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kakashi68
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I feel like im wasting my youth
#19057959 - 10/30/13 02:34 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well Ive never been that real social type person. But the problem is I want to be. I hardly ever go out but that only because I dont have a gf or really any good friends. Like theres work friends and alot of people that I talk to but I dont have any friends to like really hang out with and go drinking ect. Its not the I feel peer pressured by society, its that on the occasions that I have been out, Ive had such a great time and have lots of fond memories. Im only 19 but the situation doesn't seem to be changing.
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Re: I feel like im wasting my youth [Re: kakashi68]
#19058066 - 10/30/13 02:50 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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kakashi68 said: Im only 19 but the situation doesn't seem to be changing.
You have plenty of youth left. The thing is, you aren't gonna gain closer relationships if you don't put yourself out there in some way. Maybe join a club or something?
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Re: I feel like im wasting my youth [Re: kakashi68] 1
#19061786 - 10/31/13 04:57 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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It's funny because this post isn't that related to relationships and sexuality in itself but it implies what you are getting at.
You obviously have a repetitive cycle going. I cant imagine you haven't met people and made friends. Get out of your tentative pattern and become more adventurous. You will meet people you wouldn't normally meet by being different places and doing different.
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Re: I feel like im wasting my youth [Re: kakashi68]
#19062760 - 10/31/13 10:59 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Start going out by yourself and make new friends at whatever bars are to your liking. Or look for one bar-going friend and work your way into it that way. Or accept that you're not the bar-going type and deal with it.
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Re: I feel like im wasting my youth [Re: koraks]
#19063787 - 10/31/13 02:39 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Judging by your profile pic and your signature, you probably need to cut down dramatically on weed. You're probably in that weed spiral where you don't even realise just how antisocial it is. Give it a rest for a month or two and see if it makes a difference.
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kakashi68
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Re: I feel like im wasting my youth [Re: llama_police]
#19064040 - 10/31/13 03:25 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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No, I dont smoke much, I just love peep show :P. I had a somewhat antisocial childhood and im trying to catch up ever since. The hardest part for as said above, is actually meeting new people. So like is it normal for someone to go into a bar sit down with a group who are already friends and talk to these complete strangers?
-------------------- You know, just sometimes in between the first cigarette with coffee in the morning to that 400th glass of cornershop piss at 3am--you do sometimes look at yourself and think--this is fantastic. I'm in heaven. -Bernard Black
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Re: I feel like im wasting my youth [Re: kakashi68]
#19065554 - 10/31/13 07:40 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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you feel like you're wasting your youth because you aren't wasted with friends?

high school is over bro. making friends now takes a bit of a conscious effort. but if you're in college, not really. it should be more like wading through your pool of friends to find the ones you enjoy chillin with the most.
but after all that, ya, your coworkers are your new family. so you better like them. aside from that, wife kids blahblahblah, barflys, club friends. friends are rare, and indeed, friends.
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Re: I feel like im wasting my youth [Re: kakashi68]
#19068321 - 11/01/13 04:01 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I feel ya OP, I'm 21 and have no friends and hardly ever leave my house.
Righ now the shroomery is my best friend.
I suck at being social, but still love being social.
I need to get a job so I can have some money to get back out in the world and start doing stuff.
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Re: I feel like im wasting my youth [Re: kakashi68]
#19069416 - 11/01/13 11:23 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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OP....try volunteering at a soup kitchen (tis the season) or something like that....maybe a hospital. Doing good is a turn on for both you and the others there. Bars are ok sometimes but dudes get drunk and stupid shit happens. Not kidding....this is tried and true.  M
-------------------- Look Deep Into Nature,and Then You Will Understand Everything Better. Albert Einstein
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