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is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? 1
#19041601 - 10/27/13 04:35 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm afraid that the kid will be mentally handicapped.
I'm in no shape to bring a child in to this world right now anyways, but I don't think I'll ever be able to get over it.
I'm afraid that I won't be able to love them and that they will be a burden on me/my future wife for the rest of our lives, I know that's fucked up, but I can't change how I feel.
I would think about adoption, but I would like to be able to have a child that I actually took part in making.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19041605 - 10/27/13 04:36 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yes im afraid of having a downy
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19041620 - 10/27/13 04:41 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Set]
#19041625 - 10/27/13 04:43 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Some people just get dealt the shitty/fucked up gene card and come out all derpy. Having a baby is like russian roulette. Might get a normy, might get a ginger, might get a potatoe.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Mescalean]
#19041631 - 10/27/13 04:46 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Are you worried about how the child will initially be, or if you will be able to raise it?
If you think that the kid will be handicapped/retarded, then you might see it as a challenge to give yourself the life experience not many people will have. As for not loving it, you could always give it up for adoption before it becomes cognitive.
As for me; I'm not afraid. I don't want kids, anyway.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Telumbe Maur]
#19041640 - 10/27/13 04:49 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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OP, I bet a lot more people think that than you think.
If I were to find out my unborn child would have down syndrome, I would have an abortion. I wouldn't want that child to grow up in this cruel world with something like that.
Honestly if any of the ultrasounds showed that the baby would have a severe handicap, I would abort.
And its my uterus so I can do what I want!
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: VivaLaMushie]
#19041649 - 10/27/13 04:52 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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My girl is pro abortion and actually told me the other night she'd about if I got her preggo.
If my baby had downs I would not want to deal with that. Fuck that noise.
Have you seen someone with downs theow a temper tantrum? It's hilarious for everyone else but the parents. No amount of candy calms them down
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Mescalean]
#19041652 - 10/27/13 04:54 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm not afraid of having a mentally handicapped child (because abortion).
I'm way more afraid that i will fuck him up...
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Telumbe Maur]
#19041654 - 10/27/13 04:54 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Telumbe Maur said: Are you worried about how the child will initially be, or if you will be able to raise it?
I'm not sure exactly what you're saying but I'm afraid the child will come out retarted.
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Telumbe Maur said: As for not loving it, you could always give it up for adoption before it becomes cognitive.
I couldn't do that, I would probably think about them all the time until I drove myself insane.
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Telumbe Maur said: As for me; I'm not afraid. I don't want kids, anyway.
I do, at least I think I do, but not anytime soon.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Mescalean]
#19041660 - 10/27/13 04:56 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yeah, always had the same worries too. BUT, since my GF and I found out that we can't have kids together (she was diagnosed with severe endometriosis, which means basically zero chance of conception) that concern went out the window and I'd just be happy to have a little rug rat regardless.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Patlal]
#19041672 - 10/27/13 04:59 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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VivaLaMushie said: OP, I bet a lot more people think that than you think.
If I were to find out my unborn child would have down syndrome, I would have an abortion. I wouldn't want that child to grow up in this cruel world with something like that.
Honestly if any of the ultrasounds showed that the baby would have a severe handicap, I would abort.
And its my uterus so I can do what I want! 
I agree with that, I don't have the authority (nor do I want it) to tell my future significant other to abort a child if it was handicapped, but I hope they would have the sense to do it.
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Patlal said: I'm not afraid of having a mentally handicapped child (because abortion).
I'm way more afraid that i will fuck him up...
Not all problems can be tested for in utero though, and the girl could be pro-life.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19041681 - 10/27/13 05:02 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mjmihalov said: I'm afraid that the kid will be mentally handicapped.
I'm in no shape to bring a child in to this world right now anyways, but I don't think I'll ever be able to get over it.
I'm afraid that I won't be able to love them and that they will be a burden on me/my future wife for the rest of our lives, I know that's fucked up, but I can't change how I feel.
I would think about adoption, but I would like to be able to have a child that I actually took part in making.
im mentally handicapped and my parents love me and im fine. the fuck!
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Poor Boy]
#19041690 - 10/27/13 05:04 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Mescalean]
#19041693 - 10/27/13 05:05 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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you know damn well they still call you that.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Poor Boy]
#19041701 - 10/27/13 05:07 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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They do.
