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Anonymous #1

I don't think I can go to parties anymore
    #19058519 - 10/30/13 04:10 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Every time I go to a social gathering I have some sort of incident and embarrass myself. I just can't function around that many people. I literally cannot think of things worth vocalizing. So I end up standing around quietly, smoking or something.

And after the last few I went to a while back being particularly bad, I'm just deciding not to go to any anymore. Fuck parties, and forget hanging out with more than a couple people at the same time.


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Anonymous #2

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #19058535 - 10/30/13 04:13 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I've been saying that for a while now. Parties suck. I don't want to get shitfaced and I don't really want to meet a bunch of drunk people.


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Anonymous #1

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #19058568 - 10/30/13 04:22 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Haha yeah I'm not much for alcohol either. I do enjoy watching the drunk people doing stupid things though.

Last time the thing that went wrong was I got talked into played beer pong with hard alcohol. Got too drunk when I'm not used to drinking like ever.

I don't even remember what happened but I woke up on the floor with vomit on me.


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Anonymous #3

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #19058774 - 10/30/13 05:04 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I was always painfully shy ever since I can remember.  I find small talk so incredibly banal and the rituals we put ourselves through in social situations are hollow and embarrassing once you're hip to a deeper understanding. 

For my whole earlier life, I thought this "shyness" was something that absolutely had to be overcome, like a physical disability of sorts.  So I self-medicated to try to be the life of the party person I thought I was supposed to be.  I won't go into that because the addiction I lived through gave me a whole new set of obstacle to overcome versus just being fucking shy.

My lesson learned: being shy and kinda awkward may just be who you are and no need to feel pressured to change it.  some of us are just introverts.  everyone doesn't need to be an extrovert.  make use of the free time you have to spend it learning and doing new things, hobbies, arts, sciences.  you'll be expanding your mind in real ways versus spending every night/weekend at the latest, meaningless, social event. 

if you think being shy is a disadvantage - it's actually not, you just haven't learned to use it to your advantage yet.  most people who are shy and avoid typical social situations have amazingly good concentration and learning abilities that you can use in whatever way you want....


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Anonymous #1

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #19058817 - 10/30/13 05:12 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #3 said:
I was always painfully shy ever since I can remember.  I find small talk so incredibly banal and the rituals we put ourselves through in social situations are hollow and embarrassing once you're hip to a deeper understanding. 

For my whole earlier life, I thought this "shyness" was something that absolutely had to be overcome, like a physical disability of sorts.  So I self-medicated to try to be the life of the party person I thought I was supposed to be.  I won't go into that because the addiction I lived through gave me a whole new set of obstacle to overcome versus just being fucking shy.

My lesson learned: being shy and kinda awkward may just be who you are and no need to feel pressured to change it.  some of us are just introverts.  everyone doesn't need to be an extrovert.  make use of the free time you have to spend it learning and doing new things, hobbies, arts, sciences.  you'll be expanding your mind in real ways versus spending every night/weekend at the latest, meaningless, social event. 

if you think being shy is a disadvantage - it's actually not, you just haven't learned to use it to your advantage yet.  most people who are shy and avoid typical social situations have amazingly good concentration and learning abilities that you can use in whatever way you want....



I like that a lot. Embrace the shyness.

Maybe I will go to this party tomorrow and only speak when I feel like it. Spend the rest of the time getting super high and people watching


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Anonymous #4

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19059046 - 10/30/13 06:06 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

this is why you go to parties with friends. you know


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Anonymous #1

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #19059238 - 10/30/13 06:56 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Anonymous #4 said:
this is why you go to parties with friends. you know



lol, the only parties I go to are ones with friends. Even when all the people there are my good friends I have these horribly uncomfortable experiences.

I'm just THAT socially retarded. When I was growing up I was ALWAYS alone. It made me this way.


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Anonymous #4

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19060186 - 10/30/13 09:04 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

friends or aquaintences?


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Anonymous #1

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #19060214 - 10/30/13 09:06 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #4 said:
friends or aquaintences?



mostly acquaintances, but also like 3 friends and 2 close friends


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Anonymous #4

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19060233 - 10/30/13 09:09 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

go to a party with all good friends. or at least semi good friends. not just people you nod too on the way to class.


