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Anonymous #1

Should I go to college if I don't want to go?
    #19076660 - 11/02/13 07:18 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

My parents have always told me that college is no option in my family and that I will go no mater what. Frankly, I do not know if I want to go to college. I'm a high school senior and I'm about a B average student, so I do average in school. I hate where I live though and I am not happy here at all. I have never met one person that I have felt that I could consider a great friend or someone that I really connected with. The group that I hang out with and associate with is cool and I like the guys in it, but I simply always feel out of place when with them. Maybe I'm just socially awkward and will feel like this around everyone I meet, I don't know.

If I do go to college, I'd much rather go to a community college, as it would allow me to go elsewhere in the country and live in an area more suitable to who I am as a person and hopefully I will meet some similar people. I'm also not keen about jumping straight from high school to college. Sixteen years of constant school does not seem like a life I want, and after high school I'd like to take a one or two year break and just do my own thing and explore different places in America in order to find a place where I fit in.

Essentially, this is all based around my happiness. I feel like my own happiness is the most important thing in my life, and if that means taking a break to just do my own thing for a couple of years and then settle down some place and go to a community college at that point, then that is what I feel like will be best for me. I am not happy in the state or region that I live, and even to think that I'll be here for half a year more is unsettling, let alone four more years. How do I tell my parents that what they think is best isn't necessarily best, and that if I want to fuck around and find myself and what makes me happy for a year or so and then go on to a community college, then that's what I'm going to do?


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Anonymous #2

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #1] * 2
    #19076716 - 11/02/13 07:31 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I went and wasted a bunch of money out of high school to try to please my parents. I didn't try I just dropped out of all my classes every semester.

When you graduate high school its time to be your own person. If you don't want to go you aren't going to do well. I felt like I had no reason to be there...What am I here I kept asking myself. Now I am at a point where I want to go but I wasted my money so now I don't know if I will ever be able to go back.

Find the reason you want to go, if you aren't motivated it will be a waste.

You are out of high school, it's time for you to grow up and do your own thing. They might get mad but in the end they will understand if you make it work. Too many parents think they know what is best for their kid. Oh this is what worked for me so let me force it on my kid because he thinks exactly like me, I mean he has to since he is my child...I understand they want the best for you but the years after high school I feel like define a person and it should be your choice what you do.

If you go just to make your parents happy even if you graduate with a degree it will probably just be something easy that you choose to graduate and end up out of school with no job in the same position you were in when you graduated high school...trying to find yourself, purpose, and what you want to do with your life. I've seen it too much from friends, graduating working in a restaurant.


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Anonymous #3

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19076728 - 11/02/13 07:33 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

first off university for generals doesn't make any sense unless you're trying to get away. You might be able to find some new friends at school, but keep in mind most college guys have the maturity of a drunk 16 year old about to get laid for the first time.:shrug:
If you dont want to go away right off just ask your parents to pay for 2 years of community.


Then again you parents are offering you free education. Coming from someone who is 23 without anything more than a diploma, take advantage of that.

Going to college isnt a garunteed 100k/year job like everyone drilled into your head when you were a kid(my generation anyway), but it cannot possibly hurt you in regards to employment later in life


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Anonymous #4

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19076953 - 11/02/13 08:24 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Well...think of it this way....You parents are trying to help you succeed in life.:thumbup:

They have lived a long time, and only would tell you to do what was best in their eye for success.:thumbup:

Should you go to college if you don't want to? :confused:

Sure don't go to college. Don't listen to your parents, you already know it all :shrug:


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Anonymous #5

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #4] * 1
    #19076959 - 11/02/13 08:26 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I am just responding to title of the topic. You shouldn't go to college until you are ready and feel good about going. That is just my opinion though. Just get your mind prepared and sooner or later you will feel good about going.


Edited by Anonymous (11/02/13 08:27 PM)


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Anonymous #6

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #4] * 2
    #19076964 - 11/02/13 08:27 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Don't go unless you're ready. I went straight out of high school and I hated it. Wish I would have taken a few years off to just work.

I'm going back next quarter and I actually want to do it for myself this time. School is easy if you are willing to work at it.


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Anonymous #1

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #19077008 - 11/02/13 08:41 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #4 said:
Well...think of it this way....You parents are trying to help you succeed in life.:thumbup:

They have lived a long time, and only would tell you to do what was best in their eye for success.:thumbup:

Should you go to college if you don't want to? :confused:

Sure don't go to college. Don't listen to your parents, you already know it all :shrug:




I am well aware that I do not know it all, I never said that I did, please do not put words in my mouth, thank you.

I am not necessarily sure that I do not want to go to college, but I definitely do not want to go immediately out of high school, I'd much rather take off a couple of years and just do me and find what I am interested in and what matters to me in life. Explore different parts of the U.S. and North America.

I am not totally opposed to the idea of college, but I know at this point in my life I lack the motivation for college and I feel like I'd be much better suited to attend a community college in a few years time, if I choose to go.


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Anonymous #4

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19078876 - 11/03/13 05:45 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Think of going to collage kind of like how a motor works.
gears, mechanics and electrical systems all work in synchronicity to produce a end result.

Now try and think about this.


