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Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal...
#19069312 - 11/01/13 11:02 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Everytime a girl seems to come into my life for just a few minutes or hours, and I have a meaningful conversation with them, i become overly attached to them and develop "feelings" for them. Everything else goes out the window and I become unfocused and paralyzed obsessing about them because I'm too much of a coward to see them again and/or I don't see them around in campus. I then fall into deep depression, often get suicidal aswell.
It happened back in 1st year at university when i met this girl and "connected", but didn't see her again. It completely destroyed me. I had deep depression and was suicidal for several months. I almost failed the 1st year, but somehow I just managed to scrape a pass. Approximately 8 months later after I initially met that danger girl, I eventually overcame her, erased her from my memory, and I was back on my feet and I had a plan on what to do with my life.
Everything was going well and I was getting high grades. I was focused! I knew I what I wanted to do with my life after graduation! I was loving life!
Until 3 years laters when the final year came (this year), I met this another girl. To cut the long story short. I connected with her, had a meaningful conversation and literally fell in love with her personality like an idiot. But that was just 2 months ago and now I don't see her again because she does different classes.
Least to say, it has destroyed me again. And now I have gone back to square one now... I am at the edge. Have lost all motivation to do anything and the will to live. I am afraid that I could seriously fail my final year because of this and I need to somehow erase ALL memory of this new girl I met FAST.
So this is my problem guys. I just can't handle women. I can't handle rejection. If a girl comes into my life, it is bound to end in disaster for me emotionally and mentally.
So I need to forget about this new girl I met recently so that I can concentrate and focus on what I want to do with my life now. How can I do that?
Fuck, I can't stop thinking about her. My stupid brain thinks she is my soul mate. Its driving me insane! Plus this one has a boyfriend!
Would greatly appreciate any words of advice on how I can overcome this disease, ace my final year, and find my purpose in life again...
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CokeNasmilee
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19069343 - 11/01/13 11:08 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Develop more confidence through a daily physically demanding practice. I'll never understand female issues...It's like anything else...the more you do it, the better you get at it. Being rejected is an art form....deal with that shit and carry on. Codependency issues aren't attractive. Learn to wipe your own ass before you start worrying about wiping someone else's.
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Ram Dass
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19069351 - 11/01/13 11:09 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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You don't need to forget about this. You need to learn to handle these scenarios. And with the caliber of anxiety that you are experiencing, I recommend seeing a psych. Most campuses offer free counseling services, take advantage of them.
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rockylampoon
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19070083 - 11/01/13 02:08 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Look. You need to ask these women out or something. Don't rely on stuff like having same classes, common friends or whatever to get to spend time with these ladies, you need to make it happen.
-------------------- I'll make sense when I run out of lemons. Until then I'll make lemonade.
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: Ram Dass]
#19070121 - 11/01/13 02:15 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Ram Dass said: You don't need to forget about this. You need to learn to handle these scenarios. And with the caliber of anxiety that you are experiencing, I recommend seeing a psych. Most campuses offer free counseling services, take advantage of them.
I tried seeing a campus psych once but found them to be too condescending + penetrating into my personal life. Like they were asking me shit that was making me feel uncomfortable and I didn't want to open up to some complete stranger when they probably didn't give a shit about me as they probably had 20 other crazies lined up next.
I bet if I was a woman, I would have gotten a much more helpful and friendly advice from the psych. But since I am guy, I have to somehow "man up" and "get over it" as dictated by society.
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egodeathflux
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19070157 - 11/01/13 02:20 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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She has different classes??? OH MY FUCKING LORD. No one has ever overcome more impossible odds. It is clear that there is no way anyone has ever hooked up with anyone who they don't share a class with.
That is why people who don't go to college (most people in the world) all kill themselves and die virgins.


