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Egalitarian Industrial Societies
    #19052401 - 10/29/13 03:18 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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        Naturally as human beings we are compelled to procreate which, due to increasing populations and better technology, has created an industrial age in some countries. Industrialist societies have their own unique characteristics as pertaining to marriage and conversely non-industrial societies have somewhat different traits. Even though love is an abstract and a seemingly immeasurable variable many researchers have studied love and marriage in respect to success, length, health, and general positive approaches. Research has enabled the educational community to take steps to create positive approaches to love, attempting to find out why love fails and why love succeeds, and addressing the adaptive and maladaptive strategies that exist in the world today.

During the strict and conservative Victorian age in America a writer named Sinclair Lewis (1920) expressed a compelling view on marriage with his work of fiction, Main Street. The heroine of the book, Carol, marries to a doctor. At first Carol is happy with her marriage, glowing with the heat of love, but she soon discovers that she is not so in love as she once thought, “We want a more conscious life. We’re tired of drudging and sleeping and dying. We’re tired of seeing just a few people able to be individualists. We’re tired of always deferring hope till the next generation. We’re tired of hearing the politicians and priests and cautious reformers (and the husbands!) coax us, ‘Be calm! Be patient! Wait! We have the plans for a Utopia already made; just give us a bit more time and we’ll produce it; trust us; we’re wiser than you.’ For ten thousand years they’ve said that. We want our Utopia now – and we’re going to try our hands at it” (p. 207). In fact it seems that Carol had become unruly to the conservative conventionalities of proper marriage at the time. Due to the temptation or expectation of gender roles Carol had blindly committed herself to a “static” relationship. As the 20th century furthered along America saw a women’s suffrage movement emerge. Along with this emergence came a change in American gender roles, a breaking of old taboos, a reforming of ideas, and a reformulation of the interworking of marriage. The shift in gender roles has left many couples in a psychological state of compunction, for in America, and the industrial world for that matter, it is not essential to procreate in order to ensure the survival of the human species anymore. The lack of biological necessity combined with gender shifts may leave couples bewildered. Sinclair Lewis wrote Main Street in 1920 but through her novel Liza Mundy shows that relationship angst seems to have followed us into the current day and age, “In the face of women’s rising power and changing expectations, many men may experience an existential crisis. When the woman takes on the role of primary breadwinner, it takes away an essential part of many men’s identity: that of the provider, the role he was trained, tailored and told to do since he could walk and talk” (Mundy, L. 2012). Due to the change in gender roles and social structure America has been left a lonely place. Suzanne Venker (2012) from the National Review Online states that, “Today, a mere 51 percent of U.S adults are married, compared with 72 percent in 1960 — before the feminist movement took off” (p. 1). Due to the lack of marriages and the increasing amounts of single adults we may find that gender roles and expectations may be a hard thing to match when trying to form a relationship. In response to this difficulty dating websites like E-harmony and Plenty of Fish have emerged in an attempt to help us find companions with similar values, beliefs, traits and more, “Mundy’s right: The way women and men court and love each other has definitely changed. That’s why we have millions of singles in this country desperately searching for a spouse. It’s why businesses like Match.com, Eharmony.com, Spark.com, and It’s Just Lunch are booming with clients looking to get hitched” (Venker, S. 2012). With the rising numbers of singles, electronic dating, and mixed values couples may find themselves left in a state of confusion, “The first weeks and months of my relationship with bob were incredible. I felt like I had found the perfect partner, someone who filled all that was missing in my life. Then, suddenly, he started to get on my nerves, and we started fighting every time we saw each other. It took a while to realize that we were finally seeing each other as real people instead of dream companions” (Crooks, R. & Baur, K. 2011). Steinberger’s Triangular Theory of Love attempts to address relationships, assessing adaptation and maladaptation. The testimonial just listed testimonials may be the result of a mismatch between three of Steinberger’s said dimensions: Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment. Steinberger’s theory goes to show that if passion is the only existent dimension then a short lived infatuation may be developed which might result in a short lasting relationship, hence the rising number of singles in America.

