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nicechrisman
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: itz4allofus]
#19026918 - 10/24/13 05:24 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Sounds like not a very fun reality to choose
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itz4allofus
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: nicechrisman]
#19026959 - 10/24/13 05:33 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Agreed, however, on the bright side, we still select our own rewards and punishments, Thats how soft drugs help us. We realize objectively,that our own experiences, are all there really is, and all that really matters. Now add an element of conscience. kindness and compassion, then you can find a life partner whose mind set is congruent with yours.
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HasherMcBudz
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: itz4allofus] 1
#19027012 - 10/24/13 05:45 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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No. Reason? EVERYONE IS SINGLE!
PS. This is my first post! XD
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: HasherMcBudz]
#19027066 - 10/24/13 05:58 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I have a hot female teacher in her early 40s who is single. I look down on her a tad. I can't help but ask myself what her problem is. Does she just wanna whore it up? Is she a complete bitch? Is she so progressive she needs to be an insecure overly successful single female? What does she have to prove?
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nicechrisman
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Almond Flour]
#19027069 - 10/24/13 05:59 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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What a strange way to look at it. Why do you assume she's trying to prove something to you?
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Almond Flour] 1
#19027081 - 10/24/13 06:02 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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maybe she is just a psycho crazy lunatic outside of her profession.
or maybe something happened to make her single.
why would you look down on a smokin hot teacher.. you should be hitting that man.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: nicechrisman] 1
#19027095 - 10/24/13 06:05 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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nicechrisman said: What a strange way to look at it. Why do you assume she's trying to prove something to you?
Cause she's a woman
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: rackem]
#19027096 - 10/24/13 06:05 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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nothing wrong with that. not eveeryone is cut out for the white picket fence. saulgoodman
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Sophistic Radiance
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
#19027250 - 10/24/13 06:13 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Patlal said: I was listening to a radio show with a sexologist/psychotherapist as the host and the subject was celibacy and how people feel about it.
There was a part where people were happy to be with themselves alone to get to know themselves better, etc.
Then there was the segment of unhappy single people. She brought up social pressure from friends and family to get a lover and not be the third wheel. She was also talking about being ashamed of going to parties alone and being alone in general. Then she brought up that some people see being single as a social failure and that people might be judging them or telling them not to be too picky.
What do you guys think about it?
Does being single put pressure on you? Are your family and friends on your ass asking you if you met somebody everytime you see them? Are you ashamed of being single?
Discuss
I don't see it as a failure per se, but my parents stayed together (even through some rough patches in their relationship) throughout my childhood and remain so today, so I have come to see it as the norm-- and my inability to find a suitable/adequate partner throughout my adult life has been the source of much frustration. It's not a sex thing; I've never had problems getting laid, but my libido doesn't direct me toward people I am able (or willing) to spend my life with, and vice-versa.
People aren't on my ass about it, but I do really wish I could find a good partner, and I do tend to feel isolated and even jealous when I see my friends finding their way into durable and fulfilling intimate relationships.
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HasherMcBudz
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I don't know how to make post:( I want to ask a Q
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Patlal
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: HasherMcBudz]
#19027340 - 10/24/13 06:29 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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HasherMcBudz said: I don't know how to make post:( I want to ask a Q 
You just made a new post
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
#19027367 - 10/24/13 06:34 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Patlal said:
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HasherMcBudz said: I don't know how to make post:( I want to ask a Q 
You just made a new post
I mean like make a thread. (I think)
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
#19027374 - 10/24/13 06:35 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Patlal said:
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HasherMcBudz said: I don't know how to make post:( I want to ask a Q 
You just made a new post

I like your question threads, Patlal.
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Patlal
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: HasherMcBudz]
#19027383 - 10/24/13 06:37 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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HasherMcBudz said:
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Patlal said:
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HasherMcBudz said: I don't know how to make post:( I want to ask a Q 
You just made a new post
I mean like make a thread. (I think)
There's the Getting Started forum
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: nannybooboo]
#19027423 - 10/24/13 06:43 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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nannybooboo said:
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Patlal said: Can you guys believe that I've never been to a wedding in my entire 28 years of life?
The only benchmark I have is what I see in the movies and on TV. Is that how it actually happens?
You're not really missing out on much.
I like weddings Everyone really shines at them lol Shorty
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Shortknight]
#19027425 - 10/24/13 06:44 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yes
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: koods]
#19027434 - 10/24/13 06:45 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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koods your telling me that no matter what happens in life you will not ever be single. at any one moment?
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: NotTheDevil]
#19027516 - 10/24/13 06:56 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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NotTheDevil said: Being single is only a failure if your trying not to be single and failed
This was my immediate thought as well. However, after a bit more thought, that doesn't seem entirely true either. Perhaps in a strictly literal sense, yes-- if you're trying for something, and don't succeed, you've "failed."
However, in the sense of being responsible for the "failure" not necessarily. I mean, relationships and interpersonal chemistry can be very complicated things. You can be the nicest, most agreeable person in the world, and that still doesn't mean you could work in a committed romantic relationship with just anyone.
It's got to be the right person, and even the right time.
So no-- I do not see being single as a personal failure, necessarily. However, to that I will add: if you are trying to not be single, and failing constantly / repeatedly, you might want to consider whether you're doing something wrong.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: NWlight]
#19027562 - 10/24/13 07:02 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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here is me 3 years ago:
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NWlight said: ...after the depression ended, the freedom was almost overwhelming.
bad ideas & good times, brother. i'm happy being single, so how is that possibly failure?
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
#19027611 - 10/24/13 07:07 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Patlal said: I was listening to a radio show with a sexologist/psychotherapist as the host and the subject was celibacy and how people feel about it.
There was a part where people were happy to be with themselves alone to get to know themselves better, etc.
Then there was the segment of unhappy single people. She brought up social pressure from friends and family to get a lover and not be the third wheel. She was also talking about being ashamed of going to parties alone and being alone in general. Then she brought up that some people see being single as a social failure and that people might be judging them or telling them not to be too picky.
What do you guys think about it?
Does being single put pressure on you? Are your family and friends on your ass asking you if you met somebody everytime you see them? Are you ashamed of being single?
Discuss
My parents kind of gently nag me about it, but not really - they know how I feel, I got out of a 4 year relationship about a year and a half ago, and realized I would rather be celibate and single for life.
There will be no waiting for "the right one to come along" for me - that implies that I'm willing to be vulnerable and trust again, to be intimate with what amounts to a stranger. Not gonna happen.
Unless you're into pump and dump, long term relationships I.E. marriage, and cohabitation, are a fool's errand. Odds are likely you'll end up thinking you are the exception with the traditional ideal wife and shit only to realize you are legally fucked now freshly sandwiched between an ever decreasing amount of money, freedom, and self respect and an ever increasing likelihood of child support, nagging/bitching eating away at your soul, divorce, alimony, and endless debt to pay off all the pointless diamond rings/shoes/bullshit.
Fuck relationships. Being single is tits
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