My dad use to sneak into my room at night naked and beat me up too
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Mescalean]
#19041705 - 10/27/13 05:08 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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that explains a lot.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Poor Boy]
#19041720 - 10/27/13 05:13 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Mescalean]
#19041747 - 10/27/13 05:22 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Earth should be put on lock down no more babies until we figure our shit out
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: MystiqueMushroom]
#19041776 - 10/27/13 05:30 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Im afraid if I ever do have children I will try and raise them to be what I want them to be, instead of what they want. Initially the children learn morals, views and everything through observation of the parents and their surroundings, media ofcourse -
I wouldent allow my children to watch television for more than a few hours a week, they would study even when school is out, and forced to read a new book a month, and by age five-six I would make it a point to learn a second language after their basic understanding of english is rooted. Sports and activities, and to say what they think, be blunt.
Omg, I could never have a child.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19041803 - 10/27/13 05:40 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Patlal said: I'm not afraid of having a mentally handicapped child (because abortion).
I'm way more afraid that i will fuck him up...
Not all problems can be tested for in utero though, and the girl could be pro-life.
My staircase is pro-abortion
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: JMcDoogle]
#19041829 - 10/27/13 05:47 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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JMcDoogle said: Im afraid if I ever do have children I will try and raise them to be what I want them to be, instead of what they want. Initially the children learn morals, views and everything through observation of the parents and their surroundings, media ofcourse -
I wouldent allow my children to watch television for more than a few hours a week, they would study even when school is out, and forced to read a new book a month, and by age five-six I would make it a point to learn a second language after their basic understanding of english is rooted. Sports and activities, and to say what they think, be blunt.
Omg, I could never have a child.
I would try to have them do stuff like that, but never force it.
They'll probably grow up and resent all the stuff you made them do, then they won't like learning, they'll never read again, they'll become television junkies, etc... and they might disown you for forcing them.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19041886 - 10/27/13 06:02 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mjmihalov said: the girl could be pro-life.
Not any girl I date. That's a deal-breaker for me.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19041899 - 10/27/13 06:04 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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There's a lady in my complex who has a "God is Pro Life" bumper sticker on her car.
Its like...the size of her bumper, too.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: VivaLaMushie]
#19041904 - 10/27/13 06:05 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I still see the obama bumper stickers every now and again.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Mescalean]
#19042003 - 10/27/13 06:31 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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No, I'm afraid of having a child because it would be a huge pain in my life.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Bikerfool]
#19042028 - 10/27/13 06:38 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Prenatal testing and abortion. Sorry if anyones offended, not sorry.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Mescalean] 1
#19042100 - 10/27/13 06:52 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Have you seen someone with downs theow a temper tantrum? It's hilarious for everyone else but the parents. No amount of candy calms them down
It's not hilarious for anyone.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: 4runner]
#19042115 - 10/27/13 06:54 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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anunnakian said:
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Have you seen someone with downs theow a temper tantrum? It's hilarious for everyone else but the parents. No amount of candy calms them down
It's not hilarious for anyone.
No.. its not. Sad really to think someone could laugh at such a thing.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: 4runner]
#19042124 - 10/27/13 06:56 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Mescalean said:
Have you seen someone with downs theow a temper tantrum? It's hilarious for everyone else but the parents. No amount of candy calms them down
It's not hilarious for anyone.
I see this every few months at my doctor and it makes me uncomfortable to be sitting there and trying to pretend like i don't realize that anything is going on. It's not like it makes me mad or anything, just seeing the parents look at you and they are saying sorry to you with their eyes it makes me feel bad that they have to go through that. Being in your 60s taking care of your 20/30 something child.. I can't imagine. The parents that stick through it all the way are special people though
And they often have a host of other medical issues that are very expensive even with insurance helping out they still get buried with bills.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: JMcDoogle]
#19042135 - 10/27/13 06:58 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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JMcDoogle said:
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Have you seen someone with downs theow a temper tantrum? It's hilarious for everyone else but the parents. No amount of candy calms them down
It's not hilarious for anyone.
No.. its not. Sad really to think someone could laugh at such a thing.
Yeah, it's really not.
I must admit I have made fun of retarded people before, never to their face, but I feel like shit for doing it, and would never even think about doing it now.
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#19042155 - 10/27/13 07:01 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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If it's not hilarious then why do I have to leave the vacinity in order to not laugh. I can't help the shit that makes me laugh.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Mescalean]
#19042179 - 10/27/13 07:05 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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First hand experiences, though I've had none myself with such a disorder, could really put things into perspective. I hope you're never burdened with such a situation.
