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danlennon3
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How to forgive yourself
#19028544 - 10/24/13 09:45 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I have done things that lead me to lose friends and have people lose respect in me... I NEVER did anything to hurt others, I never stole from people, or talked trash about people... But apparently I have done things to make people think very negatively about me. People just LOVE to point out other peoples faults, and I was the person in my group of friends that was the "burnout, stupid druggy with no future". It took until very recently where I stopped worrying so much about what other people think... But I have SO SO much difficulty forgiving myself for my mistakes. These mistakes have kept me down from moving on with my life and I carry them daily.
In a recent moment of deep introspection, I recently accepted that not everyone is going to like me and not everyone is going to see who I truly am... And I have accepted this fact to the most part. This was a GREAT moment of insight for me! But I still gotta learn how to forgive myself now. I am seriously my own worst enemy and this needs to change. So I could use some words of wisdom on the subject.
I need to live with the fact that I will NEVER be perfect, I cannot undo my past mistakes, and I will make more mistakes in the future
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Re: How to forgive yourself [Re: danlennon3]
#19028631 - 10/24/13 10:11 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Hey man, no worries. Sometimes it helps to remember that no one is perfect; it puts things in a bigger context. What I find most helpful & rewarding even is to simply acknowledge & accept myself as flawed. That is deeply humbling & reminds me to be compassionate, both to others & myself. I notice that I take better care of myself when I accept that I can no longer eat a whole pizza
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Re: How to forgive yourself [Re: danlennon3]
#19028643 - 10/24/13 10:14 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yeah... I did a lot of bad things in my time. Unforgivable things. It was very hard to cope with what I did, and people did not want to understand. I had several a schizophrenic episode, from years of taking hallucinogens.
I think time does heal wounds though
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Edited by shroomseng (10/24/13 10:14 PM)
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Re: How to forgive yourself [Re: shroomseng]
#19030160 - 10/25/13 09:17 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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No worries OP, keep calm and drink cactus juice. Or sing devotional songs, as the custom may be in your area. We all spend a lifetime learning
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For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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Re: How to forgive yourself [Re: Spacerific]
#19030262 - 10/25/13 09:50 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Cultivate self love!
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Re: How to forgive yourself [Re: danlennon3]
#19030545 - 10/25/13 11:22 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I call them The Discouragement Fraternity. Sworn to brotherhood and group spankings to the unfortunate low man on the totem pole. The only solution is to beat them at their own game, then grind it in. Don't rub it in fucking Grind It In. Don't be a Slave To Their Grind, make your own mortar and pestle. Pester them. Be the Dick they feared the worst, the one that stole their glory, and never let them forget it.
Sure it's lonely at the top, but remember how good the view really is.
This has nothing to do with forgiveness. It's all about getting even. Don't view it as something you did, view it as something done to you that needs correcting.
The only way to win at this game is to shoot for the biggest ringleader the biggest bully the biggest dick control freak that heads up whatever Discouragement Fraternity is making you miserable. Then get full on better than that asshole. Become the bigger asshole.
It's The Only Way.
Just make sure it's getting good at something you love. Otherwise, why even join the fraternity?
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liquidlounge

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The only way to win at this game is to shoot for the biggest ringleader the biggest bully the biggest dick control freak that heads up whatever Discouragement Fraternity is making you miserable. Then get full on better than that asshole. Become the bigger asshole.
And that's not you.
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LunarEclipse
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Quote:
liquidlounge said: The only way to win at this game is to shoot for the biggest ringleader the biggest bully the biggest dick control freak that heads up whatever Discouragement Fraternity is making you miserable. Then get full on better than that asshole. Become the bigger asshole.
And that's not you. 
Of course not. I'm a well adjusted, emotionally mature person.
Can't you tell?
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liquidlounge

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Inappropriate.
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Edited by liquidlounge (12/25/13 09:22 AM)
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LunarEclipse
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Quote:
liquidlounge said: Of course not. I'm a well adjusted, emotionally mature person.
Can't you tell?
You make a big fuzz out of yourself in a lot in your posts IMO. To me it seems like you would want to be such a ringleader.
In real life, I think you're insecure, what you portray online is often the opposite of what you're away from the keyboard. Am I wrong? Seeing as we're in the physical and mental well-being forum. Just a heads up.
Tell you what. Quit stalking me, and responding to my posts. I think you're a stalker. When I want to post in this forum looking for responses, it won't be from you who keeps following me around like some lost puppy dog.
Just a heads up. You made the ignore list, so really, don't bother responding!
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liquidlounge

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Just a heads up. You made the ignore list, so really, don't bother responding!
Nothing new.
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