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Almond Flour
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No days off..... 1
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This is hell, im so fucking stressed. School full time, with a part time job. I have not had a single day off for over a month.....its fucking with my head. Even when I get a few hours to mellow out I cant, because I have to plug back in within 5 hours or as soon as I get up.
Combine that with the stress of having no support, not getting to be near my son, its maddening. I see no way out, Its like Im in a hole of choas and its not going to end any time soon. College was a mistake, Im a convicted felon and the bulk of good jobs which deal with state or federal government wont hire me. To make matters worse I had my felony expunged, but employers can STILL see it.
Im ready to start breaking windows and shit out of pure frustration, Im tired, miserable, and stressed beyond belief.....and for what? To be THOUSANDS of dollars in debt and to end up cooking pizza still?
I wish it would end man, I just want the pain to stop. I dont want to kill myself and I never world, but im so tired and frustrated. One mistake and no matter how hard you work it never ends. Combine that with the absolute witch my sons mother was and I have no idea what ive done to deserve this crap. Ive got a good heart man, I really do, but at the end of the day life and even God will let you flail without mercy. This planet is sink or swim, and just because I have the strength to endure doesnt mean I want to. At what point will I find a solid place to rest Ive been so Nomadic for years, and im miserable, fucking miserable
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Edited by Almond Flour (10/30/13 11:35 AM)
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This is hell, im so fucking stressed. School full time, with a part time job
I can identify with you very closely. I am a full time student and I work full time.
Yesterday I felt just like you, but today the storm broke when I scored two A's on two tests. And like you said, in only a matter of hours its time to jump back into the books and grind! And after my test tomorrow I am back on the grind for 3 exams next week!
One thing that may help you is looking at the situation differently. My psychology professors teach us to appraise difficult situations as a challenge. That is, something you can grow from and conquer.
There are many coping methods that could be used and here I would like to share some of my own methods which help me from taking an ax to my house in a fit of stress.
- Take 5 minutes to write down your anger and feelings (even if its on the Shroomery like you did). I personally like to do 5 minutes of continuous writing in which I write any damn thing that's on my mind. I read a study that compared two sets of factory workers: those who were laid off and took time to write about their problems and those who were laid off and wrote about nothing in particular. In time the group who wrote about their problems developed a more positive attitude about life.
-Take just 5 minutes and do 3 sets of pushups or run few laps around the block. In times of stress and time crunch even minimal exercise can leave you feeling better at the end of the day.
-A tactic that I use but don't necessarily advise is skipping one class in order to study or catch up for another. Most classes give you a certain amount of absences that you may use before it affects your grade. If you feel you can keep on track then you might consider cutting a class in order to give yourself some more time. You and I both know that time is money and money is tuition and time is grades! It's a giant cluster fuck!
-Keep a long term calendar and see if you can schedule breaks with your job and align them with your school breaks. This will give you a chance to re-gather and possibly spend some time with your son.
-Don't forget to eat! I have a terrible habit of forget to eat or avoiding food so as to complete assignments. It is hard to eat nutritiously when time is short and so it might be wise to buy some foods that can be made quickly. Some of my choices are: Apples, wheat biscuts (cereal), waffles, minute rice, hardboiled eggs, and pasta. You get the idea.
-Keep a calendar and write every date that you have in order to keep on track with your school assignments.
-Face your problems. Make a list of everything that needs done for the day and take pride in checking off those listed things. Keep organized.
-Another thing I do, which may be maladaptive and which I don't recommend to anybody, is smoke pot in order to relieve stress. It does relieve stress for me but I also notice that I am slightly more "foggy" when under the influence. I believe I could study more efficiently without it but I also believe that it keeps me somewhat sane.
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Im ready to start breaking windows and shit out of pure frustration, Im tired, miserable, and stressed beyond belief.
Keep cool and get your work done this semester. I think you and I both learned a valuable lesson about school. Working while going to school is fucking hard! Next semester, in an attempt to avoid overload, you might consider taking only 3 classes or 3 sit down classes and one online class. That is what I chose to do.