I personally maintain that the shift in gender roles and social structures in America should be approached carefully and with understanding for one another. Suzanne Venker (2012) has a seemingly aggressive opinion, “Never before have women and men had such a difficult time getting together. Forty years after it first began, feminists’ fight with Mother Nature has come to an end. Guess who won?” (p.1), which seems to emphasize a sort of battle between the sexes. I maintain that gender shifts should be dealt with in a kind and generous manner and be referred to as an egalitarian movement defined by understanding, meritocracy in the work place, and a general attempt to become an equal and happy industrial nation.

        Similarly the industrial nation of South Korea has also had an egalitarian movement. Paul Wiseman (2008) from USA Today states that in Korea, “An economic boom in recent decades means women have options their mothers didn't. Better educated, they can have careers — and opt to stay single until Prince Charming shows up, if he ever does” (p. 1). Some conservative Korean men are approaching the situation by seeking out mates in poor countries as to maintain a conservative household says Wiseman (2012), “Many Asian men, particularly those in rural areas, tend to seek traditional wives who will stay home, doing chores and raising children, say Mika Toyota, a research fellow at the National University of Singapore's Asia Research Institute, and other experts who study the region” (p. 1). Industrial nations such as South Korea and America may create a sense of confusion, for with the rise of equality comes a battle of tenacity and of mismatched values.

Conversely if we look at nonindustrial nations and peoples, even those in the past, such as the Native Americans we might see a different kind of behavior. During the 15th century, before the influence of imposing Western societal pressures Native Americans in North America did not find it strange for a man to take care of household duties, in fact it was only the most motivated individuals that could hold this position. According to Bruce M. King (2012) a two-spirit was an anatomically correct male who assumed the dress, responsibilities, vocations, and behavior of the opposite sex (p. 216). As westerners imposed on the Indians they began to shift their social structure and associate the two-spirit with maladaptation. Not only are Native Americans an example of changing social structures, but the incident also further affirms America’s current age and the societal battles that come with it – all rooted from the beginning.

      The countries around the world and those that existed once before are all different in their struggles, but it clear that industrialism is inherent of certain traits: suffrage movements, societal shaping, and the emergence of social norms. At this point, especially in American, time will only tell if egalitarian industrialist societies will be successful. I believe that they will. I believe that relationships would be best approached with an open mind so as to accommodate new ideas and the social shaping happening in America. If America wants to improve its outcome of marriage then we must each use adaptive strategies that incorporate understanding through knowledge. These strategies may be explored via the internet, books, university classes, and more. It seems clear to me that exposure is the key to understanding each other – even if we eventually must agree to disagree.




References

Crooks, R. & Baur, K, (2011). Our Sexuality: Eleventh Edition. Location: Wadsworth.

King, B. M. 2012. Human Sexuality: Seventh Edition. New Jersey: Prentice Hall.

Lewis, S. 1920. Main Street. New York: Barns and Noble Classics.

Mundy, L. 2012. The Richer Sex. New York: Free Press.

Venker S. 2012. Rich Women and Emasculated Men. The Home Front. Retrieved from              http://www.nationalreview.com/home-front/295021/rich-women-and-emasculated-men/suzanne-venker
 


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Re: Egalitarian Industrial Societies [Re: XUL]
    #19052629 - 10/29/13 04:04 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

So what?


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With much wisdom comes much sorrow,
The more knowledge, the more grief.
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Re: Egalitarian Industrial Societies [Re: Icelander]
    #19052692 - 10/29/13 04:15 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Icelander said:
So what?




Yes, so what are your thoughts on the issue?


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Re: Egalitarian Industrial Societies [Re: XUL]
    #19053559 - 10/29/13 06:50 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

What issue?


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Re: Egalitarian Industrial Societies [Re: Icelander]
    #19053720 - 10/29/13 07:16 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Icelander said:
What issue?




Your avatar also is a snarling animal.


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