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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: rackem]
    #19027620 - 10/24/13 07:09 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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rackem said:
koods your telling me that no matter what happens in life you will not ever be single. at any one moment?




But what if koods is a failure? :hmm:

Are you trying to tell me that it is desirable, in one's life, to never fail? :freud:


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: rackem] * 1
    #19028284 - 10/24/13 08:54 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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rackem said:
koods your telling me that no matter what happens in life you will not ever be single. at any one moment?




No, I'm telling you that I'm a failure.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: koods]
    #19028301 - 10/24/13 08:58 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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koods said:
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rackem said:
koods your telling me that no matter what happens in life you will not ever be single. at any one moment?




No, I'm telling you that I'm a failure.




That was obvious from the start. How could rackem ever think otherwise???


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal] * 1
    #19028325 - 10/24/13 09:02 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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koods said:
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rackem said:
koods your telling me that no matter what happens in life you will not ever be single. at any one moment?




No, I'm telling you that I'm a failure.




That was obvious from the start. How could rackem ever think otherwise???




No kidding. 9,000 posts in one year is a pretty good hint I spend a lot of time alone.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: koods]
    #19029656 - 10/25/13 05:29 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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koods said:
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Patlal said:
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koods said:
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rackem said:
koods your telling me that no matter what happens in life you will not ever be single. at any one moment?




No, I'm telling you that I'm a failure.




That was obvious from the start. How could rackem ever think otherwise???




No kidding. 9,000 posts in one year is a pretty good hint I spend a lot of time alone.




Hey, at least you spend your time alone being social. I generally spend my time alone busy with the beast that cannot be fed. :whacker:


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Sophistic Radiance] * 2
    #19029662 - 10/25/13 05:33 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

That's what's great about the Internet... You can do both at the same time. You have no idea how many loads I've had to clean off the screen just to read your posts, BS. :lol:


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: koods] * 1
    #19033884 - 10/26/13 12:55 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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That's what's great about the Internet... You can do both at the same time. You have no idea how many loads I've had to clean off the screen just to read your posts, BS. :lol:



I'm calling BS on that one


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: koods]
    #19033891 - 10/26/13 12:59 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

im slow....

so sue me

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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
    #19033925 - 10/26/13 01:20 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Patlal said:

What do you guys think about it?

Does being single put pressure on you? Are your family and friends on your ass asking you if you met somebody everytime you see them? Are you ashamed of being single?

Discuss




I think that people are single for a reason.

Being single does put pressure on me because of my age and lack of experience. I'm amazed that some of my peers began having sex by the time they were 15.

So the way I see it, I have a lot of catching up to do.

Yes. People I have grown up with have been asking me if I am planning to get married soon. I always respond with the truth. No, I do not plan to get married - ever.

I usually tell them that if I was going to get married, I would have done so by now.

No, I'm not ashamed of being single. I'm working on a higher quality of life. I'm not waiting for "the right person" - because there is no such thing. It's all ones and zeros.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
    #19033947 - 10/26/13 01:40 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I'd say it depends entirely on the person/relationship.

If you are a relationship type person that goes from relationship to relationship, and then you are single for a period of time due to you sucking ass as a person, when you WANT to be in a relationship, and meet people of the opposite sex all the time, but constantly get rejected because you are a douche or whatever.,.. then yeah I guess that's a failure.

But this society's notion of you are a failure just because you are single? I don't agree with that at all.

Being single and independent is always better than being in an unhealthy or unhappy relationship. 100% of the time. Or being in a relationship just because it's "expected" of you, or because of peer or family pressure.. fuck that. Being single and being able to live and develop on your own terms is 100x better than being chained down to something you hate or don't totally vibe with, or getting/staying in shitty relationship, just to "be in a relationship"... fuck that.

I guess I could see some single people at like a couples party or something could feel kind of left out. But on that same token, I know most of my single friends are HAPPY to be single, that they can fuck who they want, only answer to themselves, don't have all these expectations put on them, do whatever they want when they want.. etc etc. When I was single throughout a lot of my 20s, I enjoyed myself. I was not in a rush to get back into a relationship unless I found the right person that vibes with my personality and way of doing things. I enjoyed every second of being single and didn't try and stress finding someone.. 

