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Are there any women here that agree with this article?
    #19076612 - 11/02/13 07:01 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

The article: Is It Normal For Your Man To Notice Other Women?



From another current thread, my situation:

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Even the urge to look at a hot chick who walks by just dissipates when Im with someone I love!!!




I understand that it is reduced compared to when you're single or just alone at the time.. but the urge or instinct to look at an attractive woman is still there for you in small part? Or is it totally gone? A significant problem in my relationship right now is when I notice other women when I am with my lover. I look at a lot of things out in the world, guys, plants, dogs, cars, women, etc. so it is not all sexual impulse but.. it is causing conflict no less. :frown: I wish I weren't as "observant" but a lot of the time it just happens.




Whenever I do notice an attractive woman while out and about it is only momentary and does not linger in my mind at all. I am quite taken with the woman I am with now but seems to be a cause of much insecurity for her. I am in love with her and more than satisfied with her on a physical level but am unable to get her to see and accept my point of view (as a man). Is any of this behavior justified or am I in the wrong for even trying to explain why I am sometimes noticing other women.

Just looking for some views on this subject.


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Re: Are there any women here that agree with this article? [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #19076644 - 11/02/13 07:12 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Don't let her flip the script on you. I'm sure she looks at other men also, its human nature.


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Re: Are there any women here that agree with this article? [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #19076647 - 11/02/13 07:13 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

You're a man, other women are hot no matter who you're with.  If your woman can't accept your genetics, find another one.  You don't want a jealous bitch anyway.  Now if you're obviously oogling women all the time, maybe you're an asshole, but it doesn't sound like that.
She should be secure enough with herself and the fact that you like her to not worry about that.  Any other behavior shows insecurity and immaturity to me.  Are you guys young?  Kinda normal for young'ins I guess...


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Re: Are there any women here that agree with this article? [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #19076684 - 11/02/13 07:24 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

We're in our mid-late twenties or so.


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Re: Are there any women here that agree with this article? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19076734 - 11/02/13 07:35 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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We're in our mid-late twenties or so.




Yikes man, I dunno use you're own judgement but beware of the jealous types.  And someone that age that gives a shit who you look at is a jealous-type.  I just glanced at the article you linked but I believe it agrees with me.  Being in a relationship with an insecure person is far from enjoyable...


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Re: Are there any women here that agree with this article? [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #19076753 - 11/02/13 07:40 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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You're a man person, other women people are hot no matter who you're with.  If your woman partner can't accept your genetics, find another one.  You don't want a jealous bitch person anyway.  Now if you're obviously oogling women people all the time, maybe you're an asshole, but it doesn't sound like that.
She should be secure enough with herself and the fact that you like her to not worry about that.  Any other behavior shows insecurity and immaturity to me.  Are you guys young?  Kinda normal for young'ins I guess...



Agreed.


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Re: Are there any women here that agree with this article? [Re: pwnasaurus]
    #19076755 - 11/02/13 07:42 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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You're a man person, other women people are hot no matter who you're with.  If your woman partner can't accept your genetics, find another one.  You don't want a jealous bitch person anyway.  Now if you're obviously oogling women people all the time, maybe you're an asshole, but it doesn't sound like that.
She should be secure enough with herself and the fact that you like her to not worry about that.  Any other behavior shows insecurity and immaturity to me.  Are you guys young?  Kinda normal for young'ins I guess...



Agreed.




lol, good job there, agreed :smile:


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Re: Are there any women here that agree with this article? [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #19076760 - 11/02/13 07:43 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I realize that it isn't good to be jealous and insecure, especially over things like that. But I don't know, I guess it just kind of gives me feelings of inadequacy? Like, "Here's a perfectly good thing right in front of you, why would you want to look away in the first place? You don't appreciate what you already have?"

I just try to not even observe if my boyfriend looks at other women, that way I won't truly know, and I won't ever have to be bothered by it. :shrug:

Kinda like how I don't really know if he looks at porn or not, and I don't really want to know. If he does it together with me, great, if he does it by himself, I'd rather just not know and have peace of mind.

Its kinda like how some men are always worried women are going to leave them for someone richer or who has more assets. Some women worry that they're going to be left for someone better looking, even if they look fine themselves. :shrug:

I don't think there is anybody in the world who isn't at least a little insecure about something. Nobody is perfect. You just have to find a way to deal with your insecurities.


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Re: Are there any women here that agree with this article? [Re: Ballerium]
    #19076787 - 11/02/13 07:49 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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I don't think there is anybody in the world who isn't at least a little insecure about something. Nobody is perfect. You just have to find a way to deal with your insecurities.




Very true, but when you make it someone else's problem instead of yours (IE, being the "eye police"), that's when it's an issue. 

We all feel inadequate/insecure sometimes.  We shouldn't, we're all amazing human beings in our own ways, but we do, and that's understandable.  If you have a boy/girlfriend/wife/husband you're obviously not that inadequate :wink:


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