My grandfather and all his brothers have suffered and died from Alzheimers condition, their sons, and my father all have shown signs of the conditions early into their sixties.
This is what scares me, to have to see it for myself and one day possibly pass down that experience to my children, as to say them watching their father ( me ) become irritable, and restless, and only memories twenty years prior with no connection to reality as it is in the here and now.
I'd rather be alone for that.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Mescalean]
#19042188 - 10/27/13 07:07 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Mescalean said: If it's not hilarious then why do I have to leave the vacinity in order to not laugh. I can't help the shit that makes me laugh.
Just because i don't find it funny doesn't mean you can't. but it is sick to laugh at other peoples suffering
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: JMcDoogle]
#19042206 - 10/27/13 07:09 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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JMcDoogle said: First hand experiences, though I've had none myself with such a disorder, could really put things into perspective. I hope you're never burdened with such a situation.
My grandfather and all his brothers have suffered and died from Alzheimers condition, their sons, and my father all have shown signs of the conditions early into their sixties.
This is what scares me, to have to see it for myself and one day possibly pass down that experience to my children, as to say them watching their father ( me ) become irritable, and restless, and only memories twenty years prior with no connection to reality as it is in the here and now.
I'd rather be alone for that.
Honestly I'd rather be dead than go through/make other people go through that, I'd probably take myself out if I was coherent enough to do so, probably with if oxymorphone, a nice euphoric death.
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I wouldn't say suffering having worked with them in the past they are some of the luckiest people around. They have to be some of the happiest people i've ever seen. A lot happier and funnier than a lot of people working 9-5 every day
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Mescalean]
#19042351 - 10/27/13 07:39 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Me and my girl just broke up because of the "do you want kids thing". She wants kids and I don't. Same question has been popping up in my head recently.. what if I had a kid and he ended up being retarded...
One of the reasons I don't want kids.
Too much of a burden for me to deal with. Call me selfish! Well I am pretty selfish come to think of it, but I'm honest about it
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19042483 - 10/27/13 08:09 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Patlal said: I'm not afraid of having a mentally handicapped child (because abortion).
I'm way more afraid that i will fuck him up...
Not all problems can be tested for in utero though, and the girl could be pro-life.
Yeah it's a common misconception that every problem can be screened for. Some issues are even caused during the birth itself.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: psi]
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Yeah I got fucked up during my birth pretty big time, its why my eyes are so bad, why the whole left side of my body has problems, and it caused a few other problems that I don't really care to discuss.
I almost killed my mom and shit, when I finally came out I was breech and had the umbilical cord wrapped around my neck and shit.
It was all so avoidable to if the doctor would've just listened to my mom and other family members, they kept telling him something was wrong, he didnt listen though, he just sat there reading a book or something they said.
My parents are against sueing people though, so am I really too, but this guy fucked me up pretty bad for my whole life, I really think we should've been compensated for his malpractice.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19042571 - 10/27/13 08:28 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mjmihalov said: Yeah I got fucked up during my birth pretty big time, its why my eyes are so bad, why the whole left side of my body has problems, and it caused a few other problems that I don't really care to discuss.
I almost killed my mom and shit, when I finally came out I was breech and had the umbilical cord wrapped around my neck and shit.
It was all so avoidable to if the doctor would've just listened to my mom and other family members, they kept telling him something was wrong, he didnt listen though, he just sat there reading a book or something they said.
My parents are against sueing people though, so am I really too, but this guy fucked me up pretty bad for my whole life, I really think we should've been compensated for his malpractice.
You think there is a reason this happened to you? Maybe something you can take away from it to better yourself?
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: lets drive around]
#19042594 - 10/27/13 08:32 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Nope, I think its total bullshit and it makes me angry, if I knew who the doctor was and I saw him I'd probably handicap him for the rest of his life.
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19042596 - 10/27/13 08:33 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Do you have Horner's Sydrome?
I have a mild case of it, from having the umbilical cord wrapped around my neck, lack of O2 etc.
Not really noticable except my right pupil is like 3x the size of my left pupil. Looks pretty gnarly when I'm tripping, always get called out on it haha.
looks alot like David Bowie's
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Set]
#19042671 - 10/27/13 08:46 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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what if like ghosts are DNA and that if i have children, my dna would live on with them so could the dna that was essentially me that transferred over into my children be the ghost of my future self?
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Re: is anyone else afraid of having a child for this reason? [Re: Set]
#19042678 - 10/27/13 08:47 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Nah I don't think it's that.
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