I think it's stupid for people to put pressure or judge someone just based on if they are single or in a relationship. Be single if that's what makes you happy.. if you find the right person cool, if not.. then hey at least you're still happy! If you are in a happy relationship, then cool. If you are single because you are just an asshole piece of shit, then that's a different story.

But there are also people that are single for a long time, because they are simply waiting for the right person. Not everyone is compatible with everyone else.....


It's people that can't be happy UNLESS they are in a relationship, that have problems.  Chronic relationshipers.
They will break up with someone and instantly find someone else, sometimes the same day. They can't stand to be single for even a day. That's like a mental sickness of some kind.
After a relationship, you need to spend some time being single in order to recollect your thoughts and re-center yourself, re-find yourself..

TL;DR:
You should be able to be single and be perfectly happy and content living with yourself. If you aren't happy with yourself single, then being in a relationship isn't going to help you and your partner isn't going to be happy with you either. You have to be perfectly content being single before you can truly fully commit yourself to a relationship and another person, IMO.

So do what the fuck you want. If you see single as a failure then it's failure.
If you see it as winning, then you.. my friend, are winning.

Nothing is really good or bad, positive or negative until you assign a value to it, it simply is.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Shroomism]
    #19034160 - 10/26/13 03:43 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

marriage failure, yes.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: TheMovement]
    #19034300 - 10/26/13 05:22 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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TheMovement said:
Yes, being single is a failure.



:lol: may i ask for your reasoning in this assertion?


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: CidneyIndole]
    #19034490 - 10/26/13 07:52 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I don't see myself as a failure for being single.

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NotTheDevil said:
Being single is only a failure if your trying not to be single and failed






This was my immediate thought as well. However, after a bit more thought, that doesn't seem entirely true either. Perhaps in  a strictly literal sense, yes-- if you're trying for something, and don't succeed, you've "failed." 

However, in the sense of being responsible for the "failure" not necessarily. I mean, relationships and interpersonal chemistry can be very complicated things. You can be the nicest, most agreeable person in the world, and that still doesn't mean you could work in a committed romantic relationship with just anyone.


It's got to be the right person, and even the right time.


So no-- I do not see being single as a personal failure, necessarily. However, to that I will add: if you are trying to not be single, and failing constantly / repeatedly, you might want to consider whether you're doing something wrong.




That sums up my feelings pretty well.

I do however feel like I'm doing something wrong by not getting sex when I want sex. I guess I feel like a bit of a failure in that regard. No, not "I guess". I do. I do feel like a failure in that regard.:shrug:

Can't always get what you want though.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: birdland] * 1
    #19034519 - 10/26/13 08:08 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

ever since my friend got a girlfriend he never wants to hang out any more he just wants to be with his stupid girl friend :rolleyes: what  a dick lol


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Shroomism]
    #19034553 - 10/26/13 08:23 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Shroomism said:Nothing is really good or bad, positive or negative until you assign a value to it, it simply is.




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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: koods]
    #19034638 - 10/26/13 08:50 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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That's what's great about the Internet... You can do both at the same time. You have no idea how many loads I've had to clean off the screen just to read your posts, BS. :lol:




Nice to know I have that effect on you. :rofl:


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: nicechrisman]
    #19034639 - 10/26/13 08:51 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Shroomism said:Nothing is really good or bad, positive or negative until you assign a value to it, it simply is.






That's the kind of hippie shit that keeps me around. I'm sorry but I don't buy the "simply is" eastern propaganda. There is some shit in this world that is dead wrong. And none of your new age song and dance is changing that or helping anyone. :morningtoke:


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: watermelon mon] * 2
    #19034641 - 10/26/13 08:52 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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ever since my friend got a girlfriend he never wants to hang out any more he just wants to be with his stooped girl friend :rolleyes: what  a dick lol




Maybe if you started sucking your friends dick, he would come back to you.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Almond Flour]
    #19034645 - 10/26/13 08:52 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Yeah, being single sucks, especially when your friends aren't. I don't think that's gonna change and I don't think I can magically make myself be happy about something that sucks. :bitch:


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
    #19034664 - 10/26/13 08:58 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I don't know anyone that has gotten into a relationship because their parents or friends wanted them to, that's a really lame reason to be with someone.  It depends on the person, I don't see it as any type of failure though.  Relationships are tough, not everyone does well in them.


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