     
     
     
     
     
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
 
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: rockylampoon]
#19070195 - 11/01/13 02:27 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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rockylampoon said: Look. You need to ask these women out or something. Don't rely on stuff like having same classes, common friends or whatever to get to spend time with these ladies, you need to make it happen.
I simply don't have the guts to do that. If I had a wingman, I might have started gaining some xp. But I've heard it all really. "Try talking to ugly girls first and work your way up". That is honestly not a problem. I can do that. The real problem is that I develop an obsessive overattachment the moment I sense something meaningful with a girl. And girls can sense that a mile away.
I have met 100s of people during my time at uni. But to be fair, I am a loner and people easily forget me. Its in my personality. I guess I could make one hell of an undercover field agent for the CIA lol.
But really, I have to address the core issue here. Which is to get over my obsession over this current girl otherwise i will fuck up my degree and my life.
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: egodeathflux]
#19070216 - 11/01/13 02:32 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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egodeathflux said: She has different classes??? OH MY FUCKING LORD. No one has ever overcome more impossible odds. It is clear that there is no way anyone has ever hooked up with anyone who they don't share a class with.
That is why people who don't go to college (most people in the world) all kill themselves and die virgins.


     
     
     
     
     
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
I am a loser, I realise that crystal clear. I am not denying that fact.
But dude what do you expect from me? That I suddenly turn into the guy with 100% confidence, chilled out attitude, and start to hang out with her and her friends after they hear my hilarious jokes coz chicks dig jokes right?
Edited by Anonymous (11/01/13 02:45 PM)
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Ram Dass
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19070701 - 11/01/13 04:17 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
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Ram Dass said: You don't need to forget about this. You need to learn to handle these scenarios. And with the caliber of anxiety that you are experiencing, I recommend seeing a psych. Most campuses offer free counseling services, take advantage of them.
I tried seeing a campus psych once but found them to be too condescending + penetrating into my personal life. Like they were asking me shit that was making me feel uncomfortable and I didn't want to open up to some complete stranger when they probably didn't give a shit about me as they probably had 20 other crazies lined up next.
I bet if I was a woman, I would have gotten a much more helpful and friendly advice from the psych. But since I am guy, I have to somehow "man up" and "get over it" as dictated by society.
Uh.. They are supposed to ask personal questions, that's the point. And if you aren't going to open up, then why even go in the first place? You're wasting the psychs time as well as your own.
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Ram Dass
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: egodeathflux]
#19070757 - 11/01/13 04:25 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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egodeathflux said: She has different classes??? OH MY FUCKING LORD. No one has ever overcome more impossible odds. It is clear that there is no way anyone has ever hooked up with anyone who they don't share a class with.
That is why people who don't go to college (most people in the world) all kill themselves and die virgins.


     
     
     
     
     
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
That really wasn't necessary. Sounds like you need to put others down to make yourself feel like a big man. What do you struggle with in life? Ill bet you're to scared to share, it'll just ruin the image you fabricated for yourself.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19074016 - 11/02/13 08:19 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Just woke up today feeling completely drained and feeling like shit.
I have to forget about this bi*** soon or my life is doomed...
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19074057 - 11/02/13 08:28 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Fuck I'm going crazy. Not getting enough helpful responses here..
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Mr. Material
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#19074495 - 11/02/13 10:33 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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First, you need to realize that you will never cum inside her.
I know that you know this too - so you should just accept it.
Secondly, you need to put all that energy you use hating yourself into good use.
You need to improve your overall quality of life. Start with the basics; work on your health and hygiene.
This will give you a solid foundation to build on. Too many people try to build their lives from the roof down!
If your "soul mate" suddenly woke up tomorrow and decided you were the one, what would you have to offer?
If you don't have much to offer, then you know what you need to work on. You have nothing to lose - start living.
-------------------- I base my morality on physical nature; and my personal philosophy is based in power.
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Re: Everytime a girl comes into my life, I fall into deep depression and suicidal... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19074994 - 11/02/13 12:49 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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try men
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