You were learning all the math, science, physics, English, etc.
If you take a couple of years off school chances are you will forget most of that stuff that you learned in terms of being able to pick up where you left off.

If you take a couple of years off school you will get use to making money and entering the real world. You very will will find that the opportunity to go to school will just not be there.

My advice is to follow your parents advice and go to collage.

Count your blessings, the vast majority of the kids don't get the opportunity to even go to collage.

Most kids, that think they will take a couple years off school before collage never go back because they missed that boat long ago and it is out of sight.

Where will you be in 3 to 5 years if you go to collage and where will you be in 3 to 5 years if you don't go to collage.:shrug:


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Anonymous #7

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19079024 - 11/03/13 06:58 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Yes, obey your parents. Plus you might actually get a job that pays over minimum wage if you go to college.


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Anonymous #8

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #7]
    #19079058 - 11/03/13 07:12 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Yeah, you *might* get a job that pays over minimum wage with a degree.  Great.  Meanwhile you're 100k in debt right off the bat, unless your parents are paying for it.


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Anonymous #7

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #8]
    #19079070 - 11/03/13 07:16 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Might is under your control. It depends on your grades and major. Without a degree you are limited in a lot of ways.

Many people without degrees start their own businesses and make shitloads of money. Others work at starbucks.


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Anonymous #9

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #7]
    #19079845 - 11/03/13 11:14 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

No, you should not go if you are not interested in going. You don't want to be like me- realizing I need school later on and spending a whole load of time making up the classes I failed out of.

That said, you DO want to go to school.

Reality Check: Unless you have, oh, $20k stashed somewhere, "explore the US and North America for a few years" = Sit in your parents basement and work part time at Mcdonalds, while watching all of your friends post pics from parties at frat houses.

You want to explore the country? Apply to a bunch of universities and colleges across the country and do it on your parents dime! School is the perrrrfect place to find yourself. Take art and fencing and one english class that you can do in your sleep.  You don't know how good you've got it, honestly.  No where else will you meet so many like-minded people, your age, doing cool stuff.  Working sucks dude, sitting in class is easy.

I wish so much I had listened to the people telling me this when I was your age. I wish so much that I had taken advantage of the amazing opportunities handed to me instead of letting apathy run my life.


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Anonymous #1

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #9]
    #19079932 - 11/03/13 11:33 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

That said, you DO want to go to school.

You want to explore the country? Apply to a bunch of universities and colleges across the country and do it on your parents dime! School is the perrrrfect place to find yourself. Take art and fencing and one english class that you can do in your sleep.  You don't know how good you've got it, honestly.  No where else will you meet so many like-minded people, your age, doing cool stuff.  Working sucks dude, sitting in class is easy.




No, I DO NOT want to go to school.

And I spent a summer hitchhiking two years ago with a friend of mine. It's free travel, and I don't mind bumming a couple bucks off people to eat McDonalds to live. It's actually amazingly easy to find enough money to get by when you have none of your on. Unlike some, I don't need a fucking roof over my head and a 3 cours emeal because I'm not a pampered king like some think about themselves.


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Anonymous #9

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19079955 - 11/03/13 11:36 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

OK, good luck with being a bum then.


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Anonymous #7

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #9]
    #19079970 - 11/03/13 11:40 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #9 said:
OK, good luck with being a bum then.




He can clean my windows.


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Anonymous #1

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #7]
    #19079991 - 11/03/13 11:48 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Did you go to college, #9?

Sad world it is when people put money over happiness.


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Anonymous #8

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19079998 - 11/03/13 11:51 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

You can make plenty of money welding, laying bricks, etc.  There is a shortage of people who aren't overqualified for that type of work.  No shame in it.


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Anonymous #10

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #8]
    #19081143 - 11/03/13 04:06 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Take some time off, figure out what you want to do. College isn't for everyone.

That being said, without SOME form of training, it's nearly impossible to do anything. At least learn how to weld or fix cars or something.


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Anonymous #11

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #10] * 1
    #19081271 - 11/03/13 04:32 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

No time to read through all the replies, but in my opinion the first function of school is to learn, not to get a job. The way post-secondary education is treated today is backwards, everyone is expected to go to a college or university to get a good job. These institutions were created to educate and spread knowledge and information, not to train people so they can get a good paying job. If you want to learn, go to school. If you don't, don't. Post-secondary education isn't for everybody and shouldn't be an expectation for every child.


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Anonymous #9

Re: Should I go to college if I don't want to go? [Re: Anonymous #9]
    #19084953 - 11/04/13 11:11 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #1 said:
Did you go to college, #9?




Yes, I went to university straight out of highschool, and am back at a city college trying to restart now. 
Quote:

Anonymous #9 said:
You don't want to be like me- realizing I need school later on and spending a whole load of time making up the classes I failed out of.



Look, I was a lot like you. I went in to school not giving a fuck and then gave up and moved back home 'to find myself'. Finding myself ended up being lot like working a series of shit jobs and begging my parents for money, with, I'll concede, some cool adventures along the way. Now, I'm getting my shit together and fuck, I really wish I had done it right the first time so I could be buying cars and houses like my friends.

Quote:

Anonymous #1 said:Sad world it is when people put money over happiness.




Said the kid still living under his parents roof. Happiness is being able to buy all of the groceries you want and pay the power bill on time.


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