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To make matters worse I had my felony expunged, but employers can STILL see it.
Don't fret just yet. I had a misdemeanor and a withdrawn felony and I was able to expunge them and join the military. The chances are that you need to go see an attorney and tell him your problem. Let him know you want it completely expunged, deeply expunged. It can be done. Whenever I get an FBI record check I always come back clean.
You may also consider education in terms of knowledge. Sure jobs are necessary to take care of your kids but I promise you that if you graduate you will be a much smarter person, especially if you manage to overcome these challenges in life.
If you need to talk about your problems feel free to PM me. Maybe we can come up with some decent coping strategies together.
Cheers to education!
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Re: No days off..... [Re: XUL]
#19057819 - 10/30/13 02:06 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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This is hell, im so fucking stressed. School full time, with a part time job
I can identify with you very closely. I am a full time student and I work full time.
Yesterday I felt just like you, but today the storm broke when I scored two A's on two tests. And like you said, in only a matter of hours its time to jump back into the books and grind! And after my test tomorrow I am back on the grind for 3 exams next week!
One thing that may help you is looking at the situation differently. My psychology professors teach us to appraise difficult situations as a challenge. That is, something you can grow from and conquer.
There are many coping methods that could be used and here I would like to share some of my own methods which help me from taking an ax to my house in a fit of stress.
- Take 5 minutes to write down your anger and feelings (even if its on the Shroomery like you did). I personally like to do 5 minutes of continuous writing in which I write any damn thing that's on my mind. I read a study that compared two sets of factory workers: those who were laid off and took time to write about their problems and those who were laid off and wrote about nothing in particular. In time the group who wrote about their problems developed a more positive attitude about life.
-Take just 5 minutes and do 3 sets of pushups or run few laps around the block. In times of stress and time crunch even minimal exercise can leave you feeling better at the end of the day.
-A tactic that I use but don't necessarily advise is skipping one class in order to study or catch up for another. Most classes give you a certain amount of absences that you may use before it affects your grade. If you feel you can keep on track then you might consider cutting a class in order to give yourself some more time. You and I both know that time is money and money is tuition and time is grades! It's a giant cluster fuck!
-Keep a long term calendar and see if you can schedule breaks with your job and align them with your school breaks. This will give you a chance to re-gather and possibly spend some time with your son.
-Don't forget to eat! I have a terrible habit of forget to eat or avoiding food so as to complete assignments. It is hard to eat nutritiously when time is short and so it might be wise to buy some foods that can be made quickly. Some of my choices are: Apples, wheat biscuts (cereal), waffles, minute rice, hardboiled eggs, and pasta. You get the idea.
-Keep a calendar and write every date that you have in order to keep on track with your school assignments.
-Face your problems. Make a list of everything that needs done for the day and take pride in checking off those listed things. Keep organized.
-Another thing I do, which may be maladaptive and which I don't recommend to anybody, is smoke pot in order to relieve stress. It does relieve stress for me but I also notice that I am slightly more "foggy" when under the influence. I believe I could study more efficiently without it but I also believe that it keeps me somewhat sane.
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Im ready to start breaking windows and shit out of pure frustration, Im tired, miserable, and stressed beyond belief.
Keep cool and get your work done this semester. I think you and I both learned a valuable lesson about school. Working while going to school is fucking hard! Next semester, in an attempt to avoid overload, you might consider taking only 3 classes or 3 sit down classes and one online class. That is what I chose to do.
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To make matters worse I had my felony expunged, but employers can STILL see it.
Don't fret just yet. I had a misdemeanor and a withdrawn felony and I was able to expunge them and join the military. The chances are that you need to go see an attorney and tell him your problem. Let him know you want it completely expunged, deeply expunged. It can be done. Whenever I get an FBI record check I always come back clean.
You may also consider education in terms of knowledge. Sure jobs are necessary to take care of your kids but I promise you that if you graduate you will be a much smarter person, especially if you manage to overcome these challenges in life.
If you need to talk about your problems feel free to PM me. Maybe we can come up with some decent coping strategies together.
Cheers to education!
