make sure you have a new girl to fill most of your screen so to speak, to fill some of the needs that the girl in question was filling. Then you'll have the freedom to talk or not talk to her, no pressure. From there it's easier to choose to take her out completely (if that's really needed) or have a more positive relationship with her as friends.




Sadly I agree, I always try to have someone on the tip when I'm dating a girl helps to fill some of that emptiness, and lets ya focus on the person in front of you and move on. Shitty but rebound pussy is one of the best placebos for closure.



So you just become codependent with somebody new?


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: empty space] * 1
    #19085439 - 11/04/13 01:35 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Spacerific said:
Just make sure you have a new girl to fill most of your screen so to speak, to fill some of the needs that the girl in question was filling. Then you'll have the freedom to talk or not talk to her, no pressure. From there it's easier to choose to take her out completely (if that's really needed) or have a more positive relationship with her as friends.




Sadly I agree, I always try to have someone on the tip when I'm dating a girl helps to fill some of that emptiness, and lets ya focus on the person in front of you and move on. Shitty but rebound pussy is one of the best placebos for closure.



So you just become codependent with somebody new?



Why would that be codependent? You can dwell on the past or you can put yourself through new experiences in order to move on.

Habits need to be extinguished with new (hopefully improved) habits. Same for relationships. Especially when feeling down from breaking a long term one, IMO it's important to not spend long periods of time isolated, alone. Hence the rebound pussy, or if you have em, long term fwb's - will come in handy.

Once you've cleared your system of the bad vibes with said rebound pussy, you're in a much better state to start something new, on a clean slate.


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Re: How do you just.... completely cut someone out of your life... [Re: Spacerific]
    #19086391 - 11/04/13 05:21 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Spacerific said:
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B0b0 said:
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Spacerific said:
Just make sure you have a new girl to fill most of your screen so to speak, to fill some of the needs that the girl in question was filling. Then you'll have the freedom to talk or not talk to her, no pressure. From there it's easier to choose to take her out completely (if that's really needed) or have a more positive relationship with her as friends.




Sadly I agree, I always try to have someone on the tip when I'm dating a girl helps to fill some of that emptiness, and lets ya focus on the person in front of you and move on. Shitty but rebound pussy is one of the best placebos for closure.



So you just become codependent with somebody new?



Why would that be codependent? You can dwell on the past or you can put yourself through new experiences in order to move on.

Habits need to be extinguished with new (hopefully improved) habits. Same for relationships. Especially when feeling down from breaking a long term one, IMO it's important to not spend long periods of time isolated, alone. Hence the rebound pussy, or if you have em, long term fwb's - will come in handy.

Once you've cleared your system of the bad vibes with said rebound pussy, you're in a much better state to start something new, on a clean slate.



disagree. you don't get over someone by distracting yourself with some hollow sex. you get over them by letting them go, on a heart and head level.


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