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Anonymous #5

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19062210 - 10/31/13 08:22 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #1 said:
Every time I go to a social gathering I have some sort of incident and embarrass myself. I just can't function around that many people. I literally cannot think of things worth vocalizing. So I end up standing around quietly, smoking or something.

And after the last few I went to a while back being particularly bad, I'm just deciding not to go to any anymore. Fuck parties, and forget hanging out with more than a couple people at the same time.




I do this same stuff when I go to parties, I end up standing somewhere chain-smoking, playing on my phone, and twittling my thumbs.

Then I start to get drunk and loosen up a little bit and socializing, then 9/10 times I end up getting too drunk and making an ass out of myself.

I love parties/socializing even though I suck at it.

I believe we are social beings at heart, it just comes more naturally to some. If you do it a lot though you should get better at it.


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Anonymous #6

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #5] * 4
    #19062787 - 10/31/13 11:04 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I dislike parties also, when I was 14 it was fun.

These days I'm so sick of the same petty bullshit. I'm sick of the alpha male trying to out-bro everyone at the party.

I'm sick of drunk bitches that think they're so cool when in reality they are no more special than the next drunk bitch. I'm sick of good friends doing anything they can to make themselves look better than you in front of said drunk bitch.

I'm sick of people thinking that a bunch of people drinking themselves into a stupor is the fun and cool, and the best way to socialize, even though everyone will forget 3/4 of the night.

I'm sick of fights, I'm sick of drama, I'm sick of stupid fucking drinking games. Fuck parties.

The only time I was really into going to parties was back when I sold grass, I would find customers then leave and go to the next one. I don't do that anymore so whenever I catch myself at a party I always think to myself wtf am I doing here.
 
I'd rather go to a rave, EDM show, concert or a festival. Even a light show at a planetarium is a better time for me than getting juiced.


Edited by Anonymous (10/31/13 11:11 AM)


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Anonymous #7

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #6] * 1
    #19062829 - 10/31/13 11:13 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I don't like parties either. Usually most of the people are assholes who are just there to get laid and be douche bags. There is usually some dipshit who thinks hes a tough guy too. I don't like parties.


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Anonymous #8

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #7]
    #19063003 - 10/31/13 11:57 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I'm pretty reserved at parties too, always have been. I usually just play beer pong all night :lol: I don't dance and I hate small talk so beer pong was pretty much the only other thing to do. It was always an easy way for me to meet new people at a party plus I really love beer pong :cookiemonster:


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Anonymous #9

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #8]
    #19063021 - 10/31/13 12:02 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Im the same as you guys, but i found that if you lighten up and share ideas with those who you connect with, its easy. Don't try to be social, actually be social. Just be yourself, If somebody judges you don't take it so personally. In the end its you judging yourself.


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Anonymous #10

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19064786 - 10/31/13 05:30 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #1 said:
Every time I go to a social gathering I have some sort of incident and embarrass myself. I just can't function around that many people. I literally cannot think of things worth vocalizing. So I end up standing around quietly, smoking or something.

And after the last few I went to a while back being particularly bad, I'm just deciding not to go to any anymore. Fuck parties, and forget hanging out with more than a couple people at the same time.




Perhaps you can have a new goal

How to interact with people at parties

Buy books, and go to counselling. Make it a special project of your life to improve this part of your spirituality while in this body.

Just say, " I can do it!"

and look towards every sunrise like a new chance to win a prize in the game of life.

:nodofunderstanding:


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Anonymous #1

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #10]
    #19069042 - 11/01/13 09:58 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Sooo, I went. And it was reallyyyy fun. I'm so glad that I went.

Connected with someone who used to be my best friend but we had a small falling out. And just embraced my shyness.

It felt liberating just sitting there thinking "I don't have to talk to feel comfortable. It's okay to be shy and thats what I am."


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Anonymous #11

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19069118 - 11/01/13 10:20 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

:grin::thumbup: 

That shit they always tell you when you're a kid, "just be yourself!"...well in most cases, it actually works.


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Anonymous #1

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #11]
    #19069123 - 11/01/13 10:21 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #11 said:
:grin::thumbup: 

That shit they always tell you when you're a kid, "just be yourself!"...well in most cases, it actually works.



Yeah for most of my life I thought stuff like that was bullshit.

I had trust issues as a kid; so I actually rarely took advice from anybody


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Anonymous #12

Re: I don't think I can go to parties anymore [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #19069305 - 11/01/13 11:01 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

parties suck

get drunk


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