Appreciate your time to respond Im sure I will snap out of it, I always do, and will try to organize better
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I would quit college and move to a hippy commune. There are many respectable ones out there. It'll almost certainly be less stressful. I don't have the stresses you do but I regret going to college as well.
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i like cow poo said: I would quit college and move to a hippy commune. There are many respectable ones out there. It'll almost certainly be less stressful. I don't have the stresses you do but I regret going to college as well.
What happens at a hippy commune? What happens at anarchist collectives?
I only know that they exist but I have never seen one.
Freeganism. New Ideas. Maybe even self actualization.
But I don't agree with any violent movements. I would prefer well written words and published articles, and peaceful demonstrations and events.
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Re: No days off..... [Re: XUL]
#19059398 - 10/30/13 07:18 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hippy communes are peaceful. This is just one example: http://www.twinoakscommunity.org/
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i like cow poo said: Hippy communes are peaceful. This is just one example: http://www.twinoakscommunity.org/
That looks alluring. And they have an outreach division devoted to public affairs as well.
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Re: No days off..... [Re: XUL]
#19059652 - 10/30/13 07:54 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Theres a million more just like that on this website http://www.ic.org/
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i like cow poo said: Theres a million more just like that on this website http://www.ic.org/
Cool. Thanks.
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Re: No days off..... [Re: XUL]
#19059960 - 10/30/13 08:37 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Has anyone lived in one of these communions? It sounds like a more relaxed way of life to me.
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BlackWidow said: Has anyone lived in one of these communions? It sounds like a more relaxed way of life to me.
So what happens when someone begins to die from a common cold or a simple infection? Nobody will have the means to heal each other with modern medicine. Or would they?
With that being said I think that it may be safe to consider a reduction of life expectancy when joining a commune or collective.
Is that bad? I suppose that is up to the individual.
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Re: No days off..... [Re: XUL]
#19064375 - 10/31/13 04:24 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Meh some provide healthcare. Also it keeps you fit and eating EXTREMELY healthy.
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i like cow poo said: Meh some provide healthcare. Also it keeps you fit and eating EXTREMELY healthy.
Interesting enough.
http://mag.newsweek.com/2013/05/29/brit-marling-on-ditching-goldman-sachs-freeganism-the-east.html
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Almond Flour said: College was a mistake
Wrong.... your CHOICE in college was a mistake. We already told you that your associates or bachelors in underwater basket weaving wasn't going to get you anywhere...and look where you are at years later? You have an underwater basket degree that does jack shit.
You should of went to college for an actual skill or went off to learn a trade...instead you ignored every bit of good advice so that you could continue to make pizza...
And that still stands, I hope you're doing something to get you out of making pizza all day.
Life might be hard, but YOU made it out to be harder because of your choices and it didn't have to be this way.
Take each day as it comes and work towards goals... get your shit together, get your head in the game... do whatever you need to do to become successful.
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Re: No days off..... [Re: Uzziel]
#19067461 - 11/01/13 12:47 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Almond Flour said: College was a mistake
Wrong.... your CHOICE in college was a mistake. We already told you that your associates or bachelors in underwater basket weaving wasn't going to get you anywhere...and look where you are at years later? You have an underwater basket degree that does jack shit.
You should of went to college for an actual skill or went off to learn a trade...instead you ignored every bit of good advice so that you could continue to make pizza...
And that still stands, I hope you're doing something to get you out of making pizza all day.
Life might be hard, but YOU made it out to be harder because of your choices and it didn't have to be this way.
Take each day as it comes and work towards goals... get your shit together, get your head in the game... do whatever you need to do to become successful.
Bro, when you guys were giving me advice years back I was already deep into school, and into debt. To reverse my plan of action would have been faulty. I admit that I could have changed my major to something useful, but even then the amount of turmoil that I was dealing with was unbearable.
Its true man, I could have chosen something different, but at least I will have a degree. I have 1 more semester left, what I do after my schooling I have no idea, but hopefully an AA and a BA will look decent to employeers. And my degree isnt totally shit! Tourism is a thriving field and my major has the highest job placement rate than any other major! Come to think of it, I did switch to something better. Like I said I was gonna major in music, maybe you guys hounding me did something, although it was probably being miserable in a broken home while my kids mom tried to make me snap mentally 
I dont think its my degree that will hold me back from finding a job but my criminal record. I have no idea how XUL got his record cleaned but the FBI has my DNA. I had a hardcore felony that was eventually dropped to a misdemeanor and then off my record. My current problem is that they can still see not only my dropped charges, but even the shit they TRIED to charge me with.
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I think Uzziel is trying to help, but he seems to be causing panic rather than looking at the situation in a reasonable way.
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Wrong.... your CHOICE in college was a mistake. We already told you that your associates or bachelors in underwater basket weaving wasn't going to get you anywhere...and look where you are at years later? You have an underwater basket degree that does jack shit.
I disagree. The college experience shouldn't be taken lightly. Just because he had massive volumes of art work to do doesn't mean it was any easier as compared to a psychology major - I know, I was graduated with a BFA. Higher learning gives you general education, plus your concentration, plus competence. Graduating is not easy. Be proud of yourself.
Just because one person doesn't believe college is worthwhile doesn't mean you should feel negatively towards your degree. College is a big chance to grow as a person.
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It's true man, I could have chosen something different, but at least I will have a degree. I have 1 more semester left, what I do after my schooling I have no idea,
I graduated with a useless degree and it still paid off in my life: more pay, better chance at jobs, etc... A bachelor's degree, no matter what it is, will help you.
The best part of this is that you have completed all your general education requirements which means you can go back to your school and study for a different degree (maybe one you find a passion for years down the road) and you can earn that degree in nearly a year and a half! I can attest to this because its what I am doing now. I studied graphic design first(BFA) and now I am studying psychology(BS). All my general education requirements are done and I can earn my degree very quickly.
People might try to convince you that your ideas about college were stupid, but don't let them. College is a fun and education place full of activities, clubs, activists, movements, ideas, and all the sort. You are living the life. Enjoy!
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Edited by XUL (11/01/13 07:08 AM)
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Almond, have you talked to your lawyer? If its expunged they shouldn't be able to see anything related to the original crime. You really need to talk to your lawyer about it.
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Re: No days off..... [Re: Uzziel]
#19069353 - 11/01/13 11:09 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Uzziel said: Almond, have you talked to your lawyer? If its expunged they shouldn't be able to see anything related to the original crime. You really need to talk to your lawyer about it.
Its a scam bro....in fact I should make a thread about it but its a common misconception. They can't read about the charges but they can still see it! They just can't access it.....it simply says "sealed" or something
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Here is the right message—and it applies equally to the suicidal teenager as well as to the commonly resentful. The message is that what you have always secretly suspected is true. The world is not supposed to be like this. Your intuitions of something more beautiful are valid. You are meant for an amazing, divine purpose. You are brilliant, possessed of unique gifts just waiting to be discovered. And—very important—anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. Worse than lying, they are stealing from you. Much has been stolen already, but there is one thing no one can ever steal (though you might put it aside, temporarily) and that is your soul knowledge of the message I have just related. What’s more, it is possible to recover all that has been lost. It might take time, but no one is a helpless victim. All we need is to reconnect with the power we already have. It is the power, first and foremost, to say no. You have been exercising that power all along, in fact, but when you begin to see the source of the betrayal, when you begin to see through the lies that construct the lesser life and lesser world that most of us have grudgingly accepted, then that power is multiplied a thousandfold. You have the power to withdraw, not through the unconscious mechanisms of laziness, depression or suicide, but consciously, mindfully. And then, in the empty space that you create for yourself, begin to play. Begin to do what you enjoy, without having to justify it to anyone. From this starting point you will discover meaning, passion, and life, and you will become indominable.
Read the whole thing here bro, it resonated alot with me when I was feeling the way you are. http://www.ascentofhumanity.com/the-great-robbery.php
peace be with you man
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I have nothing to offer you in terms of how to deal with your situation...
I feel this post though 
I hope you keep pushing through this bullshit.
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